Feeling Regret....

g!ggles · #1 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

I dunno what it is lately but I've been feeling alot off regret and it's really getting to me. I'm not one to let things bother me from the past but over the past couple of weeks things have just been creeping up on me. Now that I think of it there are so many things that I would go back and do differently but can't and I think that is what is making me sad and depressed. I keep telling myself that if I can't do anything about it why dwell on it and to just move on.. but it's so hard.

Does anyone have any advice from personal experiences of overcoming regret?

decypher · #2 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

Really the only way is to get over it, just move on and leave it in the past. Try doing something constructive, hang out with some close friends, do something fun.

Carrie · #3 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

Think about the times that you've made the right decision. Maybe you were younger before and some of the things you have done weren't the right thing to do, but I'm sure there are lots of things that you're happy with.

You wouldn't be where you are now without your past. Accept it for making you stronger and smarter !

Enjoy life instead of regreting it.

g!ggles · #4 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

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Originally Posted by Carrie

Think about the times that you've made the right decision. Maybe you were younger before and some of the things you have done weren't the right thing to do, but I'm sure there are lots of things that you're happy with.

You wouldn't be where you are now without your past. Accept it for making you stronger and smarter !

Enjoy life instead of regreting it.

*heehee* you've definetly been a big part in making me stronger and smarter too!! it must have been all those "get happy or I'll kick your ass" talks that we've had!! *lol* :220:

Carrie · #5 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

don't worry be happy

veN · #6 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

Regret nothing. What you do makes you who you are. Those experiences - good or bad - are invaluable... And at the very least I hope you learned something from them. All of them.

g!ggles · #7 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

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Originally Posted by Nev

Regret nothing. What you do makes you who you are. Those experiences - good or bad - are invaluable... And at the very least I hope you learned something from them. All of them.

yesh, I've most definetly learned alot and it's so awesome that I have amazing friends to help me through it! It's makes a big difference. I think that alot of this comes from me being so over tired and drained that my brain just doesn't know what to do with itself.

veN · #8 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

^ Been there! Good luck honey <3

Chewy · #9 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

why not do something that makes you feel worth while.. something that helps another person. Do something that you will not feel regret to later. Everything you have done, youhave done for a reason.. and if you did it differently who knows what might have come of it? U could be in a worse situation than u are now.. Everybody has there ups and downs during there lives, what u do next and how u do it will determine if you move on to the next up part of your life or stay down .... The choice is yours > red pill or blue pill?

baby-phat · #10 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

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Originally Posted by Nev

Regret nothing. What you do makes you who you are. Those experiences - good or bad - are invaluable... And at the very least I hope you learned something from them. All of them.

Exactly. There's some things in my past that sometimes I wish I had never done (like meth for instance), but I can honestly say that I don't regret it. Which may sound bad, but in my opinion if I had never done it I would have never become the person I am today. And damnit, I love the person I am and am happy being who I am.

Prissypants · #11 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

I change names and leave town.

crackdragon · #12 (**permalink**) Sep 22, 05

look back, analyze, adapt, move on.. something like that

g!ggles · #13 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 05

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Originally Posted by Prissypants

I change names and leave town.

*heehee* thanks!! I'll keep that in mind:silly:

sidekick · #14 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 05

i think it really depends on what you're regretting.

if you're regretting a decision that can't be changed at all and is over and done with then yes, i agree with everyone in that you should just move forward with life instead of living in past mistakes. it's been said before, but learn from your mistakes...they make you a stronger person in the future.

if it's something you CAN change...let's say like you had a fight with a friend and said somethings that you didn't mean...well you should go and apologize. it sucks to be the first one to break the ice and say sorry after a fight or a bad decision, but it shows a lot of character and can really pay off.

g!ggles · #15 (**permalink**) Sep 23, 05

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Originally Posted by Sidekick

i think it really depends on what you're regretting.

if you're regretting a decision that can't be changed at all and is over and done with then yes, i agree with everyone in that you should just move forward with life instead of living in past mistakes. it's been said before, but learn from your mistakes...they make you a stronger person in the future.

if it's something you CAN change...let's say like you had a fight with a friend and said somethings that you didn't mean...well you should go and apologize. it sucks to be the first one to break the ice and say sorry after a fight or a bad decision, but it shows a lot of character and can really pay off.

Thank you kindly:) I totally 100% agree. However the hard part about all that is knowing that I know what is right but my mind tells me one thing and then I do another. I am the type of person to be the first to apologize for anytihng that I do. Surprisingly enough I had a long talk with myself last night and I realized how I can make things better.

Now it's just testing myself if I can actually overcome this obstacle..... and i know that I can!