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May 17, 06
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People who don't talk about their feelings
This is so frustrating.
Whether it's a friend or someone I'm in a relationship with, nothing gets under my skin more than having to guess. Well, OK maybe not "nothing" but it sure is frustrating. So, for those of you who are closed books, open up a little! Let me read your stories or I'll get bored of trying to pry you open...it's exhausting! 
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As one of those People I will say that we will share what we want to share about when we want to share it. You don't have to guess... just say "Are you sad?" If they say yes... then leave it alone or take them for Ice Cream. Everyone loves Ice Cream when they're sad. If they don't share a reason, just respect that they deal with their emotions differently than you.
There's about three People in my Life that I do talk about my feelings with and I still think that is almost three too many.
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Oh Natty, my little open book buddy...don't fret friend. Sometimes it can feel like your talking to a wall, but some people just need a little time to feel trust and open up. Other''s just don't feel the need to say much and give us vauge, unabstract language or responses.
Patience is hard to aquire sometimes, and can be extremley frustrating.. less may me more to some but for me more is more ahaha, depends on the situation really, and the person. but yes, having to conduct conversation isn't fun for anyone..we'd wish everything in life could just be natural, enjoyable and easy but nope, s'all work. Feel your irritation. <3
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Hahah guys talk (actually yell) about their feelings all the time. It just happens to be in traffic when it's really hot out! $#)*)$ damn mother#$#$(*ers move your Go$#damn Fu34$$#cking cars!!! Always makes me feel better :)
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I hate it when people think I know what they're feeling without telling me.....If someone is gonna be a dork and not directly say something to me then I honestly wont think anything at all...I'll just stop caring....it's not nessesarily what I want to do...but I cant stand playing little head games like that..I have little tolerance
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it is also stressful...could get things solved so much quicker with just a few details.
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i think what is stressful is when people bitch and complain all the time
so listening to those people who bitch and complain about people who dont show their feelings cause stress lol but really, maybe these "closed book" people just dont wanna talk about it, period. maybe they just dont wanna talk about it to with you. my lady tells me i dont talk about my feelings. but that is very untrue. i don't talk about them when i am upset. i need to cool down and think things through first. then i talk. in conclusion, you just have to keep it real bitches
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There are some people who I am very close with who show their feelings through actions rather than verbalizing them, which is fine! But when you can't see that person for them to SHOW you, sometimes it just needs to be said. It's just hard to have to guess because you know that if you were there in person everything would be soooo soooo clear!
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The post wasn't about fighting, though! It was just general!
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^ heh heh I know you don't mean every little thing... but sometimes it may seem little to you but not to them.
Like they say, 90% of Human Communication is Non-Verbal. That's why it's always best to work out problems in person. Eff the Internet for that shit. I still say Ice Cream is a good idea.
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if i say i dont want to talk, then respect that and let it be. nothing annoys me more than someone trying to figure me out constantly and telling me to let them know "whats up" pissssss offfffffffff.
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HAHA
You guys are so funny. I just meant like, if you want to say something, just say how you feel, don't throw out little hints and expect me to assume. If you wanna hang out, say "I wanna hang out" or if you miss me, say "I miss you", you know?! riiiiiiight?
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I miss you. :)
Happy? lol
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don't attempt to communicate with me in morse code or something equally as stupid. but again, if it is obvious i need my space... bloody let me have it!
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May 18, 06
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i honestly don't have enough time for people who hold back what they want to say.....
especially when it seems like they are being a certain way around me, cause its how they think i want them to be. i kinda feel sorry for them, but i also hope they eventually come into their own... .dalyn.
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My girlfriend is a quiet person, doesn't talk much and never uses the internet (she got a hotmail account once and it expired like two or three times since she got it). She's also the one person outside of my family that I've had the most effective communication with. What I find annoying are people who can't appreciate a moment of silence. Ever read Palahniuk's Lullaby? These noiseaholics. These quietophobics.
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