gf giving me or e ultimatium

frontline · #1 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

i told my gf that im going to apex...she knows i went to raves before....she knows ive done e before...she says well if you go and do e were over.
then it escalated into a huge fukkin fight
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :finger:

:finger:

**sNyx** · #2 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

thats a tuffy man, I know some buddies in the same situation. on one hand you dont wanna lose your bird, we all like a little beak. but the other hand is it really fare for her to ask this of you? its not the matter of if you do e, rather if you do e against her wishes.

down to the wire its your choice, personally my choices are my choices and not the choices of others. :)

No trace · #3 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

shitty,
just tell her you didnt do e... meh
totally not fair of her to ask you to choose, the drugs you choose to do are a part of who you are. and if she knew that you did them before you two got together, she knew what was coming...
do what you want ma man not what she wants

frontline · #4 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

yah man...it goes farther...she doesn't drink smoke pot or anything...so she isn't very educated bout drugs...i say if your gonna do em..at least know what they do to you....she just says whatever she hears...and its not the question....but that she is trying to take that choice...you nailed that one :toasted:

PHUNK · #5 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

she sounds like a good girl.

grow the fuck up and stop doing drugs, keep her.

c.tard · #6 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

^^ well maybe try to educate her then. just a thought. if she doesn't know much about any drugs, tell her! show her sites she can look at, maybe then she'll be a little less reluctant about it if she knows more about the actual drug itself, rather than just what's on commercials, and other peoples mouths. doesn't mean she'll like it anymore, she could find it even worse. but if she wants a drug free bf, then that's her choice. it's not right to lie to her about it.

she's got a good thing going for her (no drugs) and it's hard to watch someone put themselves through that. i grew up with that shit, no fun.

Rhianna · #7 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

I can see where she's coming from. It sucks to watch someone you care about waste their brain on crap like E. You're gonna do what you want but she's the smart one. E is nothin but trouble.

Is E really worth her?

Magi · #8 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by PHUNK
she sounds like a good girl.

grow the fuck up and stop doing drugs, keep her.

mugsy · #9 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

a girl or boy or significant other should never influence your decisions.... you make your own, its why we grow up
i agree, drugs are bad, not saying i dont do them but props to your woman for not doing them.
make your own choice, she is just a girlfriend, maybe a really specail and amazing one, but are yah gonna marry her? is she your wife?

**sNyx** · #10 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by PHUNK
she sounds like a good girl.

grow the fuck up and stop doing drugs, keep her.

thats a little harsh, no? also totally one sided. stop reading comic books, grow the fuck up and read the newspaper.

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Originally posted by Rhianna
I can see where she's coming from. It sucks to watch someone you care about waste their brain on crap like E. You're gonna do what you want but she's the smart one. E is nothin but trouble.

Is E really worth her?

hahaha, this post made me laugh. really.. is E WORTH her? *snicker*

Rhianna · #11 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

Look the best part is I'm so drunk that tomorrw I wont remeber posting.

rawb · #12 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by mugsy
a girl or boy or significant other should never influence your decisions.... you make your own, its why we grow up
i agree, drugs are bad, not saying i dont do them but props to your woman for not doing them.
make your own choice, she is just a girlfriend, maybe a really specail and amazing one, but are yah gonna marry her? is she your wife?

my significant other influences a lot of my decisions. i think what you mean is that they shouldn't make your decisions for you. there is a lot of give and take in a relationship and you have to realize that you doing e makes her uncomfortable, which is a perfectly valid feeling.

of course you're not getting married tomorrow but im from the school of thought that if you're going to be serious about a relationship then you should put all of your effort into it as long as it's still viable. if she's a keeper you should hang on to her, because nothing hurts more than later in life regretting giving up a really cool girl just to do e.

**sNyx** · #13 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by Rhianna
Look the best part is I'm so drunk that tomorrw I wont remeber posting.

b00 where is the defend? you bore me to sleep..

mugsy · #14 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

true enough a relationship is give or take, but a significant other doesnt define me, thats when you know you got a keep when they let you be you and accept you for you. they dont ask for changes of lifestyle, and they dont say "its me or it"
that just seems wrong. of course you should take into consideration their feelings, thats what being compassionate and caring is all about. i would never think about giving an ultimatum, cause if i could then obviously i dont truely want to be with the person.
if youre in a serious reasltionship then you should be accepting the person for who they are, and not be trying to change that.

PHUNK · #15 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by snyx™

thats a little harsh, no? also totally one sided. stop reading comic books, grow the fuck up and read the newspaper.

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harsh? how do you figure? if someone is still stupid enough to even consider loosing a gf over a stupid techno rave party and some drugs, then they really do need to grow the fuck up.

and one sided?? wtf. its simple. do the e, lose the girl. seems pretty easy to understand both sides there you idiot.

Anjew · #16 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

put E in her drink and take her to apex.

rawb · #17 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

yeah an ultimatum is pretty harsh, unless i had exhausted all other forms of bargaining i wouldnt do that.

Prissypants · #18 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

hmmm....I think it also depends on how much you do the drug...If it is having a detrimental effect on your life then I would totally side with your girlfriend on this one. If, on the other hand, it is something you do only once every 6 months or so then it really has nothing to do with her and you should tell her that.

I feel for you, I have been in a similar situation a few times. It boils down to control and whether you want to let yourself be controlled or not. And for something that doesn't directly, or even indirectly affect the other person, they can offer their opinion but they should not be angry at you for doing things which only concern YOU. If she pulls that crap you could be immature and find something that she really likes doing and tell her you don't want her doing it because it makes you feel uncomfortable and see how she reacts.

inkster · #19 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

i used to be like this. i'm definately not like this now.

my signifigant other educated me at the time, and i eventually shrugged off my pre-concieved notions. a recreational drug user, i became, and here i am. now.

so try the educational approach. it'll be *really* hard to make any headway at first since you're dealing with (her age here) years of drug propoganda implanted in her brain. not to mention all the extremely visible negative effects of drugs (crazy uncles, lower east side).

if you get stuck, ask her if she'd rather you drink. if so, go with the "booze is a drug too!" angle. hopefully she'll get the idea about how subjective drug policy is.

good luck. you're going to need it. i know what i was like...

inkster · #20 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by PHUNK

harsh? how do you figure? if someone is still stupid enough to even consider loosing a gf over a stupid techno rave party and some drugs, then they really do need to grow the fuck up.

considering that most of us on this board have an extensive amount of their life tied up in the rave scene, i don't think many of us would consider dropping it for some chick. personally, most of my friends derive from it, my favourite music is at the center of the whole thing, and i happen to like to dance. i also love the fleeting moments of anarchy that raves supply. i can't imagine giving up such things just for some stupid bitch that has to have things her way.

then again, if i were married to her. i'd reconsider. but if she's some girl i've only been going out with for a few months, no.

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and one sided?? wtf. its simple. do the e, lose the girl. seems pretty easy to understand both sides there you idiot.

i think that's exactly what he meant. by dismissing the alternative (keep e lose girl) outright, your argument is extremely one-sided. though, arguments usually are, this probably reflects back on your values of personal choice.

ppcock · #21 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by No trace
shitty,
just tell her you didnt do e... meh
totally not fair of her to ask you to choose, the drugs you choose to do are a part of who you are. and if she knew that you did them before you two got together, she knew what was coming...
do what you want ma man not what she wants

oh yeah, that'll totally work

espicially when he comes home on sunday.... sees her and he's totally sketched out. Unless she's blind (or stupid) she'll see right through him and it'll be over.

If you ask me, Drugs only last a few hours.. a relationship can last a lifetime.

Do what makes you MORE happy.

stringbeans · #22 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

thats fucking stupid.. just dont do it! its not that hard.. i havent done it in 2 years and if i never got to do it again i wouldnt really be disappointed

there are substitutes too... like if you take a low dosage of mush (1-2 grams) it feels a lot like e... anyways

john
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**MC Hammered** · #23 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

If you choose drugs over a relationship then one should seriously take a look at what they are doing with their lives.

**MC Hammered** · #24 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by Anjew
put E in her drink and take her to apex.

Now just how bad is this suggestion?

SEAN! · #25 (**permalink**) Jul 18, 03

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Originally posted by jar
i told my gf that im going to apex...she knows i went to raves before....she knows ive done e before...she says well if you go and do e were over.
then it escalated into a huge fukkin fight
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :finger: :finger:

yo man what you do in a situation like this one is you take her to the rave. then at the rave you make sure she does drugs with you. make her a little junkie raver too..itll be fuckin dope.

if you corrupt this good girl then total mufuckin props to you.