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Dec 07, 03
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Boyfriends and Stripclubs
GOTTA QUESTION FOR YOU LADIES OUT THERE..... If your boyfriend is invited to go to a stripclub with all of his guyfriends for his birthday celebration and you know that all the other girlfriends involved with the guys have all been told that they are absolutely not allowed to come (this includes you) do you think you have a right to feel upset and/or threatened by this news?
(Note that you have been let know by inside sources that he will be receiving lapdances and he will be VERY VERY drunk.) I told my boyfriend that I would be more cool with it if I were there to join in the festivities but the fact that I know his friends and I know how they treat their girlfriends has me worried that I'm going to hear about some very nasty goings-on after tonight. He doesn't understand why I feel the way I do (jealous and upset) and thinks I should be cool with it. But he also gets jealous and mad at me if I talk to other guys at the bar or dance with girls (and I don't even bump & grind) It seems he is setting a double standard and I just want to know what you other ladies think.....and you guys as well. 
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I know exactly where your coming from. Guys are dumb. Pure and simple, they don't understand how we feel about it "it's not like i get to touch them" blah blah blah. The point is, is that there looking at other women, and that's really disturbing. People always tell me "it's not a big deal" maybe it's not a big deal to them, but it is to me, and he should respect that.
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"It's not like I get to touch them"
"I have only eyes for you" "I'll say no to the lapdance" Three things he said to me last night......I kinda laffed cuz first off.....a lot of strippers will let guys touch them especially if it's a special occasion type deal (which it is) secondly if he has eyes only for me then he wouldn't be going to look at other girls getting nekkid and thirdly what guy in their right mind would say no to a free personal lapdance for his birthday?! And miss. myra I agree fully with you too....who's to say that I won't enjoy the festivities as well.......I don't wanna go there to keep an eye on my guy I wanna go there to celebrate his birthday with him....I just don't understand why (if he's not gonna be doing nasty things with other girls) it's such a big deal for me and the other girls to come along unless they don't want us girls getting all the attention from the strippers and the other guys in the stripclub .......I mean if he needs to watch a strip show that badly he has only to ask me :kam:
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Meh, I wouldn't give a shit. Like Myra was saying, the only reason I might be dissapointed about him going and not me is that I would miss out on a lapdance and watching nekkid girls.
Going to see strippers is close to the same deal as looking at dirty magazines, if you can look at it that way. It's not like they look at those girls as potential girlfriends, they just want to have a good time and something including dancing naked women is good times.
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I trust him and he knows I trust him but that's not the issue though....it's the fact that us "girlfriends" are forbidden to this party of theirs which has all of us and not just me a little on edge about it. I mean it wouldn't be as big of a deal if they were going out and we could come if we wanted to because then we could be out having fun with our boyfriends and nekkid girls too.....It's just that we are forbidden to come. Oh and they might not be just doing the stripclub....there's a hotel room in plan for afterwards too which us girls aren't allowed to come to either so we're a little extra on edge about that too.
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ok hotel room after strip cl;ub, I can undestand why that would get you a little worried. But as for you girls not being allowed to come, what's wrong with them wanting to just be with the guys. I'm sure you and your girlfriends have boyfriend forbidden activities, I know me and my g/f's sometimes do. It doesnt always mean they ahve something up their sleeves, maybe his budddies do but if you trust him then you shouldn't be on edge.
If you have any doubts about him going, even if his friends secretly have hookers planned for him at the hotel room or some other activity of the sort that they don't want g/f's to know about, then you obviously don't trust him enough. Because if he's as honest and trustworthy as you tell yourself and others that he is, then there shouldn't be a problem.
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honestly, who gives a shit?
it's a fucking strip club with the boys. if you guys are really feeling that insecure and left out, why don't you guys suggest meeting up with them later on that evening at a club or a bar. because lets be honest, strip clubs get rather boring after awhile, and they would most likely welcome the change in venue later on that evening.
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They're probably just going to have a gay orgy at the hotel... don't worry about it.
Seriously, though, let him have his guys night out. His friends want to take him out to the strip club and who knows what else. It's understandable that they might want to do this without their girlfriends around... it will allow them to have a good time without having to worry about saying something stupid in front of you or otherwise pissing you off.
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oh my.. i once had a boyfriend cheat on me with a stripper....
yet now if a bf of mine were to go to a strip joint i wouldnt care.. its called trusting the person, and if i cant have the simple trust in a man that when he goes out with the guys hes not gonna bring home another girl then im not going to be with him. just like i would want the same trust inreturn.. if i was going out for an all ladies night, no boys allowed, to a club or male strip joint and then after wards to a hotel room i would expect him to know that nothing bad would happen. maybe im just too trusting, but i dont see a problem with the boys having their own night. and its a strip joint, does your guy really have alot of respect for the girls that get naked infront of hundreds of different men (im not insulting strippers, i just cant invision myself having self respect after that)? no he just likes to look at them, and im sure you like to look at the passing hot guy on the street and you invision what his butt looks like outside of those jeans. its human nature.... let him be a guy. if you have these insecurities and you feel nervous about an all guys night, you need to sit and think about your relationship. its ok to be jealous, thats an honest feeling.. but you shouldnt be thinking of telling him not to go.
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are they super girls or something? they are much easier to fuck then other girls actually. and yeah, if you trust him, there should be no reason to be upset. some guys get a kick out of going to those clubs. why don't you go out with a bunch of your girlfriends and party. then you won't think about him out.
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I think the general point here is that you may not trust him as much as you are telling us you do.
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oh ya....i think i would be a little pissed off about the whole situation....but thats just me....guys do stupid shit all the time....so u kinda just gotta let em....but there is a line...and i think hes standing on a fine one......going to a hotel after? riiiiiight.......doesnt sound the least bit suspicious at all.....( i dont trust guys....or stippers for that matter!) ;-)
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If I was an insecure chick, then yes it would be an issue.
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going to a hotel room with a bunch of his guy friends...what exactly can happen? Er...unless you are worried about them ganging a stripper...it'll probably just be getting drunk and playing video games...Let the guy go out and enjoy himself without giving him grief about it...
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nope, I would say go for it.
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