unreliable guys

Originally Posted by ~*goddessa*~

okay,avana...youre right this is indeed a msg forum,so with you saying its not acceptable and in poor taste to post about personal shit etc then does that mean on a msg forum such as this that we are only allowed or capable of posting mindless tripe that at the end of that day means fuck all?Why cant she post about shit like this?Even if it is a personal attack against a guy,hes a fucking bastard and should be treated accordingly.

Any shmuck that sticks his dick in a woman,busts his nut and is unwilling to deal with what the outcome may be is a fucking shmuck and deserves to be publicly humiliated and have his name dragged through the mud.

Her doing this doesnt reflect poorly on her ,shes hurt and has every fucking right to be.Show compassion and quit handing me this bullshit that "oh im on the kids side" if you were on the kids side youd be saying exactly what the mothers saying about the goof because guaranteed when the kids are old enough to put 2 and 2 together theyre going to be saying the same fucking thing as thier mother.

And newsflash,child support doesnt father a child it just helps pay the bills...whatever few measily dollars you can squeeze out of the bastard that is...if any at all.

It takes a village to raise a child,start being a part of that village and show some compassion for her and quit dehumanizing the situation and just perpetuating the actions of the sunofabitch that fucked off.And missy chrissy,you should be ashamed.Shes a MOTHER,single or not SHES A MOTHER.Give respect where its due because it could have easily been you in this situation and lets not forget that life has a funny way of throwing you curve balls,so down the road this could easily be you in the exact same situation.

Godessa, I think you missed my point....

I would have compassion for her situation, if she was doing something about it. Instead, we get this melo-dramatic attack on some guy who posts once in a blue moon in hopes that this is going to bring him around?! GIVE ME A FUCKING BREAK!?!?!?!

Family court was designed for this very thing. To urge the other parent who does not have sole-custody to pay child-support. If the father is unsafe, the courts can impose no visitation, or supervised visitation. If the father chooses to not pay support, his wages can be garnished, his license taken away, or the courts can go as far as to arrest him. So lets see, the half-assed attack on FNK, or the legal way?!

I am the by-product of a single parent family. My mother never ever EVER
used being a single parent as a weapon. If she was broke, she never phoned her creditors and said, give me a break, I am a single mother. She went without for me more times than I can remember. She never played the victim with her single mother status like poohbearhoney is. I am a well rounded, well adjusted individual and I have been raised for my entire life without my father in the picture. My mother took on both roles, and did what she could, with what she had. What I am saying, is maybe she should try looking at the glass half full instead of half empty and turn her negative situation into a positive one.

And once again, I hold true to what I said, there are 3 sides to every story. We haven't heard his....for all we know, she could be denying him visitation.

PS - I find it hard to take seriously what you are saying, when you are the one that openly admits to smoking while pregnant.

[Ree Fresh]

No matter how stupid you think she is shes still a person. No its not right for her to drop names, but like so many others shes venting out a very hard situation. At least let her start here so we can give her advice like telling her to take it to court, go see social services etc.

Ive seen alot of smart girls fall for dumb ass guys as well... its shocking how love can blind us. I've known of well off rich girls with intellagent families getting knocked up in their early teens.

Marrige doesnt even promis responsible parents. One mom I knew quit half way through nursing school to get married and have 3 kids. She worked part time and raised her kids as her husband finished to become a layer. A few years after he graduated and got a job he divoreced her and left the family. She couldnt claim a penny of child suport because he was a layer and there was some ruling that alowed him to get around it. She did'nt have the money or time to go back to school either.


It doesnt matter who you are, how stuipid you are, what mistakes youve made... both parents should take on 50-50 responsibility for the kids.

ps: much respect to you guys who take on responsibility of their un planed kids, love them, and take good care of them :)

[FeelGood]

Maury Maury Maury Maury !

[PwInCeSs]

Originally Posted by tiedye

^^

you're just being hypocritical anyways. "I'm horribly sick" is a lot different than "I fuck multiple guys without BIRTH control, and get pissed off when I have babies". Everyone's entitled to their own opinons.. hers just happens to be outnumbered.

I dont know if she was on birth control or not, but YOU CAN GET PREGNANT ON IT!
I did, and no its not cause i missed a pill or 2
I was on the shot, and didnt miss taking a new one or anything like that

Not saying thats her case
Just saying it is possible

[miSsy_chriSsy]

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

No matter how stupid you think she is shes still a person. No its not right for her to drop names, but like so many others shes venting out a very had situation. At least let her start here and we can give her advice like telling her to take it to court, go see social services etc.

Ive seen alot of smart girls fall for dumb ass guys as well... its shocking how 'love' can blind us. Ive know of well off rich girls with intelegent families getting knocked up in their early teens too.

Marrage doesnt even promis responsible parents. One mom I knew quit half way through nursing school to get married and have 3 kids. She worked part time and raised her kids as her husband finished to become a layer. A few years after he graduated and got a job he divoreced her and left the family. She couldnt claim a penny of child suport because he was a layer and there was some ruling that alowed him to get around it. she didnt have the money or time to go back to school either.


It doesnt matter who you are, how stuipid you are, what mistakes youve made... both parents should take on 50-50 responsibility for the kids.

ps: must respect to you guys who take on responsibility of their un planed kids, love them, and take good care of them :)

And you teach children with this kind of spelling???

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Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

and you teach children with that spelling????

LOL your joking?

You pick my one weakness (besides grammer) that has nothing to do with the topic? Are you trying to make a point?

ps: keep going back... working on corrections

[tiedye]

darn.. I was about to say "grammar just committed suicide" and then she goes and points out her own flaw...

[miSsy_chriSsy]

No actually I've wanted to say it a bunch of times.

[tiedye]

indeed





and I'm post-whoring so I can get another star.. they're shiny.

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Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

No actually I've wanted to say it a bunch of times.

I guess you have no idea about what I do and why I do it. We were all born with a weakness and a gift... my challenge has always been spelling and grammar. Ive probly worked 10X harder in that area then you ever have.
I work with kids who have special needs. Becuase of my struggle I know what its like and can work much better with kids than those who find spelling easy.

As for getting my teaching degree ill probly have to go through the silvan learning centre and work even harder when it comes to english classes. Something most ppl give up on.

PS: I was hired by one of my collage teachers and given one of the best reffernce letters ive ever receive stating my excelent work done in a highschool learning centre to help kids in regular grade 8-12 Science, SS, Math, and English.

PPS: You think I havnt bothered Myles about getting spell check on fnk?

[miSsy_chriSsy]

www.dictionary.com

<3

[tiedye]

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

PPS: You think I havnt bothered Myles about getting spell check on fnk?

but then who would we make fun of? if not poor spellers than who else? WHO?

I think if snyx acts on everyone's suggestions, FNK will make my morning coffee and wipe my ass for me soon.

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

No matter how stupid you think she is shes still a person. No its not right for her to drop names, but like so many others shes venting out a very hard situation. At least let her start here so we can give her advice like telling her to take it to court, go see social services etc.

Ive seen alot of smart girls fall for dumb ass guys as well... its shocking how love can blind us. I've known of well off rich girls with intellagent families getting knocked up in their early teens.

ps: much respect to you guys who take on responsibility of their un planed kids, love them, and take good care of them :)

Rhia, I never said this girl was stupid. I get tired of hearing women use the "single mother" angle. No wonder women are viewed as weak, many of the play the victim where they can.

This girl needs to step up and take some responsibility.

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

And you teach children with this kind of spelling???

Chrissy, play nice. I have to admit it is the most admirable thing to step up in front of kids and teach them considering her challenge.

I know what I put my teachers through in school, and for those that didn't actually have a nervous breakdown as a result of me being in their class, I commend them. Imagine standing in front of those kids that are doing their best to make you cry. Sneering, disrespectful, insolent, rude, and just down right little fuckers.

Bravo to you Rhia!

ps - you think I am difficult and bitchy now? I have seriously mellowed since high school.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

And you teach children with this kind of spelling???

You're going to raise a child with your attitude?

Rhia is amazing at her job - maybe she could give you a hand with staying FOCUSED on the topic at hand.

As for your comment in karma about yours being a "planned pregnancy", so was poohbearhoney's second. So you're being a hypocrite. Your boyfriend could leave you just as easily as hers did, and you'd be in almost the same situation.

Avana, I agree that she should do something about it, but she's entitled to feel like shit and be weak for at least a little while. Can you honestly tell me that you wouldn't fell like hell if this happened to you? I'm sure that she's strong and positive when she's around her kids - she probably has just used fnk as somewhere to vent, and yeah, maybe get some sympathy, because honestly, maybe that's what she needs to find her inner-strength?

[Ree Fresh]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

www.dictionary.com

<3

On my home page *rolls eyes*

You think this is some kind of joke? Wach your ignorance... 20% of our poulation is born with a Learning disability (learning differnece)

My struggle to spell and memorise things in wrod format is like trying to make a person who needs glasses read tiny fine print with out them. Ive struggled enough since kindergarden and still work my ass off to do my best.

Ive come a long way (compare my post now to 5 years ago) and don't think it's fair of you to point out type-os and minor missed spelled words. Only Nat does that and even she has the compation to give me a break :p

[veN]

Rhia darling, I applaud you.

Every time someone shoots you down, you come back with more composure and grace than your bullies could ever demonstrate. You don't need anyone to go to bat for you, although you know many of us who love and admire you would. <3

[mojo]

beat me to it there Nev.

Rhia you inspire me.

:)

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Originally Posted by Avana

Rhia, I never said this girl was stupid. I get tired of hearing women use the "single mother" angle. No wonder women are viewed as weak, many of the play the victim where they can.

This girl needs to step up and take some responsibility.

You know what... I can totaly agree with you on women using the 'single mother angle' because I see some women just wine about it too much. I think some women even scare men away or use their kids as power. Im somtimes surprised some parents like my dad actualy fought so hard to maintain custody of me.

Im not looking at this post in a personal manor becuase we dont have a second story... All I realy have to say is parents should take 50-50 responsibility including both ppl and no blaming. Although I still think there are guys out there who still dont see passed sex and realise what there dealing with if their partner was to get pregnant. I dont like how some take advantage that there not the ones giving birth and run away.

Furthermore ppl really need to learn how to solve problems... like seriously?

Originally Posted by galaxie

You're going to raise a child with your attitude?

Rhia is amazing at her job - maybe she could give you a hand with staying FOCUSED on the topic at hand.

As for your comment in karma about yours being a "planned pregnancy", so was poohbearhoney's second. So you're being a hypocrite. Your boyfriend could leave you just as easily as hers did, and you'd be in almost the same situation.

Avana, I agree that she should do something about it, but she's entitled to feel like shit and be weak for at least a little while. Can you honestly tell me that you wouldn't fell like hell if this happened to you? I'm sure that she's strong and positive when she's around her kids - she probably has just used fnk as somewhere to vent, and yeah, maybe get some sympathy, because honestly, maybe that's what she needs to find her inner-strength?

Natalie, I agree, I am the most unsympathetic, unempathetic person you will ever meet. But then, I don't believe people should air their laundry on FNK. I don't do it. I understand that this girl may have a time of need, but why not seek solace in her mother, or her friends, a sister or a brother. Why from a bunch of strangers on a message board? I think it is a poor cry for attention and a weak attempt at slagging her ex.

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^ ppl post personal stuff on here all the time though? This is in the Heart to Heart section. I certanly dont agree she should be droping names... but I see nothing wrong with her venting her situation. Sometimes ppl are left alone or dont have others to vent too... Im sure her story has also opened alot of our eyes to situations like this as well.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Avana

Natalie, I agree, I am the most unsympathetic, unempathetic person you will ever meet. But then, I don't believe people should air their laundry on FNK. I don't do it. I understand that this girl may have a time of need, but why not seek solace in her mother, or her friends, a sister or a brother. Why from a bunch of strangers on a message board? I think it is a poor cry for attention and a weak attempt at slagging her ex.

I guess there are just some times when you need to hear anonymous people comfort you, y'know? People who know you and care about you are most likely going to tell you what you want to hear "everything's going to be OK" etc.. Maybe it was a good thing for her to hear some of these people slagging her...maybe it will strengthen her? Who knows. I just think that yes, she probably shouldn't have posted this, but since she did we should maybe provide her with some advice instead of trash talking her. I mean, really, she definitely sounds like she needs a little advice, no? I'd be feeling pretty lost, too, if I were her - and I'm one damn strong woman.

Seriously Nat, I agree I would be lost too. But I wouldn't let it control me, I would fight for my children, and I wouldn't post about it on a board. Whether I needed comfort or not. This is just not the place for that kind of comfort. Maybe it is just me and I can't wrap my head around it....

And for the record, I never trashed talked her, just gave my opinion straight up, no matter how harsh it was....

ps - the two jokes I did make, were in poor taste, and not necessarily directed at her, but at all of these situations in general.

[galaxie]

I didn't mean that you trash talked her, that was directed at those in the thread who did :)

Originally Posted by galaxie

I didn't mean that you trash talked her, that was directed at those in the thread who did :)

No, there were some harsh insults, but still, she has to expect it on FNK.