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Oct 23, 06
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I made the very best female friendship of my life in the last cpl of years, after we'd grown up and become very comfortable with ourselves. I think you just need to find the right kind of girls and the right reasons to be friends. Sometimes that just takes a while.
I had always found it easier to befriend boys. They are (usually) less emotional, straight forward, and very loyal. However, I have also had my run of boys who I thought were great friends until I became otherwise romatically involved with someone else, and then their true colours were apparent. So, neither friendships with guys nor girls are impervious to complications such as dishonesty, ulterior motives and slander. Unfortunately :/ 
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Oct 23, 06
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Part of the exact reason why the statement itself bothers me.
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I could even tell you examples of horrible and saddening times where girls have turned on me for no good reason. Finally, I've met some girlfriends that are really great (and who I trust entirely) *LUUV UUU!! It's taken me years to find em though! Girls that get along better with guys, really have their good reasons and examples of why they are cautious of other girls. Believe me, I've got stories. And recently, I learned that it doesn't even matter if you're a 33 year old women, they can still be crazy bitches. But honestly, guys just rock!
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Oct 23, 06
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I find alot of girls who befriend alot of guys are very flirtacious, and befriend akward guys they know will never work up enough courage to make a move. Whether this action is sub concious ornot, the results are the same. Girlacts flirty and pays attention to the guy. Guy falls in love but never makesamove. Guy is loyal because he's obsessed,and bends over backwards for girl.Girl walks all over guy. Girl has no intention of anything intimate with guy, and acts oblivious to thewhole situation. It goes both ways also...
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Oct 23, 06
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... guy still stays... girl falls head over heals crazy in love for new guy... new guy says he'll never love her because of how she breaks everyones heart... girl goes back to loyal guy and continues "loving" him... Thats the vicious cycle I've seen... its never fun
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Oct 23, 06
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the guy that a girl knows she can manipulate to do whatever she wants. she toys with him the way she would a puppet, and derives great pleasure from it, at an unconcious level. girls are fucking evil.
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Oct 23, 06
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edit for alex:
so you're saying any guy a girl befriends is a totaly looser and ugly? cum now.. i have lots of very attractive male friends. they dont bend over backwards for me. they're just there with the right type of support, advice and caring. Alot of them are even in romantic situations of their own.
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Oct 23, 06
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Male or Female, there's people I get along with, and people I can't stand. People who have fucked me over, and people who I can tell anything to. Their sex doesn't really have anything to do with their personalities.
Male or Female, I think both sexes can be extremely catty and mean. Male or Female, if I like you, I like you. If I don't. I don't.
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Oct 23, 06
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I agree with the girls though... My best friend has been my best friend since we were 12... we had a 3 year relationship with eachother which didn't end up in a mutual break up... It took him a long time to trust women again. But through it all, we stayed friends, he's coming out here for a visit in 2 weeks...
A very good friend of mine has been there for me since the beginning of highschool. But he's gay... not jump up in the air and clap gay... but gay enough. He's always been there whenever I needed him... and I've been there for him during the rough times as well.. hell, we even lived together for a while. Now, its not a matter of being a tom boy (I bowl, play baseball) or being able to communicate with them (A dirty joke, a really good burn on some friend there...farting...etc...once in a while won't kill you) But why the hell would I want to sensor myself around someone (USUALLY a girl) when it comes to explaining what the "Angry Pirate" or the "Houdini" is... how it comes up in conversation, I'm not sure... but still.. Mind you, the girls I've met so far out here actually don't mind letting a "shit" or "fuck" slip in conversation...
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Oct 23, 06
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I have a large number of guy friends, as well as girls. My best friend is a guy. Doesn't mean that I am of the opinion I make better friends with guys. Just means I have a lot of guy friends. I think that the females who oppose girls as friends, are doing it as they are insecure about themselves to the point, that they can't be friends with other females.
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Oct 23, 06
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Why is emotional bad? U dont want people to tell u how they really feel?
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Oct 23, 06
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there's a difference between telling someone how you feel about something/someone, in an appropriate time.. and people who are super emotional about everything and cry at the drop of a hat.
girls tend to be more emotional/dramatic in that sense than guys. i can't STAND drama queens.
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Oct 23, 06
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There's nothing wrong with emotions persay, I just think that sometimes girls are less logical about things, and more emotional. And that can be annoying.
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Oct 23, 06
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There is a lot of disagreements so I'm just going to say what I think about me.
I like hanging out with both sexes. I find I like more guy stuff to do since I grew up with my dad and my brother always 'hanging out' and well maybe I enjoyed building computers, and playing video games etc. Sometimes it is easier being friends with guys just because some girls have trouble getting over their insecurites. I do wish I had better girl friends. I'm always willing to be someone really good friend until it gets to be an effort to keep that girl as a friend. Most of the girls I am friends with, are very easy going and try to keep the drama away. Those are my good friends.
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Oct 23, 06
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Alot of girls who care more about what men think about them, and CONSTANTLY need male attention, are often the girls who have never had a strong friendship with another girl. Those girls compete with other girls, they get jealous of other girls, they dont like there girlfriends to get too buddy buddy with there guy friends.
Now this doesnt mean that girl is a bad person, she is just an insecure person, and often a girl who needs to be center of attention. (Not all girls, just majority) A bond with a woman, is something you could never have with a male friend. Its just not the same level.
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Oct 24, 06
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I'm the opposite of that statement. Most of my close friends have and are females.. and those that are male are or have turned out to be gay...
I've become close to some guys in the past but I've found that such relationships were based on the hope of becoming something more (mostly on their part)... Since potential romantic involvement was the basis of those friendships, they never lasted. Unless ofcouse, they are gay. My best friend is a chica, and an awesome gal to say the least. She may be the most emotional person I know, but no man could take her place as a best friend for sure.
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Oct 24, 06
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I'm one of the guys.. Even my best girl friend is one of the guys. I dont play very well with girls at all. I find that girls are crazy (majority of them, even myself) with lots of opinions and attitude. I could never be a lesbien, thats for sure! I dont really care who so and so is sleeping with or what the fuck they wore to the club last weekend or what have you.
guys are so much more laid back. I love just hanging out with the guys, drink a couple beers and just shoot the shit. and guys gossip differently, they dont do it to harm other ppl, just to let things be aware. well, at least with my friends anyways...
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Oct 24, 06
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Ladies just tend to have a harder time making 'real friends' --something they seem to strive for (what are the requirements?)... whereas the basis of most of my 'friend' relationships is something like this: "Hi, I like beer, do you like beer?" "..do I ever!" "let's get together and drink some beer" ..and I'm fine with that.
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Oct 24, 06
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Although I can point out a few ladies I know are exceptions to the rule in this thread, I find that a lot of girls that say girls are 'crazy' , 'nothing but drama', 'attention whores' etc. are often shining examples of such.
Anyways, all girls are crazy sometimes, including YOU (yes, YOU!) because unless you are post-menopausal, we have no control over the ebb and flow of estrogen and a team of other hormones from our brains that make us FEMALE. So please, spare us with some of your 'i h8 girls cuz they crazy!' replies. Girls and boys are different. Girls have different things to offer than guys, and I think it's no good having all girl friends or all guy friends and it doesn't matter if you are a boy or if you are a girl. Anyone who has never had a close girl friend, I really regret that because girls might be crazy sometimes, but most of the time they have a lot to offer. I know this because I grew up as a total tomboy and had nothing but guy friends until I was into my late teens. And you know what? Guy friends are just as likely to betray and hurt you as much as girl friends are.
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