"I make better friends with guys"

#1 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

This statement infuriates me. I hear a lot of girls say this, and it pisses me off. I am tired of hearing it.

It isn't the other girl, it is you. It is your own insecurites to not be able to have females as friends.

I used to think this way. And then I realised, I had some great female friends.

christoqher · #2 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

You've officially reached princess status!?

*STARFISH* · #3 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

id dont see whats wrong with saying that..?
for me its the truth..
not saying that i dont have some wicked girl friends
but majority of my friends are guys
and my bestest friend in the whole wide world is a guy too
i dunno i find i have more in common with alot of guys?
maybe its because im tomboyish? i dunno
so sorry if it infuriates you,
but i make better friends with guys lol :p

#4 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by *STARFISH*

id dont see whats wrong with saying that..?
for me its the truth..
not saying that i dont have some wicked girl friends
but majority of my friends are guys
and my bestest friend in the whole wide world is a guy too
i dunno i find i have more in common with alot of guys?
maybe its because im tomboyish? i dunno
so sorry if it infuriates you,
but i make better friends with guys lol :p

I was a bit general....

But having a lot of guy friends is one thing. Not being friends with girls, cause you think they are all bitches is another.

I happen to have a lot of close guy friends, and my best friend is a guy. But it doesn't mean I get along better with them.

tee&eh · #5 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

you can never really act the same way you do with girls as you do with guys
i have guy firends but i have closer girl friends... the girls that say " i make better friends with guys" obv still are in the group of their girl friends that treat them bad and talk shit behind there back etc. agree with your statement:)

Alex · #6 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

I hate girls that need to surround themselves with guys to feel better about themselves, and claimto hate other girls. These are the same girls that can't stand it if their boy friend talks toanother girl, watches porn, looksat a Maxim magazine etc etc. It's disgustng how insecure some people are.

Gusto · #7 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

^ i dated a girl like that, except she hated everyone.

tee&eh · #8 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

it is the most unreasonable thing to ask your boyfriend not to talk to other girls...

Alex · #9 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

Was she the type that put a front on that she LOVED all ofyour friends, was super nice to them all... then wentoff abouthow much she hated them behind their backs?

Gusto · #10 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

yeah basically, haha.

Alex · #11 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

one of my best friend's just dumped his gf of like 3 or 4 years last week.. and she's exactly like that.

christoqher · #12 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

who else could you tell that your period was really heavy or your foot fungus stinks, but another girl. i'm just saying.

Alex · #13 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

^hahahaha

tee&eh · #14 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by Alex

Was she the type that put a front on that she LOVED all ofyour friends, was super nice to them all... then wentoff abouthow much she hated them behind their backs?

hahah my best friend boyfriend is that way.. i cant stand him he's such a baby

Alex · #15 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

^ you should terrorize him, harass him pick fights etc etc until your friend and him break up. Dooooo it. you know you wanna.

tee&eh · #16 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

hahahha they've been dating toooo long to do that now :P

christoqher · #17 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by Alex

^ you should terrorize him, harass him pick fights etc etc until your friend and him break up. Dooooo it. you know you wanna.

The girlfriends best friend holds alot of power, trust me.

tee&eh · #18 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

^^ haha i wonder if she'd still take my word over his ... she better :P

MissMarz · #19 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

I've never been super super tight with girls. I have always been sporty and athletic growing up so my tom boy persona is the most of me. I only started the butterfly transformation into a girly girl about a year and a half ago thanks to my school friend whos a total fashionista and shaped me into what i am now. I find it alot easier to talk to guys, there's so much less drama to deal with, their answers are straight and to the point. I find them much much more loyal. Girl clicks where never ever my thing. I have a few close girlfriends I've known for years and the only reason we stay so close is because we see each other very very scarcely. In conclusion. I am not against having girls as friends, but most of the girls I know that I try to befriend, end up pulling a catty, backstabbing, jealous act of hatred or insecurity. Drama drama drama... bleh.

christoqher · #20 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

It's very possible that if you hate him you could probably ruin it for them. but only people like alex would want to do that.!

christoqher · #21 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

In conclusion. I am not against having girls as friends, but most of the girls I know that I try to befriend, end up pulling a catty, backstabbing, jealous act of hatred or insecurity. Drama drama drama... bleh.

Thats so very true about guys too. Especially about male dominance.

#22 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

In conclusion. I am not against having girls as friends, but most of the girls I know that I try to befriend, end up pulling a catty, backstabbing, jealous act of hatred or insecurity. Drama drama drama... bleh.

But Maggie, this isn't your fault. It is exactley what I am talking about. Those acts, are what make "those" girls the exact girl I am talking about.

It isn't you, it is them.

ps - I like you, think you are cool, and am a girl.

MissMarz · #23 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

i understand that. but are we super close ? no. i'm just saying that its super hard to get close to a girl, because the minute you put your trust in her and deam her loyal... she goes and pulls something stupid. i've distanced myself from alot of femmes... i'm very selective with who i trust, and what i say. it just so happens that i can trust guy friends better. especially knowing that there is nothing there physically between us.

christoqher · #24 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

In conclusion. I am not against having girls as friends, but most of the girls I know that I try to befriend, end up pulling a catty, backstabbing, jealous act of hatred or insecurity. Drama drama drama... bleh.

Maybe the fundamental problem with your "friends" is communication, not seeing eye-to-eye with a "friend" by talking about situations that might arrise?
Maybe the friend is too embarassed about having to put certain rules on situations, so its just not brought up. Leading to possible problems in the future in dealing with any insecurities they might have... and yes, I agree with you on that, that isnt your fault. It's your fault for not judging them before you decided that they were a "friend"

#25 (**permalink**) Oct 23, 06

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Originally Posted by christoqher

Maybe the fundamental problem with your "friends" is communication, not seeing eye-to-eye with a "friend" by talking about situations that might arrise?
Maybe the friend is too embarassed about having to put certain rules on situations, so its just not brought up. Leading to possible problems in the future in dealing with any insecurities they might have... and yes, I agree with you on that, that isnt your fault. It's your fault for not judging them before you decided that they were a "friend"

go away.