some advice please

[Courtney]

so i'm dealing with a very sudden death..and its been a shitty path..and sometimes i feel like everyday gets better but sometimes i feel the exact opposite..
has anyone had to deal with guilt and death? this death was sudden and i hadnt talked to him in over a year so of course im feeling like shit about it and think i always will
i wanna know that someone has gone through this and if it gets better

[rawb]

courtney (i love you) one of the things you need to get over is that its not your fault. you and your dad's problems do not cancel out the fact that underneath it all you loved each other, one year doesn't change that.

things do get easier, its a roller coaster of emotion and confusion but eventually you will be at peace with it. its an organic process.

[robyn]

are you still at cap?

Counselling

[miss.myra]

Gone through it, and it's not really something that you can 'get over' and the more that you try to get yourself to 'get over it' the more you get worked up that you just can't seem to shake the guilt.

without getting too much into the details, i can really relate to what you are going through. it does get better, but nothing can change the past.

this is honestly something that a professional can help you with and i think it would be a great idea to find someone to talk to.

lots and lots of love from my way to you courtney, i know where you're coming from.

[Phrenetic]

Time heals everything, loss is a part of life.

[Prissypants]

I'm sorry for your loss but like others have said in this thread, go see a counsellor... It will help and they are trained to help you through it.

[P.A.R.T.Y]

[tiedye]

When times get tough, I find something in my life that makes me smile no matter how bad I feel and I keep it close.

Smiling is one of those subtle cures to sadness that works from the inside out.

[veN]

This, unfortunately, is beyond the calibre of fnk advice givers. No amount of personal experience, empathy, or wisdom will make you feel better about something that needs to be sorted out from the root. I'm sending all my good vibes and love, and weighing in on the "seek a counsellor" option.

Even I have been to counselling, and people think I have the answer to everything! Take care, Courts!