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Mar 25, 04
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The reason why I bother to mention this is because I am actually kind of curious to know what the figures in Canada really are. Anyone know? /me is geek :) Last edited by yoko*; Mar 25, 04 at 12:55 PM. 
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Mar 25, 04
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Pftttt no that is SO 90's.lol. Yah mine are divorced, my mom is re-married.
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Mar 25, 04
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Nope, they aren't.
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Mar 25, 04
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Oh and second part of the question, sort of, I know that i would want to put God first in my relationship, and know for sure, before i bring kids into it that it's what God wants for me. I know that i would never get divorced because it's so against everything that i believe and i wouldn't want to put anyone through what i went through.
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Mar 25, 04
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How can you people say you hate your own parents? :soak:
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Mar 25, 04
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My parents have been married for 28 years this year. I've heard them fight, had one or the other storm out of the house or threaten to leave (not just leave the house), but through everything they've managed to pull through (for richer, for poorer, sickness and health, yadda yadda). I consider myself very lucky because of this. I've known so many people who haven't been as fortunate as me and whose home lives (and subsequent relationships) have been extremely unstable because of it.
My bf's parents split when he was 18 or 19, and his mom and I actually had a big heart to heart about why she left (I think I know more about the situation than he does). I know that he's scared of the same thing happening in our relationship. I'm one of those people who is a firm believer in marriage being forever (not for religious reasons, but just because that is how I feel), but even I have my limits of what I can put up with. I know that when I get married I will fight tooth and nail to hold onto what I have, because every couple has difficulties and the majority of them can be worked through. I guess this is because I've seen my parents' relationship survive through so much and come out stronger than it was before. I dunno if any of this makes sense...I was just sort of typing whatever came into my head... Last edited by MissBehavior; Mar 25, 04 at 01:38 PM.
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Mar 25, 04
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divorced since i was 6.
as far as relationships, it's really hard to let people in close. in other words, trust issues. self esteem, until rather recently was pretty much down the hole. my mother and father seperating weren't the sole contributer to either of these, but i believe they were a factor. on the positive side however, after listening to them argue, throw stuff at each other, etc... (i believe) i've learned how to communicate and problem solve quite well, as well as identify behavourisms i don't wish to develop. and such and such. great post Seratonin, got me thinking bout things. thanks
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Mar 25, 04
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http://www.statcan.ca/Daily/English/021202/d021202f.htm
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Mar 25, 04
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Nope.
They divorced when I was 5, and my Dad passed away when I was 15. How has it affected me? Well, it's definitely made me very strong because I know that if I were ever put in the situation, I know I could do it, simply because my Mom did it. That said, my dream is for the perfect husband, the cute 2 kids and the white picket fence. And I know that it's definitely possible for me to have this because I know, due to my parents' failed marriage(s) (my Mom has been divorced twice, I saw my Dad fail at two other serious relationships other than my Mom) I have learned a lot about what to look for, and what not to look for, in a partner. I also know that a marriage will only work if there is give AND take on both sides - part of my parents' problem was that my Dad refused to give up an unhealthy lifestyle, or even to compromise about it, so my Mom was forced to ask him to leave. I look up to my Granddad and Grandma on my Dad's side (she's actually his step-mom, but that's beside the point). They've been married for over 30 years, and have gone through a lot of harships together. They have their disagreements, but they always compromise and work through them. They tease each other and joke around and it's just so damn cute, and I know that's exactly what I want to be like when I'm their age! I had dinner with them tonight, and out of no where I was just like "Grandma, when I'm older and married and your age, with grandkids, I want my relationship with my husband to be just like yours with Granddad." Sometimes, I'm just in awe of how much in love they still are after all this time! I know in my heart of hearts that I will most definitely live out my dream of husband and family, because it's what I really want for my life, so that I can be happy and live the life I've always wanted.
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Mar 25, 04
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now that i read through this.. there was a divorce in my family that really affects me to this day. my aunt married a caucasion guy, and they got divorced cuz from my moms bias view, he treated her really badly. and now with that in mind.. my mom is now a bit racist and judgemental... and close minded with caucasion ppl. and sadly.. i am attracted to caucasion guys. definatley something my mom would need to get past and just trust me with.
 oh well.
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Mar 25, 04
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/me scratches head hmm.. :004:
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Mar 25, 04
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divorced when i was about 3
dad cheated several times... and what do you know, he just did again with the woman hes been living with for about 6 years, found a younger bitch and married her, she moved from Poland into his place, with her 19 year old son. I have totally lost respect for that man already fucking up 3 womens lives. The woman before my mom, then my mom, now the poor lady he just kicked out whocompletely screwed. he did try hard to see me as often as he could and be a good dad. but come on, he spent his whole teenage life in the army wich fucked him over quite nicely. ive lived with my mom my whole life, and she raise me, and me two older sisters on her own, wich was a struggle sometimes, but it really brought us 4 chicks together in relationships, i always worry about me and him being happy with eachother. Because if im really pissed off, i never want to keep the relationship going, because i know ill just be a bitch, and if everytime i have to see him feels like a drag and an effort, then im just gonna stop. i cant keep it going if i dont even want to see him but right now its just me and mom living together in a small place, both sisters are on their own, its pretty peacefull
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Mar 25, 04
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My parents are still together and they seem happy enough to be that way. They fight and shit happens but all in all I think they are great together, I hope that someday I can be as successful as them in a relationship. You would think that having them togethter might make me better in my own relationships...but it doesn't, I suck pretty bad in that department.
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Mar 25, 04
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i'm kinda screwed up but my older sisters seem to be doing fine...one is in an 8 year relationship and the other one is in a 6 year...so i guess it really depends on the person...not just the parents..
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Mar 25, 04
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my parents just celebrated their 27th anniversary last month. they're still together and happy. they never fight [seriously]. there are occasional arguments, but nothing mean or intense or anything. usually just seems to be from stress.
i'd say it has affected my relationships. seeing them together for so long, and everything they've gone through. it gives me hope for myself to maybe have that in the future. there have only been two divorces in my family. my oma [who was forced into her first marriage] divorced when my mom was young. she later remarried and was much happier until he passed away. my uncle divorced as well, but remarried later and you can tell how much happier he is now.
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Mar 25, 04
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my parents are still together, but i'm not sure if it's affected my relationships.
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Mar 26, 04
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my parents had been dating since my mom was 16. they got married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 20.
they had my brothers and me.... after 27 years of marriage, they FINALLY split up. this has affected my relationships a lot. simply becuase i KNOW the realities of relationships - they aren;t always sunshine and rainbows. they can be good, but they can also be reallly bad. the hardest thing for me about relationships and the thoughts of marriage is that I don;t ever feel like i DESERVE love. (i don;t think this is cuz of my parents.) i don;t really trust that anyone would love me... cuz every time someone "loves" me and i get comfortable with the thought of being together, they leave me. so, i;'ve accepted that i will simply be a crazy old cat lady. i can't see myself ever getting married, not because i don;t want to... i just can;t see that anyone would love me enough to want to be with me for the rest of my life. :soak: love = yay having someone fall out of love with you = boooo.... meow.
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Mar 26, 04
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my parents split up a couple years ago
and I learn learn from every mistake they make. both of them are horrible communicaters and it was their separtion that (after a two years of being out of touch) made both my mom and dad my best friends in this world. Last edited by soma; Mar 26, 04 at 06:33 AM.
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Mar 26, 04
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No... I threw my father out of the house when I was 14... so about 9 years ago now....
He was an abusive alcoholic, and the night I hucked him out, he hit my younger sister... I broke a couple of his ribs, and told him never to come back...
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Mar 26, 04
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My parents divorced when I was 8 years old.
I idolize my mom in her approach to relationships. They say daughters tend to pick guys modeled after their dad, well I model my guys after my step dad because I have such a huge amount of respect for him and my mom.
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