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Old Mar 24, 04
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Are your parents still together?

Has it had an affect on how you perceive relationships?
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Old Mar 24, 04
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yes, my parents are still together :tounge1:
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Old Mar 24, 04
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Nah, mine split up like...7 years ago or so...my dad has since remarried (last June). I like my stepmom, she's pretty cool.

I wasn't too choked about the whole divorce, they never fought, just fell out of love i guess. It happens. The only thing about the whole divorce that was weird was that they told us they were getting a divorce on Valentines Day. I guess they were just so stressed about the whole thing they forgot what day it was.

As for changing how i perceive relationships....not really. I can't really see myself getting married one day, but then again i'm only 18 and things will change.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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there yeah go!!!^^^ but my parents almost did get divorced. There was a rough time but they are one of the fortunates that stayed strong enough to last this long :p
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Old Mar 24, 04
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this may sound weird but here it goes..

ppl have asked me what my past guys that ive been in a relationship have in common..and strangely they all belong to a single parent family (divorced or passed away). i think its because it makes them more independent, driven and strong willed. however, ive noticed that the majority (dont want to get in trouble here) of them are very touchy with relationships (i mite be thinking too deep and combining unrelevant things). With touchy i mean, very cautious and overly alert with happenings in a relationship.. couples do fight, and couples do argue. its tough, cuz i can't relate to them.. my parents are together, and i hardly know anyone who have passed away.

im very observative and think a lot.. i most likely over analyzed it, but is it natural for them to be affected by their parents separation?

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Old Mar 24, 04
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My parents split-up when I was 4.....so I don't remember it too well. However, I did get to experience something that those with parents together don't......2 worlds :trippin:
My brother and I lived at my Mom's during the week, then every weekend it was off downtown to stay with Dad....it was great!
I feel that I am very much like both of them....as I got to experience two different ways of life....but both were mine.

I'm not saying that having my parents split-up was a good thing, however my Mom re-married, my Dad travelled, and I know that both of them are happier apart than together.

I would rather have them happy and apart than miserable and together. :kimmie:
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Old Mar 24, 04
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My parents are still togethor and try to run our famliy like "pleasentville" it has ups and downs, but i guess i am lucky to have 2 caring parents.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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this may sound weird but here it goes..

ppl have asked me what my past guys that ive been in a relationship have in common.
so are you single??? :PartEkid:
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Old Mar 24, 04
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my parents are together and super happy together. i found that they fought alot back when money was tight but they always loved each other.

yeah i guess it has effected the way i view realationships- through thick and thin love will conquer all- but i have yet to be truely in love so... yeah.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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yup parents together

grandparents still together

all my aunts/uncles still together


My family tree has grown on strong roots.


And yes, at this point it has affected me. I know for sure that when I find a potential life partner WAAY down the road, I'm gonna throw every test at her to make sure she's the one. :) It's fun to daydream.
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I have always lived in a single parent situation. My parents split when I was 3 so I don't really know what its like to have them together. I find that at times I do envy families that are still together but not because I want my parents together but because I have fear for my own relationships in the future. I would love to have a happy life with one person later on. And with my family I have never experianced that to give me hope. I know its better off that my parents arn't together I could never even picture what it would be like they are so opposite. And I don't think its right to stay with someone if you fight all the time or don't love them anymore. But I guess I find the amount of seperation discuraging at times. But i'm a romantic I guess. Seperation of family members affect people in different ways. Some people are carefull who they become attached to and some wear there heart on there sleeve hoping to find what there parents could not hold together.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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Originally posted by bebu*funfun:
this may sound weird but here it goes..

ppl have asked me what my past guys that ive been in a relationship have in common..and strangely they all belong to a single parent family (divorced or passed away). i think its because it makes them more independent, driven and strong willed. however, ive noticed that the majority (dont want to get in trouble here) of them are very touchy with relationships (i mite be thinking too deep and combining unrelevant things). With touchy i mean, very cautious and overly alert with happenings in a relationship.. couples do fight, and couples do argue. its tough, cuz i can't relate to them.. my parents are together, and i hardly know anyone who have passed away.

im very observative and think a lot.. i most likely over analyzed it, but is it natural for them to be affected by their parents separation?
Well, this may be me to a t'. My parents split apart and, although they do keep a friendly rapport with one another, I can't help but think that it did have an affect on me. Lord knows I've been picky when it comes to relationships but I'll often see how things go sour so often with friends and their relationships, thus making me quite cautious.

Ack! Psycho-analyzing can be such a pain.
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My dad and mom seperated 12 years ago, mom died 6 years ago, dads remarried 3 times since. hated every single one of his broads. I think i'm just bitter tho. But my life is fine. I dont talk to my dad and live independantly on my own, with my older sister.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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no my ARENTS ARE APART.... but what ever im drunk...
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Old Mar 24, 04
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My parents are still together but my dad's in HK/Japan doin business stuff. People always think that they're separated just cuz he's never really around, but they're not. And I'm used to it...in a way it's kinda like typical asian family cuz most of my other azn friends are in the exact same situation.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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my parents are still together :c-tard:
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Old Mar 24, 04
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My parents are still together and have been for over 25+ years... and I'm willing to bet that whether consciously or subconsciously, their relationship has set the norm for my future relationships..

I think that upbringing has quite an influence on how you perceive life and relationships.. Throughout your childhood, (assuming that you grow up with your parents), your parents are most-likely to be the strongest influence from which you learn about relationships between people. For this reason it's hard for me to believe that the relationships of those whom you grow up with or are raised by, WOULDN'T have an influence on you.
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My parents are still togethor and try to run our famliy like "pleasentville" it has ups and downs, but i guess i am lucky to have 2 caring parents.
Same here... my 'rents are scarily '50s but they're still together so I count myself lucky. :)
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my parents split when i was 2...
my mom re-married a couple years ago
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My parents divorced 9 years ago. I live with my mom and my dad lives in Maple Ridge.... I like how it is cus my dad is an ass and his gf that he met when we went to austria is prolly gonna move here in april with her son. I can't stand her!!!! They even send love letters to eachother oh god she makes me mad. :finger:
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my parents are still together

they've been through too much/are going through too much too not be together.

i dont believe in relationships, why have something you'll loose. i cant wait to move to a country where i dont speak the language and i can hide in some mountain town and be a weirdo and smoke pot all day. the normal get into a relationship have kids blah blah is set up to hurt you. your kids will die on you, your spouse will fuck you over or jump off a bridge. its all wack, how many friends are going to die on you, etc.
most of the time i just want to cut ties with everyone i know before they are cut for me.

uhm i got lost and went off on a blah blah peace
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Old Mar 24, 04
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My parents are still together and have been for over 25+ years... and I'm willing to bet that whether consciously or subconsciously, their relationship has set the norm for my future relationships..

I think that upbringing has quite an influence on how you perceive life and relationships.. Throughout your childhood, (assuming that you grow up with your parents), your parents are most-likely to be the strongest influence from which you learn about relationships between people. For this reason it's hard for me to believe that the relationships of those whom you grow up with or are raised by, WOULDN'T have an influence on you.
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Old Mar 24, 04
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Dad died when i was 8, i thnk it has effected me in the way i percieve my relationships, sometimes i think im a little cautious, i also like spending lots of time with my partner (when applicable) , compared to some other people i know. I dont think these things are bad things, but you asked, so now you know :y:
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Old Mar 24, 04
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nope, my parents split up about 4 years ago. As of my relationship, I dont think about them when im with the one I love.
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