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Jun 26, 04
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Ladies anyone? need help on this one
Ok so this is how it goes.i just turned 19 in march ive been in steady relationship for about 4 years but its getting pretty fucked up.the type of work my boyfren does is'nt anything to be proud of something most typical azn guys do. so my problem is his greed that has snuck up on him during the past to year we both dropped out of high skool in grade eight none of us ever looked back he did his own own thing and so did i..
so he started making money and spending it on me..and then it started the insults like wen ever we would argue hesd say "oh well who buys that for you"..or did u pay for that blah blah..i really love him but i dont know what to do maybe it could be the fact that i think he will provide a stable future for me. but i hate the fact that it feels like im in compition with him. yes he does give me money for anything i wat shopping/friends/clubing.i work too but he says fuck that shit makin 30 gee's a year is nothing.i have no where to turn i never even succesfully completed grade 8 and hes the only thing i have to rely on and i hate that fact that he always brings it up...so recently i found out he cheated on me durin the first 5 months of our relationship i had always suspected it but never had prove till he came clean so i did the same. i have no idea what to do it sucks.. So ladies any suggestions?? 
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Jun 26, 04
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just some lyrics from a lame song, but you'll get the picture..
"All the women who are independent Throw your hands up at me All the honeys who makin' money Throw your hands up at me All the mommas who profit dollas Throw your hands up at me All the ladies who truly feel me Throw your hands up at me Girl I didn't know you could get down like that Charlie, how your Angels get down like that Girl I didn't know you could get down like that Charlie, how your Angels get down like that Tell me how you feel about this Who would I want if I would wanna live I worked hard and sacrificed to get what I get Ladies, it ain't easy bein' independent Question: How'd you like this knowledge that I brought Braggin' on that cash that he gave you is to front If you're gonna brag make sure it's your money you flaunt Depend on noone else to give you what you want "
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Jun 26, 04
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Pretty intense first post.
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Jun 26, 04
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its like freakin lugage its follow's u around
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Jun 26, 04
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always thinks im fucking aroud. i can barly keep realtionships with old guys friends kus of that im scared that one day he do sumthing stupid if i leave well he already did..one day i was getting a ride from a friend (male).. and we were at a red light an pulls up beside us hops in ous car and gives my good friend 2 shots in the face..
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Jun 26, 04
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I think if you tell them your situation that you could move back in, and you said you had a job. Tell your parents that you have this job, and you want to get your GED and your boyfriend is ass and you've made some mistakes and now you want to make the most of your life.
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Jun 26, 04
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its so hard i tryed i guess its kus im weak i tryed leaving him but then he always trys 2 do what ever he can to make me take him back. i wnat to make the most of my life i even tryed goin back to school but hes always in my way.. i could consider that though thnx.=) i really appreciate it
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Jun 26, 04
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why don't you try to make things okay with the boyfriend and go to VCC and take your GED while living with him.. while at school, try to save some money (or just stash the money he gives you) and when you've gotten your GED and a well paying job...move the fuck out.
use the bastard!!
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DAS WAT I SAID! [edit - I guess no one was listening because of that dammned Y chomosome of mine]
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Jun 26, 04
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Jun 26, 04
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Well, since you dropped out in grade 8, it will probably take a while - but since you're 19, you'll probably be able to get through it in a reasonable amount of time if you work at it. I'd suggest calling VCC (Vancouver Community College) and setting up an appointment to talk to a counsellor there who can answer all of your questions. Best part is, its free - and some of the things you can take (language for example) may be worth university or college credit.
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Jun 26, 04
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www.vcc.ca
call them up and talk to a counsellor there and they'll help you with what courses you need and how long it'll take
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Jun 26, 04
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OOOOOH, BURNED AGAIN! Too slow, slow fingers!
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Wow, there is so much wrong here I don't even know where to start. Run away run away! Get out! You should never EVER be that dependent on a guy. It makes me sad. Last edited by Rhianna; Jun 26, 04 at 07:44 AM.
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Jun 26, 04
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wow, you're dumbest, lamest girl i've ever seen on this board.
uhh first of all: your bf will probably be A: Dead in 3 years or B: in jail in 2 years being passed around like toilet paper. C: YOU DROPPED OUT AT GRADE 8? I shouldnt complain. I dropped out in grade 10, Luckily for me i've always been able to get awesome jobs and then put them into a kick ass resume. I didnt learn anything in school it was all useless shit. The only thing I learned was how to type a blazing 93 wpm. I somehow fear you've learned nothing in school. Elementary school and highschool are two different things, you cant put "graduated elementary school" on your resume, you WILL get laughed at. Now you have to look at your life and see what a waste of skin you are. No talent, no education, dependant on some fucker who's selling marijuana and who disrespects you and cheats on you. Its never too late to go get your highschool.. you know this right? its posted on every bus stop in surrey (hehehe) so you can do one of two things: Start off fresh and prepare for a very hard lifestyle of studying as well as working a shit job to pay off bills (unless you have a rich daddy) or: you can stay with the "non typical" asian guy. Get disrespected, probably get some physical abuse. Could very well be forced into prostitution and live a really shitty life. if you want my honest opinion.. i'd go for the first one!
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Jun 26, 04
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Take the money and RUN! He sounds too controlling. Get your GED and make something of yourself.
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Jun 26, 04
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He insults you, he's cheated on you and you're not proud of him. He sounds like he'd make a great dad. Spending the rest of your life w/ him sure would rock. The person you love is supposed to make you feel good about youeself, make you feel like you can do anything, they're supposed to push you to be better and respect you. It doens't sound like you're getting any of that.
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Jun 26, 04
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you dropped out of grade 8?
honestly, it seems like you have a very codepemdemt personality, which is something not alot of people can over come when they have it. youve turned your life upside down, you allowing him to control you. you say you dont like it, but have you done anything about it in 4 years? obviously not since your still with him. id like to say get out, but you wont.
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