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Nov 24, 02
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HELP...... what do i do?
i dont know if this should be here or in the punching bag, so i'm just going to post it here.
As most people know i dont live in vancouver, i live way out in campbell river (van island for anyone who didnt know.) I hate it here so much, i am always upset and i find myself always holding back tears. I am so tired of the small town BS, u know the.... she slept with him, he fucked her best friend, roumers and gossip. My town is full of little twinkie bar star wanna bes, and i cant stand them, and everyone is like that, so i have just stoped talking to everyone and anyone. All of my friends are in vancouver, i dont even have anyone other then my mom to talk to here, and she keeps getting mad at me because the phone bill is so high form me calling everyone in van so much. I dont know what to do, i seriously dont think i can handle being here anymore, crying all the time, and never going into public cant be good for my health. BUt the feeling just wont go away. I would do almost anything to be out of this town for good, the only time i'm happy is when i'm NOT here. I wish there was some way i could move to vancouver, to get away from it all. I'm only 17 and i know that there is no way i can finish the year of school i have left, and work enough to make rent and feed myself. I dont know what to do, i dont think i hand take this much loger, i SERIOUSLY think i'm going insane. HELP........... What do i do? ~ Vanessa ~ 
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Nov 24, 02
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hey girl im going through the EXACT same shit as u right now except i left my small town Abbotsford last december and I lost touch with pretty much all my so called friends out there. They got jealous because I made it out b4 them or sum bullshit but hey whatever. And now im in surrey been here for a year all my friends that i had out here ive lost touch with because they are too caught up on silly shit which isnt me. So in 2 months time I am moving away to Calgary 2 be with my best friend and I CANNOT WAIT! my advice to u is to get the fuck out it will do u a whole lotta good and u wont be so sad any more.
But... have u grauated highschool yet??? if not then ur goign to have to seriously look at this. If u do end up moving to vancouver ur going to need a full time job in order to make ends meet. And if u have the time ur gonna have to go to night skool or take home schooling. I havent finished high school yet i was supposed 2 grad last yr but i was fuckt up on some bad stuff so i dropped out. Now I am stuck with english and law and family studies to complete. When i move to Calgary im probabally going to end up having 2 jobs so double ass busting and im going to have to take corresepondance to finish my grade 12. What im telling u is that its not all taters n gravy... its gonna be hard but it will be worth it. I hope this has helped u somehow! Just keep ur head up you will see sunshine soon
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Nov 24, 02
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thanks, just reading that made me feel a little bit better, just knowing someone else 'has been there done that' type thing!
I have just over a year of school left, i will be done NEXT january if everything goes the way i want it to! I know i will need a full time job so that i can afford rent and food and everything else, but u did give me a really good idea, i totally forgot about night school probaly because we dont have it here. But night school just might be the key here. I would homeschool, but i have just went back to school after home schoolinf for 2 years, and i know that there is no way in hell i can do government exams by homeschooling, it just wouldnt work. Thank u so much, i feel like u have opened a window of new options just by saying "night school" ~ huggles ~
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Nov 24, 02
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Awwww Vanessa.. I love you... dont let the stress get to you... Im kinda in the same situation ... well maybe not cuz im still living with my mom.. just I know what ur going through, and its not easy I can tell you that... but I know that u will get through it.. And I'll be there to help you! :) *Hugz*
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Nov 24, 02
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thanks tina *hug*
I have a pretty good idea of how i am going to present this to my mom. I have already told her that i am un happy, but that doent seem to matter, she just got mad at me and told me i was being un reasonable. My mo has always told me that if i want something to prsent it to her, and tell her how i'm going to do it! so now i just need to figure ut how to do that, i have a bit of an idea, but its still in the works!
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Nov 24, 02
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I hope all goes well with ur mom:) and hopefully she will be understanding and support u 100%
And to make looking for a school easier u should do a search for alternative education schools or adult learning centres.I dont live in Van so I dont know what programs they have 2 offer but I am sure that they will have work and learn centres or something to that affect.
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Nov 24, 02
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dunno if i am going to help too much beacuse i really cant say that gosip ever has gotten to me. *HUGS* first of all and 2nd. Just remember that your funny, smart and you got a grip on life. You'll go far if you really work at what you want and one day you'll be sooo happy.
Hope that you find that streght that you need in everything that you do. G'luck with you mom. *hug
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Nov 24, 02
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well i laid it out to my mom, i wrote it all down on how i'm going to do it and how i'm going to make it work. She thought that i was doing it because she made me mad, but it was nothing against her, just this little shitty town, and i told her that. She said she was going to think about it and talk with my dad! so thats a good sign, for one its better than a no, and usally when she said i'll think about it, she usally says yes! so i will keep u guys posted and wish me luck!
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Nov 24, 02
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vanessa, its the same everywhere when u start to know the people around you! Like for example i have bee single of my own will for over a year, and i've been so busy that men and sex havent been my first priority (lol wohoa imagine that ) and sine then i think the rumors that people have said make me look horrible... its as of people cant keep their noses outta other people's buisness! i hope it gets better! its jsut the way people are!!!! and its gay! (please dont anyone take that offensively)
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Nov 24, 02
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its not just the gossip and stuff, its everything! all of the small town BS. I cant walk down the street with out the cops pulling over and talking to me, because some girl charged me with something i didnt do and blah blah blah! its just everything, unless you have lived in a small town ur whole life, there is no way anyone could understand!
But yeah i know what u mean.
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Nov 25, 02
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Are you planning on any post-secondary education? It's different than highschool. I don't think you should dwell on the people around you...I think you should think about what interests you, and what your goals are. Friends come and go. Once you graduate, start living your life. You will come into contact with more people and more experiences. I wouldn't say I am a completely different person than I was a few years ago, but I have changed a lot, and you will too. You have to give yourself time. Running away won't solve much.
On a side note, making friends with my mom is one of the most rewarding things I have done. I highly recommend it.
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Nov 25, 02
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my mom is my best friend! but i dont think u understand what its like living here. I could really care less what people think of me, and its not really the not have any friends thing either, its this TOWN and everything and anything that has to do with it. its horrible, there are no jobs and no opprtunities. I want to be some where, where i feel usefull
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Nov 25, 02
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What I understand is, you have one thing to work on right now...graduating from highschool. After that, follow your dreams. I lived in Chilliwack. I spent my senior years of highschool in a class of 12 people. I know small. I took a year off after my grade ten year...not the best idea, but it seemed necessary at the time, and looking back, it was a growing experience. Just keep plugging along. This too shall pass. :)
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Nov 25, 02
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hunny i live on an island with a population of 3000 people i know exactly how u feel! everybody knows your name,... phone number... fuck even how many people u've slept with! its impossible to keep personal stuff to yourself here! i mean sometimes i really like knowing almost everyone, but other times... shiiiat! the cops hate me cuz i over-dosed when i was 14 and spat on one of them.... hunny i understand... and then whats better is that i get to go into west van every god damn day for school.... lol which is a "small community" all of its own.... lol its everywhere.... and i know what u mean! lol but if u want a change and want to still be able to go to school... u can come stay with me lol (dont knwo why you'd want to), or move over here.... and go to school in west van.... lol i dunno
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Nov 25, 02
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well i talk to my mom and she is "thinking about it" which is better then a no, so i will fond out whats going on in the next day or so.
I may be looking for a room mate soon (hopefully.) Its so nice to know that someone understands! thanks!
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Nov 25, 02
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no problem :) chin up and if someone pisses u off u got the fnk crew on your back lol :)@
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Nov 25, 02
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OMG i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
she said no, and i seriously cant stay in the hell hole of a town i call home for any longer. I cant handle it here, i'm all alone with no one to talk to. and i cant stop crying!!!!!!!! i CANNOT stay here, i hate it here so much and i have for as long as i can remember and now that i can finally get out, she wont let me! she said that there is no way i can work and finish school..... talk about lack of faith. HELP!!!!!!!!! i need someway to convince her that i cant stay here. OMG i dont know what to do:014:
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Nov 25, 02
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hmmmm.... not even with room mates... cuz seriously u can rent a room in someones house in van for like 450 a month max..... thats only 50 hours.... so if u are willing to give up some weekend partying//// then it would work fine!!!!! if there is any way i can help let me know
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Nov 25, 02
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its not the money thing, she just doesnt think i can work and go to school, she doesnt think i can handle it. But at the same time while i am here she is telling me to get a job, but there isnt any, and she tells me that i cost too much. So i am willing to move out so that it wont cost her anything and have a job, but i'm not allowed i dont get it! i'm so upset. And thanks youlilbaby, i will deffinatly keep that in mind!
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Nov 25, 02
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hope thiongs get better for you!
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Nov 25, 02
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awww!! i have *huggles* for you but no answers sawry
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Nov 26, 02
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that really really sucks. Prover her wrong try ur hardest to find a job there and work and go to school and that will prove to her u are capable of doing it.
Ur moms being a fuck...cuz if u plan on going to college or university ur going to need to have a part time job in order to make ends meet and shit. what the fuck does she expect you to stay in that god forsaken shit hole until the day of ur demise???I feel really fuckin bad for u ya poor thing *HUGZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ* Do u have any family in van u could stay with?????? I dunno what else 2 say :(
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