Parents suck.

[trance_bunny]

I honestly don't know what to do any more. The same shit keeps happening with them and I am going to go insaine and/or have a nervous breakdown. I had to leave my dad's house b/c I couldn't take my step-mom, she hates me and honestly was trying to ruin my life, so I came to live with my mom hoping that I could find some peace and happieness here. Well was I ever wrong. Every time I turn around she is trying to kick me out of her house for doing anything she doesn't like. Frist it was weed, than hard drugs, which I know she doesn't want me doing but you shouldn't kick your kid out and say that you are helping them when your putting them on the streets. Now she wants to kick me out for smoking, and also if i wear shit that she doesn't like!!! I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with her... she needs help... she tells me that she loves me and all that bullshit but apparently only if I do what she wants me to do. She also says she'll kick me out over the friends I hang out with. Ok I'll tell her I don't go to raves any more, I don't smoke weed and I don't smoke cigaretts... but there is no way in hell she can tell me what to wear or who to hang out with... I am freeking out here I don't know how to handle this... it wouldn't be so bad if it didn't happen so often but it happens every day and I can't take her yelling at me any more. And my dad is pissed off at my mom so to get back at her he wont let me come stay with him and there is no way I can live on my own. Im lost and freeking out and I just needed to vent but some possitive feed back would be nice... anything at this moment to help me out.
Stressed out to the max,
Luv Trance bunny

[mugsy]

first question... how old are you?
my input - during my most rebelious moments, (which i do not regret) my mother told me what not to wear, she would tell me my friends were bad people and do whatever she could to prevent me from seeing them, and well i was a good little lier, she never knew about anything else, well anything else into gross detail. im sure she knew some but not all. and well, she was right. i shouldnt have been hanging out with highschool drop outs, i shouldnt have been drinking or smoking weed, i shouldnt have been out as late as i was.
i agree that your mothers tactics are not the best, but it could depend on how you react to previous tactics. maybe she knows that if she grounds you, youll just leave anyways (this may or may not be the case, its mostly an example) or that simple yelling is something you dont respond to and so on. it doesnt excuse kicking your kid out on the streets, but it could be a reason for the actions.
try comprimise?
also, as much fun as you have with your friends, are they really good for you\good people? if they are, then definately stick with them. good friends can be hard to find. but remember your not going to be able to be a fun loving at raves all night doing drugs kinda person your whole life, maybe it might be time to start minusing some of those aspects from your life? but again maybe it isnt.
and always keep in mind that this is what mothers and daughters do at this point in their relationship. you are becoming a woman, she doesnt want to loose the little girl she had. its a power struggle with horomones mixed into it.
it sucks and its hard, and you think your right, and she thinks shes right, and who knows who is? just do your best to comprimise, and pick your battles.

[Playboybuny]

Originally Posted by trance_bunny

I honestly don't know what to do any more. The same shit keeps happening with them and I am going to go insaine and/or have a nervous breakdown. I had to leave my dad's house b/c I couldn't take my step-mom, she hates me and honestly was trying to ruin my life, so I came to live with my mom hoping that I could find some peace and happieness here. Well was I ever wrong. Every time I turn around she is trying to kick me out of her house for doing anything she doesn't like. Frist it was weed, than hard drugs, which I know she doesn't want me doing but you shouldn't kick your kid out and say that you are helping them when your putting them on the streets. Now she wants to kick me out for smoking, and also if i wear shit that she doesn't like!!! I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with her... she needs help... she tells me that she loves me and all that bullshit but apparently only if I do what she wants me to do. She also says she'll kick me out over the friends I hang out with. Ok I'll tell her I don't go to raves any more, I don't smoke weed and I don't smoke cigaretts... but there is no way in hell she can tell me what to wear or who to hang out with... I am freeking out here I don't know how to handle this... it wouldn't be so bad if it didn't happen so often but it happens every day and I can't take her yelling at me any more. And my dad is pissed off at my mom so to get back at her he wont let me come stay with him and there is no way I can live on my own. Im lost and freeking out and I just needed to vent but some possitive feed back would be nice... anything at this moment to help me out.
Stressed out to the max,
Luv Trance bunny

^^^^
God Steph! u sure love to let everyone feel sorry for u..i dont think anyone on here cares about ur fucked up life!

[mojo]

you go girl!^

[G-Style]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

^^^^
God Steph! u sure love to let everyone feel sorry for u..i dont think anyone on here cares about ur fucked up life!

That's just simply not true. I think everyone on this site has a certain level of compassion for everyone whos having a rough time. That's the beauty of this site. Everyone on it has gone through some wortof hardships in their life and can not only sympathize but can relate to others problems. I went through a similar stage as this. Yes even guys go through this stage. My parent sdidn't like my friends my clothes or the fact that they had no idea what I was up to half the time. Granted I was worse than most teenagers where but I got through it. I lost all my parents trust and faith and had to work very hard at getting it back. It's been a long road for me but the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter each day. Hang in there Hun these things have their own way of working themselves out. Trying to force any issues when you and your parents are in the state of mind they are in right now nothing posative is going to come out of it. I know this sounds dumb but ask your mom out for a coffee and have a little heart ot heart with her. Don't take things personally be open to her cnstructive critisism but make sure she is aware that it goes both way. Work very hard on not letting it become a bitch fest because that won't help either of you. Trying a little heart to heart works if shes not into coffee try going for an after dinner walk. Just get out of the house do not start this talk in the house. Let me know how it goes. Stay posative because through a posative mental attitude you can achieve anything.
Good luck
G

[Playboybuny]

Originally Posted by G-Style

That's just simply not true. I think everyone on this site has a certain level of compassion for everyone whos having a rough time. That's the beauty of this site. Everyone on it has gone through some wortof hardships in their life and can not only sympathize but can relate to others problems. I went through a similar stage as this. Yes even guys go through this stage. My parent sdidn't like my friends my clothes or the fact that they had no idea what I was up to half the time. Granted I was worse than most teenagers where but I got through it. I lost all my parents trust and faith and had to work very hard at getting it back. It's been a long road for me but the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter each day. Hang in there Hun these things have their own way of working themselves out. Trying to force any issues when you and your parents are in the state of mind they are in right now nothing posative is going to come out of it. I know this sounds dumb but ask your mom out for a coffee and have a little heart ot heart with her. Don't take things personally be open to her cnstructive critisism but make sure she is aware that it goes both way. Work very hard on not letting it become a bitch fest because that won't help either of you. Trying a little heart to heart works if shes not into coffee try going for an after dinner walk. Just get out of the house do not start this talk in the house. Let me know how it goes. Stay posative because through a posative mental attitude you can achieve anything.
Good luck
G

^^^
say what u want..i haev problems at home too..but i dont tell the whole world about it..to me..i think u should just keep it to urself..not write about it on here...we dont all know eachother....And i know steph..shes just doing it so maybe osmeone will feel sorry for her and be her friend..shes a user and a backstaber....trust me! but whatever..everyone on here seems to say mean shit to me but no one gives a fuck..im tirede of fnk bullshit...no ones nice on here....so why bother telling them how much ur life sux!!!!!

[charly]

^ so we aren't supposed to take her post seriously, but we're supposed to trust you and everything you say?

get over it.
if you don't like her, good for you. she can post whatever she wants, the same way you can.

and really now, if you're so tired of fnk bullshit, then just fucking leave already!

[Playboybuny]

Originally Posted by charly

^ so we aren't supposed to take her post seriously, but we're supposed to trust you and everything you say?

get over it.
if you don't like her, good for you. she can post whatever she wants, the same way you can.

and really now, if you're so tired of fnk bullshit, then just fucking leave already!

Fuck u bitch...u listen to a loser liek her..but no one once again cares what i haev to say..whatevre..lol...i dont give a fuck...and ill leave when i want to...dont tell me what to do!

[charly]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

Fuck u bitch...u listen to a loser liek her..but no one once again cares what i haev to say..whatevre..lol...i dont give a fuck...and ill leave when i want to...dont tell me what to do!

oh no, no one cares what you have to say! cry me a fucking river.

i'm not listening to her at all, because in case you couldn't read.. i didn't reply to her post.

i really don't care if you stay or leave, it was simply a suggestion. you seem to not like it here, so why the hell would you stay? oh yay! LETS STAY IN PLACES I DONT LIKE WHEN I DONT HAVE TOO! FUN TIMES FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY!#%

[Playboybuny]

Originally Posted by charly

oh no, no one cares what you have to say! cry me a fucking river.

i'm not listening to her at all, because in case you couldn't read.. i didn't reply to her post.

i really don't care if you stay or leave, it was simply a suggestion. you seem to not like it here, so why the hell would you stay? oh yay! LETS STAY IN PLACES I DONT LIKE WHEN I DONT HAVE TOO! FUN TIMES FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY!#%

ur weird....u didnt even have to get into this conversation..and if u didnt care if i leave or stay/.they why the fuck u talkin about it???? just stay out of this..i was talking to trance_bunny.. not u!

[charly]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

ur weird....u didnt even have to get into this conversation..and if u didnt care if i leave or stay/.they why the fuck u talkin about it???? just stay out of this..i was talking to trance_bunny.. not u!

wow you just don't get it.

hellohi, public forum. i can say what i want and get into any conversation i please. you said something, and i made a comment about it. do you get how it starts now?

do you not remember what you wrote? maybe try going back and reading it

everyone on here seems to say mean shit to me but no one gives a fuck..im tirede of fnk bullshit

so with that, i suggested leaving, since leaving a place you don't like and don't have to be at would be the logical thing to do.

[Playboybuny]

Originally Posted by charly

wow you just don't get it.

hellohi, public forum. i can say what i want and get into any conversation i please. you said something, and i made a comment about it. do you get how it starts now?

do you not remember what you wrote? maybe try going back and reading it
so with that, i suggested leaving, since leaving a place you don't like and don't have to be at would be the logical thing to do.

u dont get it either....i was talking to her..not u...ur the one who started this bullshit...so shut the fuck up..ya u can say anythign u want on here....but i was talking ot her..u didnt need to say that shit to me....why dont u drop it...ur the one whos gettin mad at me now...chill out!

[~*tct*~]

well from what im reading u seem to be young and naive, its not bad thing i was once young and naive myself, thought like u do, acted like u do ,thought my mom was tryin to ruin my life but when i got older i realized the only reason she acted the way she did (and she acted just like ur mom) is because she cares i know u dont think thats why now, but when u grow up a little u will understand why she is the way she is, im sure shes just scared that ur throwin ur life away believe me i dont know ur mom but i know she loves u and wants the best for u, i dont know ur situation but maybe ur mom dosnt want u to grow up and be like her, that was the case with my mom shes 37 single with 3 kids and dosnt have the best job, and she was the way she was cuz she loved me and cared, just think if ur mom didnt care at all, she wouldnt yell at u or treat the way she does, she would just say fuck it and let u go to it, i know u dont wanna hear it but u need to talk with ur mom, sit down have a heart to heart tell eachother how u feel with out screamin and yellin cuz that gets u know where. neway good luck, keep ur spirit up k hun:)

[charly]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

u dont get it either....i was talking to her..not u...ur the one who started this bullshit...so shut the fuck up..ya u can say anythign u want on here....but i was talking ot her..u didnt need to say that shit to me....why dont u drop it...ur the one whos gettin mad at me now...chill out!

actually, i do get it. you weren't even talking to her, you were quoting someone else.

and yes, i did say something and start this. what's your point?
i didn't need to say anything to you, the same way you didn't need to reply if you didn't want to.

and i'm actually quite calm, not mad at all, but thanks anyways.

[LEEROY CHANG!!]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

u dont get it either....i was talking to her..not u...ur the one who started this bullshit...so shut the fuck up..ya u can say anythign u want on here....but i was talking ot her..u didnt need to say that shit to me....why dont u drop it...ur the one whos gettin mad at me now...chill out!

U R STUPID

YOU FACE IS LIKE BROKEN

WHY BOYFRIEND NEVER SMILE? HE MAD AT YOU AND LOOK LIKE BACKSTREET BOY

BITCH FUCKING CUTCHOO

[Playboybuny]

LOL............whatever u say...lol...I know her..u dont...if u knew her..then u would understand...sorry for sayin what i said to u all *Charly*..but i will not say sorry to trance_bunny. she does this to everyoen so people feel sorry for her...i understadn u need to open up and let people know..but this gurl is fucked up and uses it so she can have friends...I just dotn liek how shes no goign on the net and letting peopel feel sorry for her...her stories r lies..but whatevre...i have nothing else to say...theres no point

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

^^^
say what u want..i haev problems at home too..but i dont tell the whole world about it..to me..i think u should just keep it to urself..not write about it on here...we dont all know eachother....And i know steph..shes just doing it so maybe osmeone will feel sorry for her and be her friend..shes a user and a backstaber....trust me! but whatever..everyone on here seems to say mean shit to me but no one gives a fuck..im tirede of fnk bullshit...no ones nice on here....so why bother telling them how much ur life sux!!!!!

DON'T EVER VENT YOUR FEELINGS!

KEEP THEM BOTTLED DEEP DOWN INSIDE IN A SPECIAL PLACE KNOWN ONLY TO YOU!

Thanks Marge. We could've done without that though.

[G-Style]

I didn't want to cause all this crazy arguing simply to state that if someone is going through some shit in their life and just need an outside opinion to try and make some sense of a situation then she should feel ok about posting her thoughts for assistance. I don't know about you but if I can help someone out even if it's in a minor way then I'll do it simply because I care about my fellow man/women.
G

[Dr. Doom]

Is it just Doom or do a good deal of the poeple in this thread have no idea what the "enter" key is for?

As for trance_bunny, suck it up ya fucking pussy.

[~*tct*~]

to all u negative people, put urself in her shoes and walk a mile before u judge

[Playboybuny]

u dont understand..shes just wants people to feel sorry for her...her life doesnt suck that much...she made it suck cause she stubern and wont listen to anyoen but herself!!!

[Newbie4life]

Originally Posted by Playboybuny

u dont understand..shes just wants people to feel sorry for her...her life doesnt suck that much...she made it suck cause she stubern and wont listen to anyoen but herself!!!

seems like you're just as stubborn as trance_bunny about not listening...
are you or were you her friend? and do u just follow her around and try to protect everyone she talks to? Just cause its the same ol' story to you about her, it doesnt mean everyone in the world should stop listening to her. Have you ever stop to think that maybe if she did get some good advice to deal with what she goes thru she might stop bitchin. Now, i know that trance bunny's problems arent really that valid and a huge problem, but why do you have to go around and be mean.

[Newbie4life]

Originally Posted by trance_bunny

I honestly don't know what to do any more. The same shit keeps happening with them and I am going to go insaine and/or have a nervous breakdown. I had to leave my dad's house b/c I couldn't take my step-mom, she hates me and honestly was trying to ruin my life, so I came to live with my mom hoping that I could find some peace and happieness here. Well was I ever wrong. Every time I turn around she is trying to kick me out of her house for doing anything she doesn't like. Frist it was weed, than hard drugs, which I know she doesn't want me doing but you shouldn't kick your kid out and say that you are helping them when your putting them on the streets. Now she wants to kick me out for smoking, and also if i wear shit that she doesn't like!!! I honestly don't know what the fuck is wrong with her... she needs help... she tells me that she loves me and all that bullshit but apparently only if I do what she wants me to do. She also says she'll kick me out over the friends I hang out with. Ok I'll tell her I don't go to raves any more, I don't smoke weed and I don't smoke cigaretts... but there is no way in hell she can tell me what to wear or who to hang out with... I am freeking out here I don't know how to handle this... it wouldn't be so bad if it didn't happen so often but it happens every day and I can't take her yelling at me any more. And my dad is pissed off at my mom so to get back at her he wont let me come stay with him and there is no way I can live on my own. Im lost and freeking out and I just needed to vent but some possitive feed back would be nice... anything at this moment to help me out.
Stressed out to the max,
Luv Trance bunny

stop stressing... its bad for you. Your parents arent as bad as you percieve them to be. I was a stupid shit years back, running away and stuff cause my mom would piss me off to the point where i wanted to shoot myself. Honestly i look back now and i dont even know what all the yellings and screamings were about. Thiings may not look so good now but thats life, before you know it you'll be the one who seems like the wicked witch mom to your kids. Even if you dont think you will be

[trance_bunny]

Originally Posted by mugsy

first question... how old are you?
my input - during my most rebelious moments, (which i do not regret) my mother told me what not to wear, she would tell me my friends were bad people and do whatever she could to prevent me from seeing them, and well i was a good little lier, she never knew about anything else, well anything else into gross detail. im sure she knew some but not all. and well, she was right. i shouldnt have been hanging out with highschool drop outs, i shouldnt have been drinking or smoking weed, i shouldnt have been out as late as i was.
i agree that your mothers tactics are not the best, but it could depend on how you react to previous tactics. maybe she knows that if she grounds you, youll just leave anyways (this may or may not be the case, its mostly an example) or that simple yelling is something you dont respond to and so on. it doesnt excuse kicking your kid out on the streets, but it could be a reason for the actions.
try comprimise?
also, as much fun as you have with your friends, are they really good for you\good people? if they are, then definately stick with them. good friends can be hard to find. but remember your not going to be able to be a fun loving at raves all night doing drugs kinda person your whole life, maybe it might be time to start minusing some of those aspects from your life? but again maybe it isnt.
and always keep in mind that this is what mothers and daughters do at this point in their relationship. you are becoming a woman, she doesnt want to loose the little girl she had. its a power struggle with horomones mixed into it.
it sucks and its hard, and you think your right, and she thinks shes right, and who knows who is? just do your best to comprimise, and pick your battles.

thanks for the advise, me and my mom had a long talk and did work it out.. the main thing is i hadn't lived with her since i was 11 and she was trying to lay down the same rules on me now at 18.
and i would also like to thank those who deffended me over what playboybunny rudley said and if you truley knew me soleil, instead of being pissed off at me, you would have never said those things in the first place. i made this thread b/c at some points in your life you seem overwhelmed and it is always nice to have an outsidders oppinion, maybe they can see things that you never noticed before... so to all the nice entries in here i thank those that wrote them
bunny

[trance_bunny]

Originally Posted by Newbie4life

stop stressing... its bad for you. Your parents arent as bad as you percieve them to be. I was a stupid shit years back, running away and stuff cause my mom would piss me off to the point where i wanted to shoot myself. Honestly i look back now and i dont even know what all the yellings and screamings were about. Thiings may not look so good now but thats life, before you know it you'll be the one who seems like the wicked witch mom to your kids. Even if you dont think you will be

i know it had been a bad week and i was stressed over other shit as well.... we worked things out its amazing how if you take time away from everything and look at the situation in a whole new perspective, maybe your parents to see where they are coming from, it helps you to find a solution and make amends.
bunny