Being cheated on...

[heatherness]

hmm... i was cheated on once, to my knowledge.. it was so harsh, worst way to get cheated on. he did it with my bestfriend.. both got burnt. bitches. i don't understand the concept of cheating either.. is it just for the rush of maybe getting caught or what. i've never cheated.. its just stupid.

[Rhianna]

^bestfriend, wow now that's harsh.

[heatherness]

Originally Posted by Rhianna

^bestfriend, wow now that's harsh.

yeah for sure.. i already knew it happened, but then she told me the next day like what exactly happened... apparently i wasn't supposed to be "that" mad at her because she told me. but fuck that, if u were my bestfriend why would you even think about hanging out with my boyfriend alone..

i think i still hold some anger about this topic.. haha

[char_rave69]

i personaly have never understood cheating either.. it realy makes no sence..if u have a partner then u have made that commitment to that person there-for sacraficing being with any other girl/boy..if u ever have an erdge to cheat or r thinking aboutanoutehr girl in that mannert.. why wouldnt u just end it.. if he didnt care about ur feelings enought that he would do that to u, then hes totaly not worth it and its not ment to be .. im so sorry that u had to go thro this hun..but i guess u have to look on the broght side.. oviously ur friedn isnt a tru friend and it better that ur not now becasue anyone who will take advatage of there best friedns trust isnt worth it for u..and any b/f or g/f that cheats on u isnt someone ud wanna be with...goin thro somehtign like this just makes u more aware in the future and u can see thing b4 they happen..i havnt been cheated on but ive been in similar situations and its only made me a better person in the end and i would have never found my b/f i have now.. who is just soo unbeliveable in my eyes..ne ways just thoguht id dtate my opinion and give u props for dumping them both ur worht more then those peices of scum

[neoh]

no.
I keep my women very happy.

Men: Treat your women like the queens they are and never take them for granted.

Women: If a guy is good to his mother, he will be good to you.

[MistressSpankME]

Originally Posted by galaxie

I haven't been, to my knowledge...although it wouldn't surprise me if a couple of my ex's did - they were idiots.

Ditto.

[*Geminiz*]

That's what I would do too (punch them in the face)... actually that's what I did do and boy did it feel good! Normally I wouldn't be that violent, but finding out your boyfriend of 4 years has had another girlfriend for 2 years would bring out the worst in anybody.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Kandyapple

Would I just walk away? Or would I punch them in their fucking face. Who knows.

haha.
I'd probably bitch slap with the left hand, and then as their face was falling to the right, hit 'em with a nice right hook. They'd never see the punch coming 'cause, you know, girls slap ;p

[bungoshlung]

Originally Posted by galaxie

haha.
I'd probably bitch slap with the left hand, and then as their face was falling to the right, hit 'em with a nice right hook. They'd never see the punch coming 'cause, you know, girls slap ;p

thats what i hate about girls, the slapping and hair pulling, so pathetic.. just lay a fucking punch already

[Lush]

I've almost come to expect it, I seem to have really bad luck or make really stupid choices when it comes to the guys I date.

I hate it, I have major trust issues because of this.

[mugsy]

my first long term boyfriend cheated on me - repeatedly.
i was young and kinda stupid and always thought he did it because i wasnt being good enough....
anyways he did it with a stripper, with his ex, with a younger girl, and with another girl repeatedly.
the younger girl had alot of nerve, she knew me, i knew her, and she had the fucking balls to walk on up to me smiling in a park so i one punched her. then later she was in a parking lot hiding in a car, but the sun roof was open so i reached through that grabbed her by her hair and pulled her, but she didnt fit through so i just kept hitting her head on the top of the car. bitch shouldnt have done it. but really i shoulda been kicking his ass.
cheating sucks, gives you oodles and oodles of issues you never had before, that you can know are fake but are still hard to shake.

[dapimpstress]

I would MOS DEF clock them in the face, they would hella deserve it. I have never cheated on anyone and i dont think i have been cheated on (but you know you can never be absolutely sure...) and thats the most mad sketch thing you could do to someone. WERD.

ashlee

Originally Posted by Rhianna

Yeah Lauren, I was going to vote for punching them in the fucking face too. I know that's what I would do.

[stringbeans]

i dont think ive ever been cheated on

im totally against it. i mean if you're going to put the time and effort into a relationship why would you ruin it by doing something stupid like that. and the spur-of-the-moment is no excuse... its called self control.

[galaxie]

^ woid up hizzomie

[Jingles]

Originally Posted by LadyShades

I hate it, I have major trust issues because of this.

don't let 'them' win
don't let idiots be the reason you can't trust another man. Of course you'll have to use cautionin future....but don't forget that it wasn't your current partner who did this to you, it was those int he past

I have never been cheated on
i have never cheated
when i get into a relationship with a man (which is uber rare) i am up front -- that i won't cheat, if i have the need to hump another i will dump the person i am with
and i expect the same respect

if i ever found out that i was being cheated on
well, punching a man in the face really wouldn't express my anger as much as as a kick to the balls in stilettos would

[Pegasus]

ive been cheated on at least once. who knows how many other times...

i agree with neoh and johnbeans.

[Kandyapple]

Originally Posted by Jingles

don't let 'them' win
don't let idiots be the reason you can't trust another man. Of course you'll have to use caution in future....but don't forget that it wasn't your current partner who did this to you, it was those int he past

Exactly. Although I know it can be hard to let go of the pain that was inflicted from someone you cared about. Like I said, to my knowledge I have never been cheated on. But I still have fears and painfull memories from some experiences that I have a hard time letting go of. Even though I trust who I am with now more than anyone. I still have dreams, or just thoughts of it happening. And it makes me angry, or incredibly sad. I know I've broken into tears just thinking of it at times.

I usually tell my boyfriend about it. But at the same time I feel bad because it can appear as if I'm worried that he will do it to me. I'm not at all, because I fully trust him. But sometimes you just cant help where your mind wanders when you remember things that hurt you. Sometimes that fear just still lingers, even when your happy with your current partner.
I just try to reinforce that I have total trust in him. It's just that sometimes I need to vent some old wounds. And not to worry that I think that he is capable of doing that to me.

[Lush]

Originally Posted by Jingles

don't let 'them' win
don't let idiots be the reason you can't trust another man. Of course you'll have to use cautionin future....but don't forget that it wasn't your current partner who did this to you, it was those int he past

I have never been cheated on
i have never cheated
when i get into a relationship with a man (which is uber rare) i am up front -- that i won't cheat, if i have the need to hump another i will dump the person i am with
and i expect the same respect

if i ever found out that i was being cheated on
well, punching a man in the face really wouldn't express my anger as much as as a kick to the balls in stilettos would

you're completely right, but it's so hard when you invest a lot of feelings in a person and in turn have that taken for granted and ruined. I guess I've just seen it happen so many times to myself and to a lot of my close friends that I always have a certain degree of doubt.
I'm sure it'll pass, I think just have the tendency to jump from one relationship or fling to another and I never really give myself a chance to "heal" or just reflect on the situation, learn and grow from it.

I don't believe in cheating, I like to be honest and upfront about things and I'm also under that belief that if there's someone else i'd rather be with then I'd break up with my current boyfriend before anything would happen and that I expect the same on his part (Although this doesn't really happen on my part because if I make the decision to be with a person it's usually for a reason and there would probably have to be major relationship issues to cause my feelings to divert elsewhere).

Maybe I'll try the stilettos thing next time because God knows I have the stilettos to kick some major ass.

[hardstylin]

never been never have never will.

[Prissypants]

Been cheated on...At the time it bothered me, but that was when I was younger and had different views towards sex as I do now. Now I am straight up with my partners and tell them to sleep with whomever they want. I could care less who my partner sleeps with. (As long as they use protection). In the same token, if I ever feel the desire to be with someone else, I will.

What most people don't realize is that cheating often has little or nothing to do with the person being cheated on. It is merely our desire for novelty that leads one down that path. Society is too saturated with the ideals of monogomy. All too often people somehow think that love and lust are the same thing when they are, in fact, very different.

I think a more interesting thread would be: who here has cheated on someone and how did it make you feel?

[Josie]

yes i have, it reli hurts and it reli hurts even more when u see it happen...BAHH

[Kandyapple]

You know what you do when you walk in on that. *PUNCH*

[hardstylin]

Originally Posted by Prissypants

Been cheated on...At the time it bothered me, but that was when I was younger and had different views towards sex as I do now. Now I am straight up with my partners and tell them to sleep with whomever they want. I could care less who my partner sleeps with. (As long as they use protection). In the same token, if I ever feel the desire to be with someone else, I will.

What most people don't realize is that cheating often has little or nothing to do with the person being cheated on. It is merely our desire for novelty that leads one down that path. Society is too saturated with the ideals of monogomy. All too often people somehow think that love and lust are the same thing when they are, in fact, very different.

I think a more interesting thread would be: who here has cheated on someone and how did it make you feel?

swinga baby ya!

[Leningrad]

Originally Posted by Prissypants

I think a more interesting thread would be: who here has cheated on someone and how did it make you feel?

I have, more than once. It's always been in a relationship where the understanding was one of monogamy and it's always been for different reasons. I've been too giving, I've been selfish. With the exception of one glorious time, it's always been a mistake.

I don't generally feel guilty, because I think if you do something of your own free will, you should accept it for what it is. Still, the relationship I'm in now is stable enough that if we were to want something different, we could talk about it and work something out. Right now though, I can't see that need arising.

[Kandyapple]

Ok I’m going to admit to my one time too.
Some may not think it was so bad because it was only a kiss. But for me to say that that isn't cheating on my part would make me a hypocrite, because I would be fucking pissed if someone did it to me.
But I have never forgiven myself for it. It still makes me sad to think that I did it while dating someone. We broke up about a week later, and I knew at the time that it was over. Unfortunately I just tried to hold onto the relationship way past my breaking point. I had grown cold emotionaly long before, and just dragged it out. We were acting like were were only friends for a long time.
I feel like I disrespected the person. I never told him though since it was over. I didn't think it was very necessary to add insult to injury at that point. (I have other reasons for it at well). But being a person that believes in monogamy in a relationship, it does not make me very proud of my actions. I know that I would never like to be treated that way. And I never plan to do it again.