Waiting

[miss.myra]

What is the longest you've waited in life for something you really wanted? Was the wait worth it? Do you regret limiting yourself to something during the waiting process even after you got what you wanted all along?


It's pretty vague, but I just want to know how people feel on waiting for the really important things in life- what is more important, living in the moment? or making sacrifices for the bigger picture?

[ebbomega]

Two months. To move back from Vancouver from Nanaimo. That's the amount of time between when I heard it was plausible and when I actually moved.

It depends though.

You could say I waited 7-8 months in Nanaimo, because part of the whole plan was to eventually make it back to Van. But I wouldn't call that waiting really. I find it best to find the best way to ask the world/God/whatever the fuck it is you pray to, and then ask. Then leave it alone.

I asked out loud by myself (conversations with God... sometimes getting prayers answered is simply a matter of ASKING THE RIGHT QUESTION) to be allowed to move back to Vancouver back in February. May rolled around and I was told that my department was moving to Vancouver and we were practically guaranteed transfers if we wanted. So maybe you could say I had been waiting since February.

Or you could ultimately say that I'd been waiting since the day I moved back to the island... except a year after that I decided not to worry about it anymore and put those plans on hold and just enjoyed living on the island... So maybe I waited a year and then gave up for a year, finally waiting for 2 months after they told me I was going back...

So it's tough to say how long I've actually waited.

So I just choose to accept that I've been waiting my whole life so I could be exactly where I'm at.

[sidekick]

i waited (not by choice) 6 months and ten days for something that i really wanted and now that i have it i'm the happiest boy in the world.

i think the waiting made me a stronger person, but i'm not sure. all i know is that everyday i waited it made me more sure that it was what i really wanted.

[ebbomega]

"Too light the winning doth make the prize light."
- Prospero, The Tempest

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by Sidekick

i waited (not by choice) 6 months and ten days for something that i really wanted and now that i have it i'm the happiest boy in the world.

i think the waiting made me a stronger person, but i'm not sure. all i know is that everyday i waited it made me more sure that it was what i really wanted.

Did you miss out on anything in that time period that you regret missing though? Or were you able to see past missed opportunities because you were so focused on the big picture?

[mapleleaf4ever]

stilllllllll waiting...

[cubed]

^don't worry erik, the left one will drop soon enough.

[mapleleaf4ever]

Dear God I hope so... it's so annoying standing with an offset Centre of Gravity. :(

[dabbler]

i pass on everything in the interest of the 'big picture'
it's the unfortunate result of thinking about everything too much.
if i lived in the moment i suppose i'd have more fun, but i would be making more mistakes, usually at the expense of others.

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by dabbler

i pass on everything in the interest of the 'big picture'
it's the unfortunate result of thinking about everything too much.
if i lived in the moment i suppose i'd have more fun, but i would be making more mistakes, usually at the expense of others.

Yes, but i've always known you to get what you truly want after gruelling tests of patience, it's almost inspiring Jay.. :P

[Silverwinged]

I'm a fan of the whole "good things come to those who wait" kinda thing.
Sometimes, I'm too caught up in the here and now to recognize the good things and at other times I can be so intently focused on waiting that I have to remind myself to breathe and carry on.
catch 22.

edit: i think if you wait for ANYTHING for a signifigant period of time, there MUST be some good in it; if there wasn't, why would you have waited for it at all in the first place?
I'm still waiting for the things I value, and even if everything doesn't turn out (which it won't, way of life) I'm still going to be damn happy because waiting is one hell of an adventure.

[cinist]

what i want changes every five minutes so i just enjoy the things that fall into my lap

[-evil-duerr-]

Waiting is worth it. Always.
Living life in the moment, the benefits rarely ever last any longer than the moment itself.
When you work towards goals, not only do you have the immediate satisfaction that your bettering your self and helping your own future. But in most cases, with perseverance, youll also get the bonus of completing a goal you never wouldve completed if you were too busy "smelling the flowers", to stick to your guns and chase the dream .

[dabbler]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

Yes, but i've always known you to get what you truly want after gruelling tests of patience, it's almost inspiring Jay.. :P

fuck now if only that were true lately.... i've been waiting FOREVER.

[Ree Fresh]

Ive waited and am waiting on some prety big things in my life (whether it be emotional/material) Sometimes I have to wait months, a year... years. Life goes by so fast though you hardly notice it and it comes to you in a flash. The waiting proccess can sometimes be really painful, depressing, and worse of all takes your mind away from living the moment.

When I look back at things ive waitied for it was never worth the anxiety and pain. I regret the times I waisted dredding the wait. Like I siad before the things you wait for will come in a flash and when you look back all that waiting will look like nothing at all. From my personal experince im pretty keen on living for th emoment and believe things will come when its time and happen for a reason. Sometimes I think its better we have dreams, goals and things we wait for in life... makes life more worth living.

[AD Rock]

i like waiting till everything happens at once then the good times keep on rollin!!

[Harp]

12 hours for me. I waited and waited until my shift at work was over then bam out came the corona and no regrets whatsoever

[Veni*C]

still waiting. but dont really care anymore....

[Kraig]

I'm assuming this topic is to do with waiting for a a significant other Myrasauce?

My opinion on waiting...
- You shouldn't wait for someone especially if you don't know when they'll be back or they don't even know that! -- Does it mean you like them any less, absolutely not. It simply means that you should not be putting your life on hold for something that is at that point, un-predictable.

Life itself is unpredictable and anything could happen at any time. You need to ensure you are not missing out on any chances to experience and enjoy life to its fullest.

If in fact anything with this dude is meant to happen, it will... when the time is right.

[sidekick]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

Did you miss out on anything in that time period that you regret missing though? Or were you able to see past missed opportunities because you were so focused on the big picture?

there was one time in the summer (last summer) that i took an opportunity where i thought i wanted something else, but it turned out that after a month of that i couldn't stop thinking about the other thing so i had to drop it.

i would say that i don't feel like i missed out on anything. but i can say that more confidently now because i'm not waiting anymore...however, while i was waiting maybe i felt like i was missing out on other things while waiting for this one to happen.

[Sykonee]

I'm not one to wait around much but a great deal of things that I want, I don't consider it to be waiting for in order to achieve it.

Waiting is when you are just twiddling your thumbs doing nothing, a sort of powerless passing of time where you only have your sights set on something that you expect to occur. This can be as simple as waiting for that damned pizza to arrive (thing should have been here half hour ago! If it ain't hot, I ain't payin') but all too often we do this with big goals as well. "I'll wait until the time is right to do this" or "I'll wait until they're finished doing that before I engage them" types of things.

I've learned (the hard way, of course) that the more pro-active you are in what you want, the greater the results are when you attain whatever it is you've been waiting for yourself (ha! I just went up to the pizza parlor to pick it up myself, and didn't even have to pay for delivery).

If you want something, you should be working towards getting it. The more you work towards it, the less it feels like you are just passively waiting around.

[Akeel]

i dont wait for shit.

[кιŧŧεŋ]

Originally Posted by Akeel

i dont wait for shit.

well aren't you Mr. Impatient Akeel :392:

[robyn]

At least you know it's eventually coming, Myra-anna.

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by robyn

At least you know it's eventually coming, Myra-anna.

Hmm, no. You're not entirely certain of what is going to happen until it actually happens.