Friends becoming more then friends?.

Ashley*Dawn · #1 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

Anyone ever do this and actually have it work out?. I've been friends with this guy for a couple of year's now. I haven't started to feel more then the friend thing a couple month's ago. I've sorta acted on it but nothing extreme. I just don't know if I want cross that line from friendship to something more, I'm scared to lose a friendship.

Silverwinged · #2 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

talk it out.
its the onlllly way to avoid awkwardness.

SEAN! · #3 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

if you like them and are attracted to them, then why not? From a cost benefit perspective you have alot more to gain then to lose. Even if you can't be friends immediately after things go sideways you can always try to re-establish the friendship later on and the risk of that not happening is probably worth it any way.

it is a pretty good way to start a relationship, i also figure that if they're good enough to be a friend they're also good enough to date, well in most cases atleast :)

don't be a wuss go for it.

g!ggles · #4 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

worked for me =) 3 years and counting <3

-evil-duerr- · #5 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

go for it.

i think at the back of most people's minds. The person they'd really like to be with, is a person that has all the qualites of a best friend - but more.

find out of yer buddy has the - but more.

Carrie · #6 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

do you think that you could be friends again if it doesn't work out?

SEAN! · #7 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

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Originally Posted by Carrie

do you think that you could be friends again if it doesn't work out?

we've(I) already established that that dosn't really matter

Carrie · #8 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

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Originally Posted by SEAN!

we've(I) already established that that dosn't really matter

some people think it matters.

pinkpanther · #9 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

I think itmatters.....and if things dont work out the friendship will never be the same,atleast not for a long time. I know this from experience.

SEAN! · #10 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

friends are a dime a dozen, but if you find love with someone, no matter how fleeting its always worthwhile.

Liqwid · #11 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

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Originally Posted by SEAN!

but if you find love with someone, no matter how fleeting its always worthwhile.

i moved across country for love........

miss.myra · #12 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

me!!!

LLaaUUrrYYn · #13 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

It's hard to have feelings for someone and never act on it. I think you should go for it.

If he doesnt feel the same way, make sure you let him know that the friendship is important and you dont want things to be awkward. If you act mature and grown up about the situation, hopefully he will too.

Good luck!! =)

PwInCeSs · #14 (**permalink**) Feb 20, 07

Go for it hunni!
It worked great for me, you were a bridesmaid!

Ashley*Dawn · #15 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

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Originally Posted by Carrie

do you think that you could be friends again if it doesn't work out?

That's what I worry about, I think we could be freinds again, I just don't want to risk us not being friends. I don't know. I'm going out with him this weekend so I'm gunna decide if I'm gunna go for it or not. I think I'm just gunna do it. If he doesn't feel the same I'll know then I can stop trying or keep going forward if he feel's the same.

esoter1c · #16 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

Theres no such thing as friends after sex.

.muffy. · #17 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

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Originally Posted by miss.myra

me!!!

Myra and her man are a perfect example of a friendship turning into more and it totally working out. :)

And for the record, I agree with Seanu.. dont be a wuss: go for it. you might be staring down the barrel of something amazing and you'd never get the chance to find out because you were too busy thinking too far down the road.
live in the now.

Ashley*Dawn · #18 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

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Originally Posted by 3507321C

Theres no such thing as friends after sex.

not always, I think it's once you get the emotions in there and it end's the friendship's weird. I've slept with a friend and nothing in our friendship changed.

Pussy*Kat · #19 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

Ashley, do it. I know how you feel about him. Hes so cute and hes a lot of fun. You cant really go wrong. From what I know of him, he is mature and if it doesnt work out I know you'll both still come out as friends.

Take risk. If you dont youll play "what if's" for the rest of your life. Just go for it hunny.

ebbomega · #20 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

Current gf and I started as friends, then fuckbuddies, now we're together. No complaints thus far.

Ashley*Dawn · #21 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

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Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

Ashley, do it. I know how you feel about him. Hes so cute and hes a lot of fun. You cant really go wrong. From what I know of him, he is mature and if it doesnt work out I know you'll both still come out as friends.

Take risk. If you dont youll play "what if's" for the rest of your life. Just go for it hunny.

He's so fun, he's not gunna come out on sat though:(. He asked me if I wanted to do something friday though.

mekim · #22 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

my relationships with friends have always been worth it. you've generally got a pretty solid foundation of trust already there so you don't have a lot of the jitters that might come at the beginning of a relationship. basically, you already know you get along well with that person, you know you're attracted to them and you know they're your friend. any true friend will never be lost as long as you treat them with respect during the relationship, even if it has to come to an end.

Caps/\L0cK · #23 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

It will never work out as long as you are scared to loose the friendship you have going now. Thats like the largest cockblock, except with cock replaced by successful relationship.

Ive done this twice now, and both times it ended up not working out. Sometimes all these feelings we feel in friendship arnt the same when you start to spend the same amount of time sexually. Things often get wierd, and sometimes knowing everything about the person already becomes a problem. Its hard to explore new things.

But ive seen it work out great. But from my experience it never lasts. And usually the break ups are smooth.. because both people will tend to see more eye to eye... which is why you should worry about the friendship if you do go for it, because it will still be there after.

dabbler · #24 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

my gf and i were friends for quite awhile first, and i've never been happier. sometimes it is difficult to change the friendship into something more, but if it works, it works reaaaaaally well :)

Pussy*Kat · #25 (**permalink**) Feb 21, 07

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Originally Posted by Ashley*Dawn

He's so fun, he's not gunna come out on sat though:(. He asked me if I wanted to do something friday though.

Can you remind me why were going to Tonic?!

I think you should talk to him Friday. I have a huge good feeling about it after last Saturday. You can see theres something there but I have a feeling hes just as scared of ruining a friendship as you are.

It goes back to the whole risk thing. If you dont try youll play "what if's". If you do and things dont work you guys can still be friends, no harm no foul. But if it does work I can see you two being together for a while :)

<3 you Bitch