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Feb 21, 07
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I've done this twice. One guy I dated for 3.5 yrs, another for nearly 2. You have to accept the risk that you may no longer be friends should the relationship not work out. If you've just gotta know, then as mentioned above, talk it out, and give it a go. Good luck!
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Feb 22, 07
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That's not always true, Blake. I'm pretty good at keeping it casual after the fact.
As for the whole dating friends thing.. they're usually the ones that I'm attracted to. Mind you, I'm kind of picky so it doesn't happen often. Still, even now I've got it bad for a friend.
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Feb 22, 07
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I always say 'slower for success' you've already known him for two years, so IMO you're already winning....good luck.
Just as long as its not a desperate lonley plee to the dude right under your nose, he's probably wanted to get with you for a while, so all i say is if you do have feelings don't be wishy washy about them and be sure of yourself. I'm sure guys like you all the time, but you have to ask yourself if this is the right guy. Sometimes girls get too excited by the fact that someone might want to go out with them, when really...there are probably plently guys...it's all on you really.
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Feb 22, 07
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lol @ kat saying take a risk
I say go for it. You have feelings for someone, then let him know and if you guys are as good as friends as you are then i dont think it will cause any akwardness. I told my best friend i liked her about 2 years ago and it's made us closer then ever. Love is a risk, simple as that. Sometimes things aren't going to go your way. But if they do, isn't that risk worth it? :) Goodluck!
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Mar 10, 07
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Tread carefully with eyes open; hide nothing from each other. This is why I like LD relationships; it's always going to be a friendship as long as there are no means to make it love. Last edited by Ninja_Sage; Mar 10, 07 at 05:09 PM.
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Mar 10, 07
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i was friends with this guy for a year and then i moved in as a roommate...
things changed one night we were drunk and ended up sleeping together, but instead of it getting weird it slowly turned into a relationship. to tell you the truth it was the best relationship ive ever had. we were best friends and lovers. it was great. sadly eventually we broke up but we are still friends now to this day and im glad for that. you should go for it girl... whats the worst that could happen...
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Mar 10, 07
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I dated this one girl, but things didn't work so we broke up. So we decided to be just friends, now I'm dating this other girl and my ex (and friend) thinks we should get back together.
I got no idea what I should do in this situation. I like the girl that I'm with now, but I love my ex. But I also love having her as my best friend and her friendship is worth alot to me, so I don't want to risk losing her as a friend if it doesn't work out again.
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Mar 10, 07
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If the former, then you should see how the ex/friend feels about you. If the latter, is it closer to marriage than with the ex? I can see you're not tempted. Your heart might have been crushed. Glad to see you two are friends.
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Mar 10, 07
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ashley, i think u should ask yourself how much your friendship with this fine young man means to you. are you the type of person that stays friends with ur ex's afterwards, or do you tend to lose contact with them due to the akwardness of his presence or other resaons pertaining to the breakup? if you answered yes to the first question, then go for it (if you haven't already). you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. if you answered yes to the second question, then you gotta ask yourself "is this really worth possibly losing a great friendship over?" think about it. and best of luck to you! =)
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Mar 10, 07
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I don't have these kind of problems. Though I will admit I've been intimate with more women than I "dated" and the women I "dated" I slept with.
No more of that for me. It's strictly dating-courtship-marriage before the bed rocks for me. And only the committed & devoted put me on their lovers ladder.
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Mar 10, 07
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I could never do it. I've known my one friend for 6 years now and he's like my brother.
It would be so weired.
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Mar 10, 07
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As for which one is hotter its the girl I'm dating now, she's polish 5'8" 115lbs., amazing tan, long brown hair and green eyes and best of all she's very smart :) Last edited by Two_Six; Mar 10, 07 at 10:10 PM.
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Mar 10, 07
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i just IM with a lady in Santa Cruz county CA.
we're just far enough apart not to be paranoid about bumping into each other in the mall. how come local ladies aren't this nice on IM chat? Last edited by Ninja_Sage; Mar 11, 07 at 02:57 AM.
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Mar 10, 07
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We're still friends. It's all good. <3 loove you lala.
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Mar 10, 07
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Mar 11, 07
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I remember that day like it was yesterday. Gutentag? <3
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Mar 11, 07
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friends to relationship is the best way to have a good understanding and have a "understanding/knowing the person well" relationship. the only thing you should worry about is beig friends after a relationship. then that is akward and not a good idea. but it dpends on the sittuation and the type of person you are.
Last edited by Cool-Water; Mar 11, 07 at 12:55 AM.
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Mar 11, 07
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Ok after 3 hrs of chatting with my lady friend in California, she's admitted that she likes me and is not afraid of it becoming more than just liking me.
She has a job to help autistic kids i.e. teaches them skills to cope and intervene with the negative behaviors. She's also going to become a nurse of a lower grade than RN. I've slowly helped her to overcome anxiety and helped to relieve some complaints due to evolution of basic childhood fears into anxiety and delusions. But most of the credit I have given to her, because she's overcome substance abuse due to family responsibilities. She also got herr GED and went on to post-secondary education. I am amazed how little one needs to encourage someone I admire a lot for taking on the role of motherhood. She has three darling children, a son by an earlier relationship, and two daughters by the present boyfriend. I feel by expressing my feelings for her in a positive manner free of obligation on her part, she was quickly willing to admit liking me and would not be afraid if it became more than that. She knows that I would still be supportive of her if she decides to change her mind and let her boyfriend back into her life, but that would be on her terms. However, this is very very early in this relationship. But I have faith she will develop a career and succeed, and she knows this. Indeed, she knows I believe in her and have faith in her abilities. I think this is called the "becoming fond of each other" part of a friendship. It doesn't become serious until we meet, and that may be many years from now, possibly a decade. So I have faith in the friends becoming lovers evolution with the simultaneous liking-fondness-loving evolution within the relationship itself. My two inspirations are unconditional love and enduring patience. Wish me luck! I guess it might be ok to look more closely at her pictures she sent me. I had told her before I don't look at her pictures much so as not to get attached to her too much. Last edited by Ninja_Sage; Mar 11, 07 at 03:31 AM. Reason: making myself easier to understand.
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