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Jun 04, 06
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when your friends don't like your girl
i have a problem. my buddies don't like my gf. i've been with her for around 10 months now. i care about her alot and i feel that she cares about me more. but other than that, my buddies think shes "so fuckin self centered." thing is they hardly know her. and i'm an asshole for ranting about some of my relationship problems to them. and another problem is that she gets really nervous around my friends and gets really horny and wants to either fuck in the bathroom or make out in front of them. i dunno what the fuckin deal is with that but i've voiced my distaste for that degree of public affection. she claimed that she was outta line but at that moment just "wanted to get comfortable and was acting outta her feelings."
but yeah i've been contemplating breaking up because i value my friends and family who've been around for me since the beginning. i care and love this girl but sometimes she is a bit crazy. she always asks me for commitment promises that i'd always be with her, and mentions marriage pretty often. i guess with the info mentioned so far, she can sound rather insane. but i really don't know what i should do. we've been having a long distance relationship for a month now since her family is away in the states. shes coming in in a few hours and things will be interesting. i don't want to be in this position where i have to choose between my friends and this girl. why can't she just blend in? and she hasn't made an effort to assimilate with my family yet she mentions marriages ever too often. i told her straight up that my freinds and family comes first and i'd choose them over her if i had to choose. she was upset by that initially but said later that when she comes back to van, she'd make a better effort to blend in and respect my social network. but as for now... i'm leaning towards ending it. i'm not too optimistic anymore about the future with her since shes got some flaws in her that could cause some serious problems in the future. shes incredibly affectionate and makes alot of effort to be with me... but i may have to slide down the slippery slide and end it.... and it's gonna hurt her real bad. ................................... 
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Your friends shouldnt want you to choose between them, or you shouldnt feel you have to.
my guess is she is not comfortable around them because they dont seem to welcome her and give her a comfortable situation. None the less though she does sound kinda wierd and you seem to have your doubts. Listen to yourself not your friends and not her.
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Everytime my friends have said that someone isn't right for me and I still maintain a relationship with my partner, it has always ended badly...
But then again my friends only want the best for me...
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when u date someone for the first while they say "ur head is in the clouds" usually if these are ur true friends and they want to see u happy they have a reason. my "true" friends always end up being right in the end. other friends might be wrong because they just want there buddy back. if u take a moment to step out of ur cloud and observe her without feelings..which is next to impossible,...then u see what advice u would give ur friend if he was dating her.
im always great at giving good advice to my friends, and they for me. but have u ever noticed its so much harder to follow it;) trial and error. if u care about this person ur friends should be supportive. but if ur always bitching to them about things then this might be why they are saying this? follow ur heart=) true friends will always be there for u.(make sure ur not clouded tho) ps..if this didnt make sence sorry.
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Whenever people stuff about ur partner, its probilly because they are not on the "outside" where people on the "inside" of the situation can't really see what's going on...where as people on the outside can see everything. Also if friends say they don't like her and stuff its probilly for the best because like tysen said, they are looking out for you and wants whats best for you.
Basically don't be blinded and keep an open mind just cuz there are some people out there who do get jelious of people's partners and make them dump them because they dont want to be "phased out" Bro's before hoes, and Chicks before Dicks however look at the circumstances and be observant and see how she really does act around ur friends. If you think shes worth it then its worth it...and TRUST YOUR GUT INSTINCT!
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Girls and Guys are both hard to deal with. (note: im not talking about ALL guys and girls)
They both play mind games, are NOT honest and upfront when they say they are, Don't know what they want, dick you around, cheat.... Both genders do play these roles so neither boys or girls are better or worse than one another....
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i disagree.. it does make sense to stay with someoen if you cant see you together down the road.. cause what are the chances at a somewhat young age that two people stay together.. most relationships dont last very long in the first place.. gain knowlege from everyone you are with and it will help you down the road.. till you are ready to settle down.. then pick a mate.. that's how i see it at least.. a relationship should be a responsible decision.. not a mash of emotions..
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sounds like a superficial relationship to me and she has alot of soul searching and growing up to do.
get rid of her she`ll cause more drama then what its worth.If you choose to stick with it you`ll learn a valuable lesson about time and how precious it is. either way you`ll learn.
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gangbang?
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My half bro is a very good judge of character so I know that if he doesn't like the person I'm dating then it's time to do something about it.
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wtf? how does it make sense to stay with someone if you cant see yourselves together in the future? you're wasting your time. im not saying every relationship is a waste of time, but it this guy is THAT worried about her now...and is already debating the relationship, then my question is completely valid and useful for him. i think he has gained knowledge from this particular relationship, and will hopefully take something valuable from it and learn from it and apply it towards future relationships
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Honestly, if the BIGGEST problem that you have in your relationship is that your friends don't like your gf, you should be happy. If there are other issues and you don't feel like you have future, then make the call.
My ex's friends didn't like me. I'm super fun, outgoing, friendly, I went out of my way for my ex AND his friends. They didn't like me because I was his girlfriend, period. They just simply didn't like the idea that he had a girlfriend. When we would be out together they'd call and bitch him out for being with me. If they wanted to make plans with him when we already had plans, instead of trying to invite me along, they'd try to convince him to sell me out. We were together for a long time (several years), and this went on throughout our relationship. He even had one friend who would encourage him to try to pick up other girls - he wanted my ex to be his 'wingman'. What a great friend - he was so concerned with his own "getting some" that he didn't even care how detrimental his actions were to our relationship. People can be very selfish. I know that I am a great judge of character and can make decisions for myself. My friends should respect the person I choose to be with and keep it to themselves if they don't like them, unless they know something that could be catastrophic to the relationship (ie. he cheated on me, etc.). As far as I am concerned, it's not my family's place nor my friends' place to tell me who I should or should not be with. I will figure that out for myself, all I need along the way is for them to support my decisions.
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