does anyone else find it vain to simply "hang out" with friends all the time?

[shogun rua]

lately i find myself moving towards "working relationships" with people, whether it be athletics, creative projects like music or art, or business.

I can't stand to sit at a bar for hours on end and simply bullshit with people and tell jokes.

is this a sign of maturity?

anyone else?

[shogun rua]

chit, forget to check the poll box.

well the options are:

yes

no

other (please specify)

[cubed]

On a side note Nouvelle Vague are freakin rad, I had the pleasure of doing a show with them a few years ago.

[shogun rua]

perhaps a little backstory, but I was accused of being a snob and "anti-social" by some old highschool buddies because I told them the bar scene was getting old, especially 3 times a week.

[shogun rua]

Originally Posted by cubed

On a side note Nouvelle Vague are freakin rad, I had the pleasure of doing a show with them a few years ago.

Yeah, they do great renditions

[-evil-duerr-]

once in awhile it's nice to see friends just to chill and have a beer... but not 3 times a week. Can't act like a teenager forever!

[ebbomega]

I think "vain" is the wrong word.

[Clayton.]

I find myself not hanging around with friends nearly as much any more in which our only common interest was drinking/partying/smoking weed. Especially considering it's been quite some time now since i've done any of those things and even longer since i've enjoyed them.

Some people grow up, while others are happy with the same old stuff year after year.

[rawb]

If you can't just hang out with people for hours on end you're not growing up, you just are shitty at picking good friends.

shedding activities that don't appeal to you isn't maturity, it's common sense. just because something isn't fun for you anymore doesn't mean you've suddenly better than the people who still enjoy it.

[NinjaBoy]

Depends what you define as going to the bar.

I personally have a great time having a beer or two with my friends catching up. And like Rawb said, if you can't do this you might need new friends.

And as a side note, you probably are a bit of a snob. After all, you told them you didn't want to do it, then ran online to seek confirmation on your decision as a sign of maturity and that you"find myself moving towards "working relationships" with people, whether it be athletics, creative projects like music or art, or business."

So yeah, getting hammered everyday isn't a sign of maturity, but you were also more then likely a snob to your friends.

[shogun rua]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

I think "vain" is the wrong word.

I'm using vain in the ecclesiastical sense, as in meaningless, vapid, transient like the wind, accomplishing nothing, etc.

[shogun rua]

Originally Posted by NinjaBoy

Depends what you define as going to the bar.

I personally have a great time having a beer or two with my friends catching up. And like Rawb said, if you can't do this you might need new friends.

And as a side note, you probably are a bit of a snob. After all, you told them you didn't want to do it, then ran online to seek confirmation on your decision as a sign of maturity and that you"find myself moving towards "working relationships" with people, whether it be athletics, creative projects like music or art, or business."

So yeah, getting hammered everyday isn't a sign of maturity, but you were also more then likely a snob to your friends.

do I know you

[NinjaBoy]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

do I know you

No, but shit like this doesn't help your case, you are being a snob about it:

I'm using vain in the ecclesiastical sense, as in meaningless, vapid, transient like the wind, accomplishing nothing, etc.

PS - Post shit on the internet about your life in the form of a question, and expect people to respond about your life.

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

I'm using vain in the ecclesiastical sense, as in meaningless, vapid, transient like the wind, accomplishing nothing, etc.

Still the wrong word. Either that or the answer to your question is quite blatantly "no."

[shogun rua]

Originally Posted by Clayton.

I find myself not hanging around with friends nearly as much any more in which our only common interest was drinking/partying/smoking weed. Especially considering it's been quite some time now since i've done any of those things and even longer since i've enjoyed them.

Some people grow up, while others are happy with the same old stuff year after year.

It's not so much the whole same shit different night angle I'm working, cuz after all I'm still with my MMA and soccer buddies 10 years on (for the latter). It's more the lack of productivity.

ffs, I tried to get my friends to do a podcast with me. we could still sit around and bullshit and get drunk/high, except with an audience and maybe get something going on Keith and the Girl style.

but anything that smacked of work or not keeping it real they weren't interested in.

[shogun rua]

Originally Posted by NinjaBoy

No, but shit like this doesn't help your case, you are being a snob about it:



PS - Post shit on the internet about your life in the form of a question, and expect people to respond about your life.

any non-barstars wanna take a stab?

[shogun rua]

Originally Posted by rawb

If you can't just hang out with people for hours on end you're not growing up, you just are shitty at picking good friends.

shedding activities that don't appeal to you isn't maturity, it's common sense. just because something isn't fun for you anymore doesn't mean you've suddenly better than the people who still enjoy it.

It's not just about fun for me.

If someone offered me a vacation to mexico for a month to laze on a beach I'm not entirely sure I'd go.

why do i feel like Genghis Khan for wanting to do shit with my life here?

[cubed]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

It's not just about fun for me.

If someone offered me a vacation to mexico for a month to laze on a beach I'm not entirely sure I'd go.

why do i feel like Genghis Khan for wanting to do shit with my life here?

There are plenty of us that are career oriented and still manage to have a lot of fun.

[oddmud]

Shogun Rua, let me put it this way. You're a fucking douche bag.

:)

Feel better?

[-evil-duerr-]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

ffs, I tried to get my friends to do a podcast with me. we could still sit around and bullshit and get drunk/high, except with an audience and maybe get something going on Keith and the Girl style.

but anything that smacked of work or not keeping it real they weren't interested in.

maybe they just didn't want to do the podcast of gettin drunk/high because it's retarded?

can't really expect your old friends to change their interests because you are. if their opinion of you bothers you perhaps it's time to make new friends who share your new interests.

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

any non-barstars wanna take a stab?

You just locked yourself into a Catch-22. "barstars" as you call them would be the people who enjoy going to bars and hanging out. Kinda tough to get debate against the "I don't like bars" argument if you exclude all the people who like going to bars.

I'm leaning to the "you need better friends" camp. Especially given this comment:

ffs, I tried to get my friends to do a podcast with me. we could still sit around and bullshit and get drunk/high, except with an audience and maybe get something going on Keith and the Girl style.

but anything that smacked of work or not keeping it real they weren't interested in.

[Krusha]

way to rape joy division

[NinjaBoy]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

any non-barstars wanna take a stab?

Sure (I don't go to bars regularly...):


Next time your just looking for people to agree with you, maybe make a facebook status update, and wait for people to hit the "like" button.

Here's a good example for you.

"Shogun rua is so sick of the bar scene and immaturity, just wants to move towards "working relationships" with people, whether it be athletics, creative projects like music or art, or business."

If that doesn't get some "likes" on facebook I don't know what will :)

[NinjaBoy]

Originally Posted by shogun rua

ffs, I tried to get my friends to do a podcast with me. we could still sit around and bullshit and get drunk/high, except with an audience and maybe get something going on Keith and the Girl style.

You should get on this, if there's one thing the world lacks, it's people recording themselves talking bullshit while high/drunk!

[shogun rua]