Being hurt

[Bitchin]

it sucks and I dont like it. (obvious, wut?)

sumtimes I wish I could just get through life without worrying about being hurt... gah.

I'm rather scared of it, and I dunno what to do!

*puts her shield up*

[~lazee_grrl~]

i know wut u mean...i have a shield up constantly..i never let it down..i'm too afriad of getting hurt...~

[ice]

I can totally relate. Certain things I do and don't do depends on if or when I get hurt. Tired of that as well. *sighs* Maybe if I don't worry about it and just DO IT and not care. I'd be a different ICE.

[Guice_39]

Very very shitty feeling, in fact I think its tha worst. You only learn from it though, at least to think twice about puttin yourself in a position to get hurt again. But then again you can't be too afraid to do this because if you never try then you'll never know what the outcome will be.

[Moon]

my view on the fear of being hurt is this. you cant be overly afraid of being hurt to the point where you're afraid to take crutial risks. one has to be able to take risks in life in order to move up to where they truly want to be =)

i know how it feels =) i struggle all the time to overcome my fear of being hurt, whether it may involve girls or music or whatever, its something we all as human beings surrounded with other humans have to deal with.

Be strong! take those risks when you can and enjoy life!! =)

[ice]

Good advice K-Pryde. Wish it was easier to do than to say tho. :044:

[Moon]

i know its hard ice =)

i struggle with it all the time as well

[ice]

I guess it's a learning process huh? The key thing is that we shouldn't be hurt in the first place.

LOL I dunno if it's the lack of sleep or what.

But I blame the insensitivity of our society. As much as we care about the latest fashion and that kinda materialistic things. I think we lose sight of how we hurt people's feelings daily. :(

[yoko*]

^

okay ms america how can we achieve world peace?

[ice]

LOL I think the acceptance that all people ARE different. No more thinking about ourselves ALL the time. Try maybe thinking of someone other than yourself Once a day or something like that.

Hey, not saying I'm perfect. Pfft, I'd laff at that.

I am saying that I"m more conscious that everything doesn't have to be materialistic or superficial.

We can all start there. :) It's not that hard is it?

[bebu*funfun]

gettin hurt just makes u a wuss...seriously... gettin hurt a few times can hold u back from other relationships and u think about being hurt before u even fall. just doesn't make sense. u know eventually u'll get hurt..its not like at our young age we'll get married or wutevz.. u can get extremly closely attached. my thoughts of gettin hurt is...always keep my head up, and if anyone ever hurts me..tough it out and be a big girl. if its the pain tat tears u're heart apart... hide in u're room..cry it out and continue on with u're life. simps

[stabmyhead]

Pain is food, it keeps us alive. Think about it, if you didn't experience pain, how would you know what happiness is? And I'm not talking about the kind you get off your dealer.

PAIN!! MORE PAIN! HARDER! OH YEAH.

/me ejaculates all over her keyboard

[Moon]

Originally posted by stabmyhead:
Pain is food, it keeps us alive. Think about it, if you didn't experience pain, how would you know what happiness is? And I'm not talking about the kind you get off your dealer.

PAIN!! MORE PAIN! HARDER! OH YEAH.

/me ejaculates all over her keyboard

Werd I couldn't agree with you more. Wise words from Stabby

[Moon]

yeah kpyde ejaculates all over HER keyboard!!

[stabmyhead]

What a mess! It's a miracle that my keyboard isn't sticking to my fingers, but that's only because I'm wearing latex gloves.

Personally, sometimes it's good to sulk in your own pitiful pool of self loathing and be a pathetic lil skum human crud... better than putting on that shit-eating-over-ingested grin.

These barriers people put up, once they start to crumble, I find people expect a lot more from the other person. The other person was able to knock down a wall, so they are automatically responsible for the feelings and well being of the other person's emotional balance..? If your guard falls down, don't blame the other person, you let it happen, take responsiblity. There's nothing I hate more than people that blame other's for their emotional inbalance and chaos...

Walls not only seperate you from the other person, it seperates you from yourself. Then again, who am I to be saying this... everyone puts up these walls, it's just human nature.

[stabmyhead]

"I have these walls protecting me from you! I'm warning you! Uhh.. don't uhh, love me or something! I'm uhh.. warning you.. uhh.. come back? Please..?"

Something along the lines of that? ;]

Anything that was made can be broken...

[~lazee_grrl~]

^---haha..wut de?!..stop deleting!!...so many people are gonna seem like they're having conversations with themselves..=P~

[Moon]

i agree with stabby

we all need to open ourselves up a lil more

but with human nature its just so damn hard... every single erson reacts differently to what you say and do... so you get scared... and its a totally normal thing... but its something we all must fight and overcome!

[~lazee_grrl~]

yupz..i think eventually people learn to let their barriers down...and go for wutever they are afriad of...i think that whenever u hold urself back from something..u never know wut ur missing out..but u also never know wut u could be saving urself from!??....meh~...it's too early right now to be thinking~

[yoko*]

pain can be a good thing. in many cases it will make you stronger, or help you to find a sense of self. I find that my thoughts are most authentic when I'm faced wiht a tricky situation. Though I hate being hurt there's a strange thrill to it that i can't deny exists...

when you dive into a pool not knowing what's at the bottom it's scary.. but once you know it's depths the second time round could be easier. not saying that every painful experience will be the same... but with experience you can get a better understanding on the conditions of the ground you're forced to walk upon..

or.. you can live your life hanging on to a thin rope hoping not to fall...

[Bitchin]

Shit, this post just went off!well sorta...

but I agree if you get hurt you can learn from it.. but not when you keep on getting hurt in the exact same manner. which is exactly what keeps happening to me, and yeah, I should probably be use to it and all... but I'm not, cause each time it happens it hurts a lil'more! It's like it crushes a part of you, and its just getting bigger cause you feel like your on repeat! gah!

as for the shields.. that basically why I got them up.. I dont wanna repeat whats already been repeated!

[Glendita*]

hey j'nette ... i totally know where u coming from i have been hurt so many times ... i have put up the huges walls ... but i'm telling u it isn't worthe it . Give yourself some times ... and don't put up those walls because i'm telling u it is just going to bite u in the ass ... it just happened to me

[stabmyhead]

Yoko, what if you never learned how to swim? You can't really dive into a pool if you're just going to drown... but I guess you can just stay on top of the surface all the time in your lil floatation device... Surface relationships! Or stay in the shallow end... Shallow relatioships!

As for being contiunally hurt the same way over and over again.. maybe you're just making the pain out to be that way, you only know how to hurt a certain way so you keep letting yourself fall into this void of pain. You always hurt a certain way because you never got out of the routine...? I dunno, I'm just rambling.

[bob]

^^^ AHAHAHA I JUST REMEMBERED U CAN'T SWIM

/me goes and rides a bike

[stabmyhead]

^^ FU! I hope you fall into a fence! Or was that when you were on the swings?