Breaking up with a long term boyfriend - Page 2

Carrie · #26 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

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Originally Posted by Carrie

oh and if you're gonna make a thread on how "not happy" you are because of something you did and now you "feel totally guilty and shitty" about it then fuck i can tell you that you're SHIT!

edit: sorry .. lemme quote you better!

is this better for you?

cutienikki · #27 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

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Originally Posted by Carrie

is this better for you?

OMG you said shit...so you do know a different word other than stupid

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Carrie · #29 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

i called you shit cause you feel shitty..

i'm just reassuring your feelings for you!

tested01 · #30 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

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Originally Posted by cutie_nikki

kay if ur gonna make negative comments shut ur mouth i dont wanna hear about it

DONT DO STUPID SHIT THEN AND WHINE ABOUT IT TO US, WRITE IT IN YOUR FUCKIN DIARY

cutienikki · #31 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

im not whining to you guys you guys chose to say shit...i was looking for people who could give me advice on what to do...not fucking bitch about what i said....

M!SKA · #32 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

do you love him? was there something about him that made you break off the relationship, or was it something about you?

if you miss him, then maybe a breakup wasn't what you needed, maybe you guys just needed to communicate about your relationship more

Veni*C · #33 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

geesus christ.... everything on this site turns into bashing.... just forget about it.....
and UR gonna have to get over the fact U broke up with him.. cause it was UR decision... if you want sympathy.... dont come to fnk... cause people will just bite your head off.... talk to your close friends or whoever about it... this is just gonna make u either more upset or pissed off...

i get fusterated just reading this shit.

Carrie · #34 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

well if you feel bad... and still like the guy..
why don't you try to work it out before you break his heart even more!

Carrie · #35 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

if you still don't wanna be with him .. you're just feeling guilty... then drink some alcohol and find a new boytoy!

iluvtechno · #36 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

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Originally Posted by tested01

DONT DO STUPID SHIT THEN AND WHINE ABOUT IT TO US, WRITE IT IN YOUR FUCKIN DIARY

AMEN TO THAT BROTHA

PS: CUTE NIKKI U ARE STUPID!

StOkerD · #37 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

What to do?... Do what you were planning on doing in the first place. Date other people. Forget about you ex now. Thats over, and if he has any sense at all he'll never take you back if you were to change your mind.

cutienikki · #38 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

THERE WE GO! finally some advice i can take insted of bashing!

StOkerD · #39 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

I just restated your initial intentions for breaking up with your b/f. I think you knew what to do all along.

diva · #40 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

Maybe you just miss him because you were together for a long time. It's quite natural, i think. So is having second thoughts.

But you had those feelings in the first place. They didn't just come from out of the blue. You felt that you needed space and wanted to date other people. What's wrong with that? Nothing.

You just weren't on the same wavelength as your boyfriend. He was feeling it, and you weren't. It sucks that he had his heart broken, but i'm sure he's a big boy and will be able to move on.

It's better that you were brave enough to tell him the truth and face the prospects of being lonely and having regrets. You would have been doing him a diservice if your heart wasn't as into the relationship as his was.

Give yourself a pat on the back. A lot of people aren't brave enough to make the decision that you made and follow through with it.

And who knows, maybe in a while (if you two were truly meant to be together), things will get back on track. *shrugs* Don't dwell on that too much, though.

You're young.
Live in the moment.

Cheers.
=)

Hot Karl · #41 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

she definetely liked him enough to dump him to start dating other people.

sounds like a match made on fox.

cutienikki · #42 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 04

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Originally Posted by diva

Maybe you just miss him because you were together for a long time. It's quite natural, i think. So is having second thoughts.

But you had those feelings in the first place. They didn't just come from out of the blue. You felt that you needed space and wanted to date other people. What's wrong with that? Nothing.

You just weren't on the same wavelength as your boyfriend. He was feeling it, and you weren't. It sucks that he had his heart broken, but i'm sure he's a big boy and will be able to move on.

It's better that you were brave enough to tell him the truth and face the prospects of being lonely and having regrets. You would have been doing him a diservice if your heart wasn't as into the relationship as his was.

Give yourself a pat on the back. A lot of people aren't brave enough to make the decision that you made and follow through with it.

And who knows, maybe in a while (if you two were truly meant to be together), things will get back on track. *shrugs* Don't dwell on that too much, though.

You're young.
Live in the moment.

Cheers.
=)

thanks for the advice :)

Segued · #43 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

i'd feel more sympothy if he had been the one to break up with you n now you were feeling sad.

G-Style · #44 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

You Know What I Know It's Off Topic But Fuck. It"s Unreal How Rude, Insensative And Basically Cruel People Have Been All Over Fnk For The Past Week. I Have Never Seen So Much Abuse Dished Out To People. It's A Shame! I Know Some People Deserve It But Wow The Abuse Factor Is Getting Outta Control.
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Carrie · #45 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

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Originally Posted by Carrie

i called you shit cause you feel shitty..

i'm just reassuring your feelings for you!

I got bad karma for this???

at least leave a comment not leave it blank !!!

gay!

Carrie · #46 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

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Originally Posted by G-Style

You Know What I Know It's Off Topic But Fuck. It"s Unreal How Rude, Insensative And Basically Cruel People Have Been All Over Fnk For The Past Week. I Have Never Seen So Much Abuse Dished Out To People. It's A Shame! I Know Some People Deserve It But Wow The Abuse Factor Is Getting Outta Control.
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Prissypants · #47 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

It is just the routine of being with him that you are missing...If you still want the guy but want to hook up with other people then you need to talk to him about the parameters of your relationship. An open relationship may be a better option for you. Whether or not you do the breaking up it can still make you unhappy but you did break up for a reason obviously.

Don't worry. It gets easier with every one.

Discord · #48 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

I did that after having my boy for over a year and a bit.

For the first while i felt really guilty, but felt more guilty being with him.. when i really didn't care about him anymore

when he got a new girlfriend a while later... i got jealous.. and "got" him back only to dump him again.

Its better to bite you lip and deal with the feelings, then to get him back, and only brake his heart over again.

bl0nde · #49 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

cutie_nikki i know how it is... ive been with my bf for 3 years.. i kinda want space but i dono.. i told him that when i was drunk so in the morning i told him i didnt mean it:s but like i wanna break up but i dont cuz i know ill mis him a lot!

bungoshlung · #50 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 04

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Originally Posted by heatherness

hahaha!! yeah for sure.. u shouldn't so something so life ultering before thinking it throughly.. been there done that. just think of it like... this was supposed to happen. no regrets. :)

she's 17/18, its not exactly a life Altering thing