do numbers matter to you?

[Prissypants]

I could care less about their numbers...As long as they are clean that's all that matters to me. (For my personal safety of course)

[junglequeen]

"I said dont let our future be destroyed by my past. She said dont let my door hit your ass"

I wouldnt ask nor tell. Its not relevant to the present situation.

[Kraig]

Numbers are not an issue to me. -- I think you even come to care less about stuff like that as you get older.

Ultimately you want to make sure she is healthy... if that's the case then it's all good.

[C_squared]

if all my friends have hit it... then i'm not in it for a long term thing.

[*Caitlin*]

i just don't think it's anyones buisness. it's your past, not anyone elses.

[dapimpstress]

^^ is that even YOUR ass? cause if its not.. y do you have it on there?just cuz u like to look at it or what? im not tryina b rude.. im just curious.. like, cause i dont really wanna have to see it... im not excited by it at all.... umm anyways.

numbers....doesnt matter because tru dat what that other person said... its your past, and its over, and movin on is whats up.. not digging through abuncha b/s from other times...

[Ragga_Wh0re]

numbers dont matter to me at all, cuz 9 times out of 10 ive got him beat! haha

[hardstylin]

i dont ask questions :)

[axion]

Originally Posted by galaxie

I would for sure be turned off by a guy who had a high number, especially if they were just flings or one-night stands...that, naturally, makes a girl (or anymone, for that matter) nervous. IMO, people who whore it up with a large number of partners could easily have much deeper issues than just being horny - a lot of the time people who are promiscuous have huge lack of self-esteem, and they do it for the attention. Personally, I wouldn't necessarily want to get into a relationship with someone who has those kind of issues because it can only make for sticky situations.

very well said, natalie. i completely agree with you here.

promiscuity = emotional baggage.
the last thing i want or need is to get involved with someone who is unstable and has baggage.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

im going to have disagree with galaxie and axion.

I used to fuck alot. It had nothing to do with self esteem or emotional baggage. I mean im a rape victim is it likely for rape victims to "whore it up" after thier attack? NO,not really.

For about a year and a half to two years after my rape I wouldnt even so much as kiss someone for fear that id be attacked again. Then i started to think, only the one person hurt me, not all males are rapists. I guess with me "whoring it up" it was like i wasnt letting myself be victimized again. So in theory basically being able to have sex again after being attacked was a healing process for me.

so yeah.

[Oscar Da Grouc]

a person's past is their own bussiness.

i totally agree...what they've done, is their own business...but like you and everyone else has said, aslong as its not SUPER huge its all good....also i think the number should also reflect on when they lost it.

[miss.myra]

Everything matters, let's face it.

It's all in how big of a deal you make out of certain things I guess.


..I don't really have an opinion either way with this issue, though.

[Undecided]

I'm the kinda guy who gives everyone a fresh start so I don't care unless they bring it up alot like it's a trophy or something that bothes me

[Undecided]

Originally Posted by ~*goddessa*~

im going to have disagree with galaxie and axion.

I used to fuck alot. It had nothing to do with self esteem or emotional baggage. I mean im a rape victim is it likely for rape victims to "whore it up" after thier attack? NO,not really.

For about a year and a half to two years after my rape I wouldnt even so much as kiss someone for fear that id be attacked again. Then i started to think, only the one person hurt me, not all males are rapists. I guess with me "whoring it up" it was like i wasnt letting myself be victimized again. So in theory basically being able to have sex again after being attacked was a healing process for me.

so yeah.

wow thats crazy I'd think that almost brave in a way, it's hard to think that there are guys out there who would do that cause I know I never would

[thorn]

Numbers are irrevelant. I fail to see why they would matter. They're in the past, why bother even bringing them up?


Besides it all comes down to this:

As long as your age is bigger than the number of people you've slept with, its all good.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by Undecided

wow thats crazy I'd think that almost brave in a way, it's hard to think that there are guys out there who would do that cause I know I never would

it took alot for me to be comfortable having sex again, and even up until this day sometimes i just dont feel comfortable so yeah. As much as I have healed from what happened...theres still alot more healing that needs to be done.

Its really fucked up knowing how many rape victims there are out there, i can name like 3 of my close friends who have been through the same thing.

Its disgusting.

[MissBehavior]

For me, unless it's some number over 20, it really isn't a big deal.

My numbers aren't scary(well below 20), but they have made a few boys cringe.

[rawb]

i don't wanna know unless were going to be really close.

there's always that night where it's 3am and you both are just cuddling and you tell each other your life stories. it comes up and you both try not to cringe and just "be cool" but it does kind of kick your ass, 1 to 100, doesn't matter. then you gloss over and move on to the stories about getting drunk in highschool or the first time your parents found your weed.

it's kind of a bittersweet time, like something you dread and dont enjoy, but need to do to move on. like the first time you shave, or the first time you pay rent. you will still always remember it with sorta fondness.

at least me.

[MissBehavior]

Originally Posted by rawb

i don't wanna know unless were going to be really close.

there's always that night where it's 3am and you both are just cuddling and you tell each other your life stories. it comes up and you both try not to cringe and just "be cool" but it does kind of kick your ass, 1 to 100, doesn't matter. then you gloss over and move on to the stories about getting drunk in highschool or the first time your parents found your weed.

it's kind of a bittersweet time, like something you dread and dont enjoy, but need to do to move on. like the first time you shave, or the first time you pay rent. you will still always remember it with sorta fondness.

at least me.

That is the perfect way of putting it, rawb.

I guess they don't call ya werdyboy for nothing. :)

[Lush]

I'd like to think of myself as an open-minded individual but in terms of numbers I'll be completely honest.. yes they do matter to me.

If a guy has a fairly large number, I will lose a certain amount of respect for him and I won't date/sleep with him. I have a lot of respect for myself and I've had many opportunities to slut it up but I've kept my number below 5 and at my age I think it's suffice to say that's a fairly low number.

There are just a lot of things I take into consideration, if a guy has slept around there are higher chances of STD's, and just past drama that I don't want to deal with. It's easy to use that whole "oh well I was young and going through a slut-phase" but that's a lame excuse because we all have hormones.

On another note, there are people that are absolutely content with their promiscuity and that's fine, I respect your decision but I just don't want to be associated with it. I'm not going to judge you based on your decisions but I don't necessarily think they're healthy.

[barstar]

true love conquers all aperentally!!!!!!!!but if she's the next town bike then shes not even worth me unzipping my fly 4 a blowjob,,,,,,,,,,,,dirty girls suck!!!!!!!!!

[skittles_0307]

Originally Posted by krisamata

if you're interested in someone, or dating someone ....whatever


does the number of people they've slept with bother you?

Yes only because MINE IS LOW, and theirs is HIGH.. IT DRIVES ME FCUKKIINNN UP THE WALLL

[Bitchin]

I'm not gonna lie... It bothers me a wee bit.. But only more so if they talk about it.. cause I just think... sum bitch had her hands on my man.. WTF?

but it's not really a number.. just more so me being jealous!

[Anjew]

Originally Posted by Akeel

i only date crack whores and prostitutes so it doesnt bother me.

I thought that was you I saw on hastings last night.. no wonder!!!!
glad we got that clarified. =D

[SEAN!]

the only numbers that matter to me are on my paycheque.