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Aug 09, 05
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Upest and confused
I don’t even know what to think about things anymore. I thought I had things going great for so long and in the past few weeks I've been realising how shitty things are actually going. My dad and I got into a small fight today and I just thought it was the normal fight that we have, then my mom calls me and tells me that my dad's thinking of kicking me out of the house if I don’t change things. The thing he's freaking out about is the fact that I didn’t wash dishes last night. The fact that he's thinking about kicking me out over dishes makes me so upset. He always said that he would never kick me out. This is the second time in a few months that he's said this. I love my dad more than anything. Im just scared that he would actually kick me out I mean I wouldn't know what to do I'd have no where to go. Im going to be out of work next week, and Im looking for a new job but still. Im so scared I cant take care of myself. I just hope that things get better and I hope that I'll still have a house to live at when he gets home and that it's just an empty threat like last time. I try do keep him happy and help the best I can around the house I guess Im just not doing a good enough job and should try harder so I can still live with my
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^ lol.
there must be more to this story .. ? times are rough cause you missed doin the dishes a couple times?! hmmm
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Im not elaberating on shit like this but thanks for coming out.
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my mom and i fight alot... thats why im moving to coq in sept.
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Shit happens. You're supposed to argue and fight with your Parents. I still do on the odd occasion and they live outside of Kamloops. In the end your Parents still love you.
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seems like everyone is going thru some rough sh*t lately....it cant rain every day!!!
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when i lived at home my dad would get mad over the most ridiculous things threaten to kick me out blahblahblah, it turned out he had bigger issues going on in his own life and just took them out on me and my siblings. not saying thats what this is all about, but just give him space and try to take it with a grain of salt as tough as that may be.
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Aug 10, 05
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im the outside sibling in my household right now watching my parents threaten daily to kick my brother out. the situations may not compare but the way that my parents see it is that they have been giving him food, housing and loans for 25 years now, and when he doesnt respect their wishes\requests, or doesnt respond to doing something like cleaning the kitchen they feel extremely disrespected. they feel that he should be independent enough to do stuff like that, and not even have to be asked.
i've always done shit like that for my parents - now more then ever because i see and hear all that they are going through at the moment and i can respect what they have provided for me. maybe its the same, mayeb its not. my parents see it as he shouldnt even have to be asked to help out around the house, because he should be old enough\mature enough to realize it needs to be done and to do it. and when fights break out, they feel disrespected cause of the yelling and everything else that comes out with parent\kid fights. i fight with my parents too. im a firm believer that if your living at home past 18 its a given that fights\scraps will break out as the 18 year old is fighting to be an adult on their own grounds, while the parents want them to either stay their baby or have them be more mature.
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Ash, i am pretty darn sure he wont kick you out, its just youve reached a certain age and suddenly you have to act like an adult or else, pathetic i kno but thats how parents are......
just try and be more careful at remembewring and maybe even talk to your dad about it
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Parents...what are we gonna do with them? Only advice I have for the getting kicked out issue is the following. If this happens again, make sure you keep calm and ask if thats really what he wants...then explain how it makes you feel ( damn that word "feel" ). If he understands then its possible another time you guys fight he wont say that again. I had the same problem and would "feel" like shit about it, until one day I said "hey listen, you cant be kicking me out of the house everytime we disagree on something, grow up" that was the end of that.cheer up!!
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It sucks living with parants, can't do anything and they always bitch and complain. That's why I moved out on my own. The shitty part is that there's never food in the fridge and at my parent's there is mad food. My parents want me to move back in, but I don't think I could stand their rules.
The best thing to do is to prevent agruments at all costs. Hmmm I should follow my own advice, meh. Parants will always argue with their children its just a part of life. Can't really do anything about it.
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I used to argue with my folks a fair amount... wasn't the greatest daughter in the world... to be totally fair they were also very strict with me. When I moved out things got a FUCKLOAD better. I actually enjoy seeing my parents now and going over there for dinner is nice especially when my brothers come.
My kid brother treated my folks like shit... totally disrespected them... came home at all hours... called them "June and Pete" not Mom & Dad (my Dad is most definetly NOT a Pete... he's a Peter)... I gave him a lotta shit for it and for not having a job and generally being a lazy disrespectful bastard. I'm the only one in the family he really listens to. He just recently (over the last few months) got a job... got a woman... moved out... and is actually real happy n doing good in life. He even calls my mom and he's currently coming over to my parents house all the time to help with renovations. He's treating them with so much more respect now and I know him and my folks are way happier. He's really made me feel proud that he's smartened up so much in the last couple months. Basically my advice is get a job and move out... things will be SO much better you have no idea. I moved out at 19... my kid brother at just about 19... and my older brother at 20-21. We couldn't have made a better decision. I love my parents and family to death... they're all I have family wise over here (everyone else is in England) but I can't live with them and I think that's pretty normal.
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Moving out? well sure if you got no plans for your future. I am currently enrolled in a university transfer program to be a dentist. I could not possibly think of moving out. Couldnt work and go to school, would just burn out. But if youre just into getting from paycheck to paycheck...go for it
point here is there pros and cons to consider.
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actually I reconsidered my last 2 posts and have some better advice...do the dishes and get on about your day...
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While I've lived on my own I've held down a very good job... thrown three raves (on with a DJ from SanFran in a HUGE warehouse with lasers and the full nine)... had a clubnight... almost bought property... and finally figured out what I want to do with my life. I'm currently enrolled at BCIT in mechanical engineering. I'll be starting this September... I'll still be living on my own and supporting myself. My older brother has lived on his own for the last 6-7 years... he's a sucessful make-up artist who's worked in some very large stores like L'Oreal's head office in Montreal. He's currently working in the animation industry and going for more schooling. He's been to Vancouver Film School... Blanche MacDonald... and he's getting into graphic design. He also paints and does fabulous art in his spare time. If you think my parents are rich and give us money and put us through school you're sorely mistaken. I've always worked hard for everything I've ever had in life. Moving out doesn't mean you sacrifice your life. I know a lOT of people who live on their own and work fucking hard and put themselves through school. There's always options in life.
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