Putting/keeping myself myself into toxic dating situations

[rawb]

my affection doesn't bend that way i think

[Ragga_Wh0re]

a man cant even begin to help fill the void you have.
like countless ppl have said in this thread,focus on self.The reason why youve been having such crap luck w/men is because as much as you think you know yourself...you havent the slightest fucking clue.Now,with that said...find yourself before you find yourself with someone else.
When you know who you are,you know better what you want and there will be absolutely no confusion when it comes to relationships.
Stop compromising yourself,and go with your gut.Doing anything but just that is selling yourself short.

good luck.

[ebbomega]

The day after me and my last girlfriend broke up, I said to a friend "I think I'm going to go try the recovery method of making out with a bunch of my pretteh friends."

It turned out to be the best thing for me.

But yeah, the important thing was to stop putting so much emphasis on the "relationship" and focus more on the "friendship". And what I've learned is that I'm a lot stronger a person now. With the relationship flag hanging over your heads, it leads to complication. So get that out of the way. Put yourself in the mindset "I want to make friends with such-and-such new person" from day 1 instead of "This person would make an excellent partner for me".

That way it becomes okay to like someone even in a romantic light. You can have yer crushes, even act on some of them ("We're just fucking friends" is an excellent disclaimer). But keep the overhead of "being together" out of it. Let things evolve naturally and then the rest of it will follow when you're really ready.

Learn the art of patience. If a person is really worth your energy, they can last the test of time. Friends first. Lovers later.

"Too light the winning doth make the prize light."
- Shakespeare

[Chewy]

i really think you should hold off for at least a few more months.... take it easy.. do the things you didnt get to do while you were together with that other person.. Right now you come first and no one else.. take this oppurtunity to treat yourself. pamper youself .. do what ever you need to do. Once your mind has calmed down then maybe procede into browsing for another releationship.. You may feel like you need to fill the void right away.. but i believe waiting is the most beneficial thing you can do.. And the right relationship will find you, you dont need it find it

I hope you cope well... i kind went through the same deal