change.

Bevvy Swift · #1 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

two weeks ago, i was comfy as a warm pillow on a sunday, now everything is upside down.

i broke up with my gf of almost a year (a huge thing for me), and now im moving out of my parents house again, for good this time. they're moving to princeton next summer, so i'ma be all by my lonesome. its not like they buy me stuff and do things for me, but they motivate me to get things done for myself, and its going to be very wierd without them, or my (ex)gf to keep me focused. i have a full time job, and im registered for langara in the fall. tips anyone?

veN · #2 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

Friends can also be supportive and motivating. Keep them close!

Bevvy Swift · #3 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

yo that <3

if anyone has nothing to do next weekend, they are free to come help me move!

veN · #4 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

I can help you out! it'd be better if I had a truck... LOL

It's my sister's bday on Sat, but pending what she's got going... I should be free most of the wknd.

g!ggles · #5 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

As stupid as it sounds whenever I'm bumbed out b/c of some situations that I have gotten myself into, I need to remember that everything happens for a reason. Only you will now what your reason's are and even though it sucks right now and you think that you are at the bottom of the hole remember that the only way that you can go is up.

So good luck with moving and I hope that everything works out for the best. Just give it time.

mojo · #6 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

write stuff down. goals, reminders, positive stuff that happens. that way it is in your face and you won't forget about it.

stay busy

keep in the good people, get rid of the bad. they will only bring you down.

listen to michael jackson music

Pennywise · #7 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

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Originally Posted by Nev

Friends can also be supportive and motivating. Keep them close!

quoted for truth.

**sNyx** · #8 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

Homeboy take it from me, shit gets hard before it gets easy. My life has been a roller coaster the last two years to say the least. Sometimes your on a good coast up and others your flying downhill with a loop or two in sight. I'll tell ya im looking for a loop or two myself right now, because its no fun on the way down. The award is well worth the journey, even if your a solo quest boy like myself.

nabs · #9 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

and im guessing change is a good thing, you get to learn more about yourself, and your responsibilities. good luck.

you got my help for the move, ill bring over my truck.

miss.myra · #10 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

it's only worth it when you're making that big push by yourself and for yourself

this is growing up, enjoy it!

t-skywalker · #11 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

yeah id say friends are important. also if ur moving out and ur getting a roomate be very picky. make sure they work and they dont party much so it wont derail u. i find if my home life is warm, comfy and careing...then it keeps ur party life separat. this way u can stay focused on the weekdays while u work.

sounds lame.....i know......

Bevvy Swift · #12 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

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Originally Posted by g!ggles

As stupid as it sounds whenever I'm bumbed out b/c of some situations that I have gotten myself into, I need to remember that everything happens for a reason.

its not so much bummed out, just scared. its sorta like practicing to be a tightrope walker with a safety net all your life, then all ov a sudden they take it away, andf you just hope to god you can keep your balance. thats sorta how i feel

project.one · #13 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

I hear ya buddy! Sorry to hear all thats happened!
I just broke up with my Gf of 3 years a little while back. Then I had to move out onto my own in a place where I really dont know anyone.
I know exactly what you mean about how your GF kept you focused, too.

Snyx said it best. Things get harder before they get better.

I hope everything goes well for you and I wish you all the best of luck with your move and everything.

Liqwid · #14 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

focus on YOU for now....

Bevvy Swift · #15 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

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Originally Posted by projectone

I hear ya buddy! Sorry to hear all thats happened!

im not looking for pity, just words of advice from others who have fled the nest.

thanks for the wise words, y'all

**sNyx** · #16 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

oh yeah, and drink 40'z - save ur notes

Liqwid · #17 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

the last time i left, was completely by choice....

all the other time.........kicked out.........

but it felt sooo good.......

i just grabbed what i wanted and left.

Tea · #18 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

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Originally Posted by sNyx™

Homeboy take it from me, shit gets hard before it gets easy. My life has been a roller coaster the last two years to say the least. Sometimes your on a good coast up and others your flying downhill with a loop or two in sight. I'll tell ya im looking for a loop or two myself right now, because its no fun on the way down. The award is well worth the journey, even if your a solo quest boy like myself.

"shit gets hard before it gets easy", Myles that is my new favorite quote.

I think it is easier to fill yourself with other people and fun distractions then it is to do it on your own, but as Myra said, this is the process of growing up. We may hold on to certain escapes because they keep us smiling/having fun, but in the end we need to be able to validate our own cheques. *sigh* Of course it is easier said than done, everyone needs support from others. But i'm certain new changes will come when your on the path of self discovery, when your working hard towards something you care about....without looking over your shoulder at how things "use to be."

Everyone goes at their own pace, and you know the only thing that can distance yourself from these feelings is time.

dabbler · #19 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

i moved out when i was 16 and still in high school. worked full time and barely made it. the main thing that allowed me to do so was that i knew i would end up a better person by going thru it all. take this as a good way to improve many things in your life imo

Bevvy Swift · #20 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

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Originally Posted by dabbler

i moved out when i was 16 and still in high school. worked full time and barely made it. the main thing that allowed me to do so was that i knew i would end up a better person by going thru it all. take this as a good way to improve many things in your life imo

amen, thats exactly how im lookin at it

prozac · #21 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

yeah, I moved out really young, too. 17. It was hard as hell, and still is sometimes, but I'm soooooo glad I did it. I wouldn't trade my life experience for anything.

Liqwid · #22 (**permalink**) May 28, 06

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Originally Posted by prozac

yeah, I moved out really young, too. 17. It was hard as hell, and still is sometimes, but I'm soooooo glad I did it. I wouldn't trade my life experience for anything.

growing up faster like that kinda ground you a bit more, or faster that others.

t-skywalker · #23 (**permalink**) May 31, 06

all i can say is trial and error, i have been on my own since 16...three serious relationships and three serious break up move out situations...life is funny, im glad i have gone thru all the bad to be the person i am today. i learn alot from all my friends and all the things they have gone thru. i find what ur parents said to u over and over when u were young tend to become a huge factor in the desicions u make when ur older. i find my self asking "what would my mom say". so if ur ever wondering what is the best thing to do...call mom/dad=) heheheh it always helps

baby-phat · #24 (**permalink**) May 31, 06

^ This is one damn smart girl right here! :)

t-skywalker · #25 (**permalink**) May 31, 06

^^lol...tones of practice heheheh.......i have seen it all and gone thru most of it growing up.