Ladies - do you like sex?

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by Avana

ps - the whole not liking the sex thing baffles me.

I'm a guy so I can't really comment on that other than to say I agree with you.

[baby-phat]

Originally Posted by Disco_Whore

Hmm, I've gone through periods of disliking sex...but not too often, and not all that much. Usually it's when I haven't really realised that there's something seriously wrong with the relationship, it's like my body knows it before my breain catches up and everything becomes a turn off.

Y'know, I've noticed that too. With my last actualy b/f I just didn't want it at all for the last like 6 months to a year of our relationship.
So I can kinda see how some girls may not like sex (if given those circumstances) otherwise, I don't get it.

[MattyG]

I think most girls don't like sex because they don't know how to have an orgasm or they're not with a guy who cares if they have one or not...

To me sex isn't good unless the girl has an orgasm too. It just kinda feels cheap and meaningless.

[Pussy*Kat]

^^ again i think your missing the point of this thread


the girls dont like sex because its degrating, sexist, ect.....

it doesnt matter if they can get off or not
maybe they can get off through fore play. and love it.....

[MattyG]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

^^ again i think your missing the point of this thread


the girls dont like sex because its degrating, sexist, ect.....

it doesnt matter if they can get off or not
maybe they can get off through fore play. and love it.....

True.

But why would something that felt so good like an orgasm be disgusting and degrating?

Sure it can get kinda messy, I'll give you that. But if it ends up feeling degrating, then thats where I think they have or are with someone who has no respect for thier needs. Right?

[Gusto]

i had an ex that wasn't really into sex. she'd get off like everytime, but just wasn't all about it, and she often wanted to stop when she was done but before i was. that said, she did have a "troubled childhood" (leaving out major details here, obviously). that was probably one of the main reasons the relationship didn't work out, heh.

[Pussy*Kat]

its the act of sex, not the outcome, weather it be an orgasm or not. why can guys not accept the fact some girls dont like it? look at all the girls that posted. they all seem to accept the fact. and then you get the males who come into the conversation and are like "thats ubsurd, there is not way thats true, whats wrong with them?"

get over yourselves

[MattyG]

Originally Posted by Gusto

i had an ex that wasn't really into sex. she'd get off like everytime, but just wasn't all about it, and she often wanted to stop when she was done but before i was. that said, she did have a "troubled childhood" (leaving out major details here, obviously). that was probably one of the main reasons the relationship didn't work out, heh.

And this is exactly what I'm talking about. Girls, unfortunately, have been targeted by nasty perverts way too many times in the past which has caused them to be desensitised to the enjoyment of sex. And I can't blame them too. But I really don't think that a girl could actually dislike having sex unless it's just boys who disgust them or they have been through some really bad traumatic experience.

[Pussy*Kat]

What do you hate? weather it be perogies or brocolli or soccer....

did you have a bad experiance with brocolli which caused you to hate it?
no i dont think so.....you just dont like it....

just like some girls DONT like sex.....the same way you dont like brocolli

*this is all hypathetically speaking btw*

[Gusto]

yeah... i mean no offense or anything, but if someone says they don't like something, you can't exactly argue with them about it, because what do you know? sure, in the case i stated there was a reason behind it, but there doesn't have to be for everyone.

[Chuck]

Its hard to understand just as it would be hard to understand as the norm the urge to eat, to breathe or to survive.

The natural urge to reproduce is one of humankinds STRONGEST desires, just under the basic needs to survival. That is why its strange that some people just have no simple desire for something that is genetically ingrained into us since the beginning of time.

Medically in a liberal sense, it would be like asking why someone who is anorexic all of a sudden dislikes food? The situation has been created whereupon the person has lost one of mankinds strongest and simplest of programmed functions.

All in all to each their own, but in the end, it is somewhat unnatural, and that is why we find it somewhat odd.

[LastWerd]

Originally Posted by Avana

This is probably the most insensitive thing I will ever say on this board...but if I had a nickel for everytime I heard a girls rape story, I would be rich.

And I bet almost 100% are true. That is the only reason a girl would not like sex. If they have been abused sexually. Doesn't exactly have to be full on rape. Even sleeping with a guy that ends up not having any respect for you can really turn a girl off from sex.

Pussy Kat said: I believe sex is all about chemistry. it could be great with somone and the the next person could suck. i believe that bevan had the right idea. cept without the love part. sex without chemitry SUCKS"

how come you are arguing with the guys now? They argee with what you said here.

Sex is not discusting and degrating. It is a natural and beautiful thing. I mean our main reason in life is to procreate.
Some people (not just guys; there are many cases of sexual abuse acts done by females) can do discusting and degrating things, if this happens to you obviously you are not going to like sex much. People in this situation have either been forced or are with the wrong partner.

Like Pussy Kat was saying she didn't like sex till she was with her ex that was good; he prob really cared about her and her the same about him. Then she said she went to bad sex; we have ALL been in these situations; bad to good to bad again.
Not all sex can be good; love and caring has to be involved.

[LastWerd]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

What do you hate?

no one is hating. everyone has their own views.

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by LastWerd

That is the only reason a girl would not like sex. If they have been abused sexually.

curious, how would you know this? sounds like you're guessing.

[Pussy*Kat]

Originally Posted by LastWerd

no one is hating. everyone has their own views.

thats not what i asked. i asked if he hated anything, such as food, drinks, colors....ect. i was trying to prove a point. did you read the rest of my post?

[MattyG]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

What do you hate? weather it be perogies or brocolli or soccer....

did you have a bad experiance with brocolli which caused you to hate it?
no i dont think so.....you just dont like it....

just like some girls DONT like sex.....the same way you dont like brocolli

*this is all hypathetically speaking btw*

LoL. I understand what you're saying.... and hey! If some girls don't like sex, then that's their prerogative. I'm not trying to argue that. All I'm saying is that sex was designed by nature to feel good so we would continue to do it and procreate. We were all born with this. Unfortunately, sometimes life can teach us to not enjoy things we were meant to. It's called trauma.

Originally Posted by LastWerd

And I bet almost 100% are true. That is the only reason a girl would not like sex. If they have been abused sexually. Doesn't exactly have to be full on rape. Even sleeping with a guy that ends up not having any respect for you can really turn a girl off from sex.

Pussy Kat said: I believe sex is all about chemistry. it could be great with somone and the the next person could suck. i believe that bevan had the right idea. cept without the love part. sex without chemitry SUCKS"

how come you are arguing with the guys now? They argee with what you said here.

Sex is not discusting and degrating. It is a natural and beautiful thing. I mean our main reason in life is to procreate.
Some people (not just guys; there are many cases of sexual abuse acts done by females) can do discusting and degrating things, if this happens to you obviously you are not going to like sex much. People in this situation have either been forced or are with the wrong partner.

Like Pussy Kat was saying she didn't like sex till she was with her ex that was good; he prob really cared about her and her the same about him. Then she said she went to bad sex; we have ALL been in these situations; bad to good to bad again.
Not all sex can be good; love and caring has to be involved.

I think you misunderstood what it was I was saying here....

First off, I do believe that at least once in their life, women get taken advantage of. I think that some girls use it as a weapon too, almost like an attention thing, but that is a wholllllllllllllllle other subject.

The girlfriends that I have spoken with, say that they just don't like it. Whether it be because they find it gross, degrading or boring. THEY JUST DON'T LIKE IT. They don't even have to have a reason.

You may enjoy sex, but not all people do. That is your opinion, you are entitled to it.

I am not arguing anything other than there doesn't have to be a reason not to like it. Bottome line, a girl doesn't have to be raped just to find sex unenjoyable.

[LastWerd]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

thats not what i asked. i asked if he hated anything, such as food, drinks, colors....ect. i was trying to prove a point. did you read the rest of my post?

oops sorry. I realized that afterwards. I read through your post really quick.

[Pussy*Kat]

^ its ok hun

Originally Posted by MattyG

LoL. I understand what you're saying.... and hey! If some girls don't like sex, then that's their prerogative. I'm not trying to argue that. All I'm saying is that sex was designed by nature to feel good so we would continue to do it and procreate. We were all born with this. Unfortunately, sometimes life can teach us to not enjoy things we were meant to. It's called trauma.

It isn't necessarily trauma though, it can just be that they don't derive any pleasure from it.

Sex wasn't always meant for pleasure...

Case in point -

In some customs, when people used to get married, on their wedding night, the virgin wife would be prepared for her husband. She would lie on her bed and a sheet with one hole in the area of her groin would be placed over top. The husband would come and have sex with her, no pleasure for anyone but the husband, if that can even be called pleasure. It was only meant to consumate the marriage.

Or in Africa, where they do Female Circumcision. A process where they maim a females genitailia to keep them chaste.

[TrixX]

Originally Posted by Avana

Or in Africa, where they do Female Circumcision. A process where they maim a females genitailia to keep them chaste.

oh lord!!!!!!!!!


oh course people can not like sex. i think some of you are hung up on the whole orgasm factor. i bet they like to have an orgasm, but maybe the way its done or the effort leading up to it isn't worth it. they just don't like it period. i have a few friends like this. its just an opinion.

[Grapes]

Originally Posted by MattyG

True.

But why would something that felt so good like an orgasm be disgusting and degrating?

I think the cliche you're looking for is:

"How can it be wrong when it feels so right?"

[Chuck]

Humans are one of very few creatures on this planet that have sex for pleasure.

I think pigs and Dolphins join us in that strange diversion from a naturally predisposed instinct to reproduce.

With sentience came the ability to chose, and with natures ingrained survival tactics came the pleasure with sex. If it didnt feel good, why would anyone do it? We'd otherwise be bugs doing it for no real good reason like dogs humping chairs and peoples legs...simple programmed instinct. And with social development, morality and basic self awareness comes the need to be able to chose NOT to randomly reproduce withe every other person/thing you set your eyes upon. Yet with the ability to chose humans need a reason to WANT to copulate.



If you read back to my last post it ties in to this.

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

Sex is amazing..however not always.

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years..and because of some really tragic events in his life in the past three months..the sex seems to be lacking..stress maybe? I dont know.

I definately think sex is what you make it. If you are boring and uncreative..maybe you just lie there? Then the sex will suck. Seriously try new things and spice it up.

Sex with a stranger is the best sex EVER..not that I would know...

[miss.myra]

HATE IT