Ladies - do you like sex?

I meant to post this before, but never got around to it....

After speaking with several of my lady friends, I found out that some of them just don't like sex.

The general consensus that I get from them, is that it can be anything but enjoyable. Now, before every guy and their over-imagined penis comes in here and says, that these women haven't been with the right man. This isn't the case, so save it.

To some women, sex for them is a degrading and disgusting act. Men and porn are the result of this. Derogatory terms make them feel like it is a dirty act. Same with several key things men(and all men have done these things and they still seem to think it is a turn-on) seem to do in bed, also make it feel cheap and gross.

Others find it boring and just have no interest in it.

I know a few that find the act messy and sloppy and as such just don't like doing it.

I personally like it. To me, sex is like pizza, even if you have a bad pizza, it is still good.

[Pussy*Kat]

I wasnt a huge FAN of sex untill i met my ex......holy shit

and then after we broke up i was back to bad sex till the last person i slept with who made me love it again

needless to say i have only liked having sex with two ppl. every other time was just BLAH and i couldnt get into it......

with the right person i say sex is fucking amazing
but with the wrong person, i can be turned off of it for MONTHS

[Gusto]

This thread reminds me of a quote from Entourage:

Ari: I would love to show up but it's actually anal sex night at the Gold house. So, thank you for the invite but I'm going to go home and punish my wife.

[hardstylin]

Avana they just havent been pounded by the right dude yet :)

Originally Posted by hardstylin

Avana they just havent been pounded by the right dude yet :)

Please put your over-imagined penis away....kthx. :P

[C_squared]

I find that most women DO like sex... thet just have to be reminded that they do.

[Brittany*283]

hahaha i agree with pussy kat tho
with the right guy its awesome..
i also find the more you like someone, the better the sex

[Pussy*Kat]

I believe sex is all about chemistry. it could be great with somone and the the next person could suck. i believe that bevan had the right idea. cept without the love part. sex without chemitry SUCKS

I agree, that sex with someone you love is FANTASTIC....

But I think the point got lost.

I have friends, that are crazy in love with their men, and they HATE HATE HATE sex. I have friends that are married, that just don't do it cause they don't like sex.

It isn't so much about the love aspect, but the actual sex part.

[Pussy*Kat]

^ well wow, i feel sorry for them but i understand.

do they jsut not like the way it feels?

[Ashley*Dawn]

I've always loved sex....there are some people I've slept with that didn't quite do it for me but I found that person that I'm comfortable with and sex is always good.

[Disco_Whore]

Hmm, I've gone through periods of disliking sex...but not too often, and not all that much. Usually it's when I haven't really realised that there's something seriously wrong with the relationship, it's like my body knows it before my breain catches up and everything becomes a turn off.

[hardstylin]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

^ well wow, i feel sorry for them but i understand.

do they jsut not like the way it feels?

maybe there men are a tad under-imagined :)

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

^ well wow, i feel sorry for them but i understand.

do they jsut not like the way it feels?

Like I said, they find it several things but enjoyable.

Some find it degrading and derogatory. Others don't like the wetness and the messiness of it. Others just find actual sex boring, I think this is because they don't get off during sex but rather fore-play, and as such could take it or leave it.

As a woman, one of my pet peeves in bed, is when you are going at it, and you go to kiss your mans neck, and he is lightly pushing your head down. AS IF THAT IS GOING TO GET YOU HEAD BUDDY?!?!?!!?

^I think this is just the start of why women can find sex and fore-play degrading.

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by Avana

Like I said, they find it several things but enjoyable.

Some find it degrading and derogatory. Others don't like the wetness and the messiness of it. Others just find actual sex boring, I think this is because they don't get off during sex but rather fore-play, and as such could take it or leave it.

Hmmmm is this really the reason though? I bet you if one dug deeper that each of these girls would have a very different reason/life story.

You need to have an understanding if the woman has had any unfortunate events in there lifetime to have them hate sex -- date rape or rape itself, maybe an abusive upbringing or home environment as they grew up. There are soooo many different reasons that a girl could grow up having sex.

Originally Posted by Kraig

Hmmmm is this really the reason though? I bet you if one dug deeper that each of these girls would have a very different reason/life story.

You need to have an understanding if the woman has had any unfortunate events in there lifetime to have them hate sex -- date rape or rape itself, maybe an abusive upbringing or home environment as they grew up. There are soooo many different reasons that a girl could grow up having sex.

This is probably the most insensitive thing I will ever say on this board...but if I had a nickel for everytime I heard a girls rape story, I would be rich.

I agree, generally with women, there is some signifigance as to why they don't like sex. Whether it be rape, abuse or just plain someone taking advantage of them, there are still some out there that just.don't.like.sex.

Without saying too much, I have been a victim as well. But sexually, I consider myself pretty normal. I enjoy sex.

I am not an expert, but females talk, and Kraig, you know allllllllllll about the RIN. It is pretty easy to find out if there is a reason why they don't like it.

[.muffy.]

Originally Posted by Kraig

Hmmmm is this really the reason though? I bet you if one dug deeper that each of these girls would have a very different reason/life story.

You need to have an understanding if the woman has had any unfortunate events in there lifetime to have them hate sex -- date rape or rape itself, maybe an abusive upbringing or home environment as they grew up. There are soooo many different reasons that a girl could grow up having sex.

Kraig,

For someone such as yourself that has spent so much time in PR work, and to make said presumptions is insensitive and extremely uneducated.
Some of you guys dont seem to get it through your brains that it's not always about rape.

This post is in no way talking about my own personal sex life (which I have never felt neccessary to bring up onto public msg forums) but like Avana I do know many girls that really dont enjoy the psyhsical act of sex and it has NOTHING to do with being raped or having an abusive upbringing.

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by .muffy.

Kraig,

For someone such as yourself that has spent so much time in PR work, and to make said presumptions is insensitive and extremely uneducated.
Some of you guys dont seem to get it through your brains that it's not always about rape.

I wasn't presuming anything -- I said before giving Avana an opinion, I would need to understand the girls themselves, what truly they have against sex, the home life they grew up in (the examples they had around them) and ultimately any major life "challenges" as well - whatever those are.

Geesh! I used rape as an example.

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by Avana

I am not an expert, but females talk, and Kraig, you know allllllllllll about the RIN. It is pretty easy to find out if there is a reason why they don't like it.

Ahhh the RIN. HAHAHAHAH... it's funny to me now. It's almost like a weekly soap opera of other peoples opinions of who they really don't know. Quite entertaining actually.

And @ "it's pretty easy to find out if there is a reason why they don't like it."

Originally Posted by Kraig

I wasn't presuming anything -- I said before giving Avana an opinion, I would need to understand the girls themselves, what truly they have against sex, the home life they grew up in (the examples they had around them) and ultimately any major life "challenges" as well - whatever those are.

Geesh! I used rape as an example.

I see what you doing there Kraig, but a lot of women had perfectly normal upbringings and still don't like sex.

It sounds like you are saying that every woman can be pleased given the right situation. And that isn't necessarily the truth.

[Chuck]

Thank god all the chix i know are quite the opposite.



And you have no idea how much sadness i feel for these girls who DONT like it. hahaha.

Originally Posted by Kraig

Ahhh the RIN. HAHAHAHAH... it's funny to me now. It's almost like a weekly soap opera of other peoples opinions of who they really don't know. Quite entertaining actually.

And @ "it's pretty easy to find out if there is a reason why they don't like it."

The RIN is never a dull time.

All the girls I know and am friends with are very open. And for the ones who have stated they don't like sex, it isn't about their upbringing, they just don't like it.

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by Avana

It sounds like you are saying that every woman can be pleased given the right situation. And that isn't necessarily the truth.

Actually no... All I'm saying is that I want to understand the persons and their unique situations more.

And all women can be pleased in some way... it just doesn't have to be with just sex.

[Pussy*Kat]

Originally Posted by Kraig

Actually no... All I'm saying is that I want to understand the persons and their unique situations more.

And all women can be pleased in some way... it just doesn't have to be with just sex.

this is true, i am very pleased with cooked dinner or new shoes :)

Originally Posted by Kraig

Actually no... All I'm saying is that I want to understand the persons and their unique situations more.

And all women can be pleased in some way... it just doesn't have to be with just sex.

Exactley...my point....

They aren't pleased by sex, but they like other things right?

ps - the whole not liking the sex thing baffles me.