Ladies - do you like sex?

[Mo...]

whats sex?? i am a virgin....


























HAHAHA who am i kidding??!! fuck on!

[diva]

Originally Posted by Gusto

This thread reminds me of a quote from Entourage:

Ari: I would love to show up but it's actually anal sex night at the Gold house. So, thank you for the invite but I'm going to go home and punish my wife.

Season premier is on Sunday!

[Only_Glory]

Originally Posted by .muffy.

Kraig,

For someone such as yourself that has spent so much time in PR work, and to make said presumptions is insensitive and extremely uneducated.
Some of you guys dont seem to get it through your brains that it's not always about rape.

This post is in no way talking about my own personal sex life (which I have never felt neccessary to bring up onto public msg forums) but like Avana I do know many girls that really dont enjoy the psyhsical act of sex and it has NOTHING to do with being raped or having an abusive upbringing.

Your comment really gave me an urge to defend Kraig. Who are you to say his comments are insensitive, and EXTREMELY uneducated? Quite harsh – especially when there are instances that prove he is a 100% right.

Yes I am sure there are people that don’t like sex “just because”. But these people have a reason, everyone has a reason – Kraig simply said sometimes the reason could be previous sexual trauma, and yes it could. I don’t know how you can attack him for that.

Other reasons why women may not like sex, and this may be the same reasons men don’t like sex either include:

1) a weak libido
· if you don’t get turned on much, not much sex will be going your way

2) stress
· which may completely distract a person away from sex

3) insensitivity
· a woman may not get the same pleasure from sex lets say compared to her friend. This may be due to several reasons, from genetics to life style choices, either way – having an insensitive dick or vagina would push away a person from wanting sex.

4) Lack of creativity
· A person might be bored from sex because there is no creativity in the bedroom. Maybe the person or the partner likes doing everything routine or use old fashion procedures, such as lights off and blanket over top. Hell that would turn me off.

Many other reasons exists too, and yes previous sexual trauma is another. So please stop attacking males because you think they are “ignorant”. I think it’s kinda funny how women think men are dumbasses when it comes to debating a “female” topic.

[Only_Glory]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

its the act of sex, not the outcome, weather it be an orgasm or not. why can guys not accept the fact some girls dont like it? look at all the girls that posted. they all seem to accept the fact. and then you get the males who come into the conversation and are like "thats ubsurd, there is not way thats true, whats wrong with them?"

get over yourselves

it looks like you are talking out of your ass here just as much as any male here.
Sex may have a lot to do with orgasm, maybe not for all, but definitely for some. I am sure there are women there that love sex because they love orgasms out of it. And I am sure if some of those women did not receive orgasms all of a sudden, they would no longer like “the act of sex”. It’s logic, it’s probable, it is the truth.

[Pussy*Kat]

^ did you read what i said AT ALL....i said it didnt matter the outcome, orgasm or not..........

so you basically just repeated what i said in different way..........

[Only_Glory]

so you are saying....the outcome does not matter... right?

and i am saying... for some people, yes it matters.

[Lush]

I've grown to absolutely love sex, I mean I was always a fan but I think in the last 2-3 years I've really become comfortable with my body and learned what I like/enjoy and that in turn has completely enhanced my sex life.

I think there are three key factors when it comes to getting the most out of sex.
You need to reach a point where you become completely comfortable with your body - that will not only release your inhibitions it'll really help you be present which brings me to the second factor:
being completely in the moment - it's like enforced meditation you just have to lose yourself and be completely focused on you and your partners pleasure (or if you're not 'in love' your pleasure)
The third is being comfortable giving direction, I think a lot of girls shy away from guiding their partner in bed, I've really learned that being vocal and letting them know what you like helps you orgasm (I know this isn't crucial for everyone but it definitely is for me).

Anyways I feel like Dr. Sue Johanson here but that's what I've found helps, obviously there are other factors that could prevent you from really getting the most out of it.

[STORIE]

sex is only good when you meet someone who brings something different to the table.. if i had the same sex every day id get bored even if it was good.! but i need someone who meets me at my level and challenges me a little bit with my experience!
i like a guy who will fight for control in the bedroom but still lets me be in control! sounds fucked
but like kat said if theres no chemistry between the ppl no matter how expierenced they are the sex is no goood

[Goat]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

^^ again i think your missing the point of this thread


the girls dont like sex because its degrating, sexist, ect.....

it doesnt matter if they can get off or not
maybe they can get off through fore play. and love it.....

Sex is degrading and sexist? Are you on glue? People have been having sex since the beginning of time. Someone explain to me how sex is sexist??

Avana they just havent been pounded by the right dude yet

He's right.

[galaxie]

Avana, when we had this conversation you know what my vote would have been.

However, what some of the ladies said about the "right man" is so true. So, I now fall into a new category: "I like loving, passionate sex with the amazing man who loves me" :)

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by hardstylin

Avana they just havent been pounded by the right dude yet :)

This is the problem right here.

We don't want to be "pounded". We want to be cared for, loved, and we want a man who RESPECTS us. My man does. He would NEVER say anything like that. THAT makes him sexy.

[hardstylin]

Originally Posted by galaxie

We don't want to be "pounded".
My man does. He would NEVER say anything like that.

hahahaha



P.S i more or less said that to be a clown :)

[dj_soo]

i've gathered from this thread that a lot of you don't know how to spell "degrading"

[Gusto]

^ haha, the way you cut that quote makes her man look kinda... needy.

edit: for hardstylin

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by hardstylin

hahahaha



P.S i more or less said that to be a clown :)

LOL

FU!

[peanutmandi]

i dun understand how someone could HATE sex... i mean.. we're all raised to believe and consider sex a bad thing, a sin unless married.. but why is something that feels so good and in the end creates new life, so bad?
stupid church n their controlling people.. haha. sex is good.. i mean AMAZING... babies having babies is bad,...
but guys, u best knwo what ur doin! lmao gotta hit the right spot

[Ree Fresh]

I have ALOT reasons to believe and understand why someone would not like sex. Untill I was about 15-16 sex didnt intrest me at all and I was scared and very nervouse. Im sure there are ppl who never get over this in their adult hood.

For the first 2 years of being sexualy active... sex HURT! Infact I never understood when I had my first real orgazim why it hurt so bloody much!?!

Birth control and diet can drasticly change a girls sex drive to nill.

Some ppl dont understand that I once went 9 months with out any sexual pleaser... face it I had better things to do in my life and it hardly ever crossed my mind :p

Some guys are very pushy, rude, and dirty. Any of these 3 things can easly turn a girl right off!

Ive never been in a real scary situation to do with sexual asult, but ive heard stroies and seen scenes of it on tv... not only does it break my heart, but it can be very discuraging if the thought pops into mind during/before sex.

Last but not least... kraig has a point that yes being an actual victom of sexual asult or rape could be a discurage ment. However from rape victoms ive met seemed to move on fine into relationships once they got over it.

Nat I couldnt agree more. Loving passioate sex is amazing... I wouldnt settle for anything less. I think everyone has diffrent taste when it comes to sex. And if you push or ask for something there not into it makes them un comfortable and less enjoyable.

[galaxie]

^ karma x 193487230850283450295

[Ree Fresh]

^ :P Seriously if guys only knew how long it takes for us to get into it. But alot of them dont TAKE THE TIME and rush into it... eh a waste of time.

Another point... if your not aroused, horny, or into it... sex is very grose, messy, and stinky.

I dont understand how ppl cant understand that its possible to hate sex.

[Revolver]

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

Another point... if your not aroused, horny, or into it... sex is very grose, messy, and stinky.

lol...that made me laugh.

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

^ :P Seriously if guys only knew how long it takes for us to get into it. But alot of them dont TAKE THE TIME and rush into it... eh a waste of time.

Another point... if your not aroused, horny, or into it... sex is very grose, messy, and stinky.

I dont understand how ppl cant understand that its possible to hate sex.

I totally agree with you! (and good pts above!)

And I am honestly getting a kick out of all the GUYS who don't think it's possible for girls to not like sex. Of course it's impossible for guys to understand because their whole part of the sexual experience, even when they are starting to become sexually active is soo different. Rhia is so on because even for years it can be a painful experience for girls. Correct me if I'm wrong but even if a guy is taking it up the ass, sex isn't really painful for guys.

I've really only recently began to enjoy sex much more than everything that leads up to it. Part of the problem is all you guys out there that think you're the shit, you think your skills are so great and you never try to ask a girl what she likes or try new things. I'm sure every girl can think of a guy who has all talked like he was the shit and severely disappointed. :P

[galaxie]

^ Agreed 100%

The best is when he listens to what you are saying, pays attention to your reactions, and is GENTLE - I don't mean that it has to be slow, I mean that he needs to realize that you are a person with feelings (emotional and physical) and that you need to be treated as one, not as an object!

[cutienikki]

like the ladies in this thread have said: GENTLE!

this isn't a race to see who can cum first or the most! acutally i heard some women would rather have the romantic, gentle, passionate sex or even foreplay without having an orgasm!

I love sex, however if the foreplay is awesome and its orgasmic itself, id rather stop and savour the moment than having sex and trying to "cum" by getting "nailed"

ei. the kissing stuff in the "whos not getting laid thing" soft passionate romantic kisses insted of the tounge down the throat, face eating whatever you want to call it...(i dont even think u can call that a kiss really) lol

[STORIE]

im sorry but i like some roughness wiht my sex

[cutienikki]

Originally Posted by STORIE

im sorry but i like some roughness wiht my sex

oh me too however too rough can be too much at times...for me i like various...sometimes i like it soft then rough...

however i find that guys tend to "rush" it u know what i mean...sometimes they skip the foreplay or just do it a little