Girls! Stop wasting your darn time!!

[Gusto]

maybe you're taking it out of context? i don't see what the going home from the bar thing has to do with this at all. we're not talking about promiscuity or people not calling, we're talking about girls being uncomfortable when their boyfriends hang out with other girls, and how their boyfriends react to that.

Originally Posted by Gusto

maybe you're taking it out of context? i don't see what the going home from the bar thing has to do with this at all. we're not talking about promiscuity or people not calling, we're talking about girls being uncomfortable when their boyfriends hang out with other girls, and how their boyfriends react to that.

I am not taking it out of context, I was using it as an example.

I had an ex that used to love the net. He constantly had girls sending him naked pictures, pictures which I found. I was stunned to say the least. I asked him to stop, as it was still being unfaithful.

He didn't, I left. Simple.

If my sig other, is unwilling to make it clear to someone else, that he is not available. Then that is disrespectful to me and to the commitment we have.

Friends are one thing. Girls who throw themselves at your man, another.

[Gusto]

your clarification makes plenty of sense, but i guess i just don't see what your previous example had to do with anything.

Originally Posted by Gusto

your clarification makes plenty of sense, but i guess i just don't see what your previous example had to do with anything.

you know, saying "i'm wrong, sorry avana" would have taken less typing.

:p

[Gusto]

umm, no, i think you'll be hard pressed finding someone else who knows what the hell you're talking about too.

[Alex]

^ totally agree with you. I have no clue what her first comments had to do with the subject at hand.

Self-respect.

Girls that stay with the jerks, lack the esteem to up and leave, cause they think they might not do better. Same as the girl who goes home from the bar with a guy cause she thinks it will make her love them.

[Gusto]

okay, i guess i can kind of see what you're getting at now, even if it's a bit of a tangent. i mean there are plenty of reasons a girl could leave or not leave a guy, but this post seemed to be discussing one in particular: guys who hang out with other girls, and make their girlfriends uncomfortable by doing so.

Originally Posted by Gusto

okay, i guess i can kind of see what you're getting at now, even if it's a bit of a tangent. i mean there are plenty of reasons a girl could leave or not leave a guy, but this post seemed to be discussing one in particular: guys who hang out with other girls, and make their girlfriends uncomfortable by doing so.

Have you never had a girlfriend, that had a guy friend, that made you uncomfortable when they hung out?

[Gusto]

no, i haven't.

edit: actually, yeah one, she cheated on me and we broke up.

Originally Posted by Gusto

no, i haven't.

edit: actually, yeah one, she cheated on me and we broke up.

K
So hypothetically speaking, if you knew in advance, through actions by him, that he was into your girl, and made no bones about hitting on her in front of you, and you had the chance to stop it, would you?

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by Avana

K
So hypothetically speaking, if you knew in advance, through actions by him, that he was into your girl, and made no bones about hitting on her in front of you, and you had the chance to stop it, would you?

i'd never met the guy, but i did know in advance that he was into her. if she was going to cheat on me, she was going to cheat on me. i wasn't about to tell her she couldn't see him. so i put her trust on the line and she betrayed it, and because of that we're not together. regardless, the original post was entirely a generalization, we weren't given any background information like that.

[robyn]

Originally Posted by Avana

K
So hypothetically speaking, if you knew in advance, through actions by him, that he was into your girl, and made no bones about hitting on her in front of you, and you had the chance to stop it, would you?

why would you want to be with someone who you had to 'stop' from cheating on you? which ps is impossible.

Originally Posted by robyn

why would you want to be with someone who you had to 'stop' from cheating on you? which ps is impossible.

I wouldn't.

I agree, if they are going to cheat, they are going to cheat. But a relationship is a compromise, and if something made me uncomfortable, I would ask my sig other to compromise with me. If they weren't willing to, then I would re-evaluate the situation I was in, and the size of the compromise.

I see where Christy is coming from. You can only listen to people complain about one thing that is so blatantly stupid before you get an eye twitch.

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by Avana

But a relationship is a compromise, and if something made me uncomfortable, I would ask my sig other to compromise with me.

word, that makes total sense and i agree. but "if you see this person again, i will break up with you" is not a compromise, it's an ultimatum. something like, "can i be there next time you hang out?" is.

[miSsy_chriSsy]

If you're unhappy, then end it! plain and simple.

[miSsy_chriSsy]

Originally Posted by Gusto

word, that makes total sense and i agree. but "if you see this person again, i will break up with you" is not a compromise, it's an ultimatum. something like, "can i be there next time you hang out?" is.

It's wierd when you're not asked, at all, to hang out with both of them together.

That's when the bells usually go off. Personally.

[Gusto]

haha totally. but then i have a feeling that in the relationships you're posting about, there's probably a good reason one person doesn't trust the other.

[baby-phat]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

If you're unhappy, then end it! plain and simple.

True dat! There's too many people in unhappy relationships nowadays. :( But I do understand why some people stay in them, as I was in one myself a few years back. I stayed cuz I was afraid to be out of my comfort zone, but once I realized that I stood up for myself and ended it. :)

[tiedye]

Girls! Stop wasting our damn time!!

If you're clingy, insecure, and can't trust us.. let us know right away. That way, we can fix the problem right away and get rid of you.

I feel sorry for the schmuck that lets a girl get inbetween him and his friends, regardless of gender. We are allowed to go out with other girls and have a good time, so long as we stay faithful. If you can't trust the guy you're with.. then why the hell are you with him?

[Liqwid]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

i guess i just dont care to take crap from anyone.

either do i, and good for you!

[robyn]

shitty people, stop dating!

[miSsy_chriSsy]

ah that makes 3 bad karma boxes all from guys.
and 5 good karma boxes all from girls.

lolol <3

[Grapes]

if she was going to cheat on me, she was going to cheat on me.

I'm with Gusto. If a person is going to cheat, then there's no sense in trying to put some kind of collar on them, because you're just going to want to let that person go anyways.

Look, give your significant other the benefit of the doubt and trust them. Trust them to hang out with pretty much anyone they want to. Now let's look at the possible scenarios:

1) They cheat. You find out (because it always comes out in the wash sooner or later). Now you basically have the complete moral high ground, because you trusted them. And, you found out sooner rather than later that they're not worth your time. Not a happy ending, but as good as you could do in the circumstances.

2) They don't cheat. Hey, good thing you trusted them!.. as opposed to stalking/prying/chaining them to a post.

[Grapes]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

ah that makes 3 bad karma boxes all from guys.
and 5 good karma boxes all from girls.

lolol <3

I'd love to see the average age of those respective groups.