Girls! Stop wasting your darn time!!

[miSsy_chriSsy]

*ducks to avoid the poop flying*

[miss.myra]

holy shit go to sophie's and check out their waffles for real, i had them last sunday and I'm still on some kind of waffle induced high from them.

[decypher]

where is this sophies place? I'm hungrey.

[joce]

guys get just as insecure as we do! i actually just had this problem and have lost a friend who i held pretty dear becoause of it. funny thing was though, he had a way better idea of the guy than i did. if you get a wierd feeling be it guys or girls watch out. if your boy/girl cares they'll voice their opinion. chances are you'll look like the twit later on for bothering to fight it out ;)

[miSsy_chriSsy]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

holy shit go to sophie's and check out their waffles for real, i had them last sunday and I'm still on some kind of waffle induced high from them.

omg where the heck is sophie's??

[miss.myra]

W4th and Arbutus, it's an EXCELLENT spot for breakfast, their bennies are good, so is their french toast.

[Tea]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

I kinda disagree.

I think that some girls are just insecure for whatever reason and can often make mountains out of molehills (I've been soo guilty of that in the past!)

I think the more of an issue a girl will make out of something and the more confrontational a girl is constantly about it, the less likely a guy is going to be open and honest about hanging out with female friends in the future because he doesn't want to catch heat.

If a guy is insecure towards his gf about her male friends, all of us would think that guy was an asshole, posessive, etc. If this situation was reversed to put a guy in the girl's shoes, nobody would be cool with that. It's quite a double standard.

The bottom line again is trust. Just because someone's friends are crossing some boundaries in someone's opinion, the actual actions of your partner are dependant on them and them only.

Honestly, i agree with what Chrissy is saying but sometimes it is paranoid, overtly jelouse, insecure girls who make themselves worry over NOTHING. Honestly, a women should know what she has going on and remain the strong front because she can cause a lot of akwardness from trying to protect her man from you. Thinking women are no good and man stealing when really that is not the case. If you are secure in yourself and trust that your man is with you for a REASON then there is no need for the paranoia. Shows how much you trust your man too if have to bring out the protective guns.
You'd be suprised how much catty girl protection i've witness or female hating i've listend to when MEN cheat. Girls are against girls far too often...i've never been a girl hater and i dont plan to start. Personally, if anything i've always been quite the opposite and admire those who can recognize other girls strengths oppose to being threaten by them.

(i know this thread has carried on from this i just saw it now and wanted to reply to this, double standards are everywhere)

[Jen-E-03]

"I just had a fight with my boyfriend about another girl...."
"He said he had plans with so-and-so and said he would call me tomorrow..." "He said that he was going _______ with so-and-so and he didn't bother asking me..."
Story of my life...just replace all the he's with She, boyfriend with girlfriend and girl with boy. Seems to be what I'm fighting with her about right now :(

[~*tct*~]

I read that book :)

[Miche Me]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

If you EVER find yourself repeating these sentences with tears in your eyes to your friends:

"I just had a fight with my boyfriend about another girl...."
"He said he had plans with so-and-so and said he would call me tomorrow..." "He said that he was going _______ with so-and-so and he didn't bother asking me..."

Okay.

First thing: If he insists on hanging out with another girl over you, WHY are you still dating him?????

Second thing: If you have to CONSTANTLY FIGHT with him over the fact you are even REMOTELY UNCOMFORTABLE with him hanging out with a particular girl/girls, HE WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU.

Third thing: IF HE REALLY DOESN'T GET IT. HE NEVER EVER WILL.

This will 99.9% of the time escalate to him:

a) SEEING THIS GIRL BEHIND YOUR BACK (even if it's just as a friend - THIS IS JUST AS BAD.) (This could include msn convos, PM's, myspace messages, text messages, or anything wierd to do with not using the damn phone, and THAT is just creepy.)

b) HE WILL LEARN TO BE SNEAKY. So you will just AVOID a fight alltogether when he feels the need to go hang around with other girls. This is just as bad as cheating!!!!!!

So please. Girls. If you have to continually argue with him over YOUR DISCOMFORT around another woman or feel uncomfortable knowing he is hanging around with someone else, or WHATEVER it is: DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME.

Plain and simple. Whether or not he cheated, He's just not that into you.

A real man makes you the apple of his eye, the CORE of his WORLD. He makes you feel like the most important thing to him is YOU.

YES: There are men out there who will love you, and make you feel loved.

Please, stop wasting your breath and emotions over feeling like shit all the time. YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS.


That is all.
Thanks.
xo

I like You!!:)

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Gusto

i'd be uncomfortable if a girl asked me to give up my friends instead of trying to deal with her own problems. where's my respect?

There are some sacrifices you have to make.
I know my bf wouldn't feel comfortable with me hanging out alone with other guys that are not already my close friends. It's just a comfort thing. Then again, he does live on the other corner of the continent so it's not like he really has the option of coming along or even meeting the guy.

[galaxie]

Anyway, I totally agree with Chrissy's post.

From my own personal experience, if it's right, you will trust him 100%, and vice-versa. I have been in relationships where I was constantly worrying, wondering what he was up to, who he was with, if he was lying, etc.. It was because I had caught him lying in the past, and because (honestly) we didn't have a very healthy relationship. We didn't necessarily want the same things for our future, and I didn't feel like he was 100% committed so I was always worried if he would stray. It's not a good feeling. I felt like I was a crazy, jealous nutcase! But really, I was just with the totally wrong person. Hindsight is 20/20

Now, I'm in a relationship where we both trust each other implicitly. Never having to wonder where he is, who he's with, what he's doing, what our future plans are, if he will call, etc. feels absolutely amazing :)

Then again, I'm definitely glad I went through all the crappy, dramatic relationships I did because I am so much more thankful and appreciate my man so much more than I would otherwise.

[kiMMie]

I think people should just go with their gut instinct. Normally one's instinct is a hint to oneself that something, or in this case, someone is not right. It's like one of those flashing yellow road signs that warns caution. Some people avoid it, and others (who carry a bit more bravery and thicker skin) attempt to plow forward and make it work.

Both attempts have an end result. Unfortunately, you can only control one segment of the equation - you.

As for the original post by Missy:

As annoying as some conversations with friends can be, and often advice is repeated over and over and over again, and sometimes, some advice can boomerang and hit you in the face. I think friendship is a tolerance and acceptance of many things. Unfortunately, if you vow to be someone's friend, you gotta listen to their bitch, moan, and woes without prejuidice.

From my experience... some girls get it, and some don't. You can tell them until you're blue in the face, but it's whether they want to listen and accept it is the real challenge.