Girls! Stop wasting your darn time!!

[miSsy_chriSsy]

If you EVER find yourself repeating these sentences with tears in your eyes to your friends:

"I just had a fight with my boyfriend about another girl...."
"He said he had plans with so-and-so and said he would call me tomorrow..." "He said that he was going _______ with so-and-so and he didn't bother asking me..."

Okay.

First thing: If he insists on hanging out with another girl over you, WHY are you still dating him?????

Second thing: If you have to CONSTANTLY FIGHT with him over the fact you are even REMOTELY UNCOMFORTABLE with him hanging out with a particular girl/girls, HE WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU.

Third thing: IF HE REALLY DOESN'T GET IT. HE NEVER EVER WILL.

This will 99.9% of the time escalate to him:

a) SEEING THIS GIRL BEHIND YOUR BACK (even if it's just as a friend - THIS IS JUST AS BAD.) (This could include msn convos, PM's, myspace messages, text messages, or anything wierd to do with not using the damn phone, and THAT is just creepy.)

b) HE WILL LEARN TO BE SNEAKY. So you will just AVOID a fight alltogether when he feels the need to go hang around with other girls. This is just as bad as cheating!!!!!!

So please. Girls. If you have to continually argue with him over YOUR DISCOMFORT around another woman or feel uncomfortable knowing he is hanging around with someone else, or WHATEVER it is: DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME.

Plain and simple. Whether or not he cheated, He's just not that into you.

A real man makes you the apple of his eye, the CORE of his WORLD. He makes you feel like the most important thing to him is YOU.

YES: There are men out there who will love you, and make you feel loved.

Please, stop wasting your breath and emotions over feeling like shit all the time. YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS.


That is all.
Thanks.
xo

But Chrissy, we slept together last night after he bought me drinks all night at the club....

Why doesn't he want to be my boyfriend? :(

[anewlife]

Originally Posted by Avana

But Chrissy, we slept together last night after he bought me drinks all night at the club....

Why doesn't he want to be my boyfriend? :(

I seriously hope that you are kidding.

[Gusto]

it's men's fault that some women are insecure?

Originally Posted by stokedfish

I seriously hope that you are kidding.

No, he even said that he could totally see us together forever.

[decypher]

Some of my bestfriends are girls. I think it's unreasonable for someone to expect i'd never to see them again or even talk to them on msn lol wtf.

If you trust him, you trust him. If you don't, you don't.

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

Second thing: If you have to CONSTANTLY FIGHT with him over the fact you are even REMOTELY UNCOMFORTABLE with him hanging out with a particular girl/girls, HE WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU.

i'd be uncomfortable if a girl asked me to give up my friends instead of trying to deal with her own problems. where's my respect?

[tee&eh]

haha totallyy agree with everyyyything u said!!!!!

[dabbler]

Originally Posted by decypher

If you trust him, you trust him. If you don't, you don't.

[miSsy_chriSsy]

im not saying your boyfriend can't have girl friends... i'm just saying when he's hanging out with the ones that you clearly get a wierd feeling off of, ie- you think she has feelings for him or whatnot, and you've expressed your concerns - it's disrespectful if he continues with it behind your back, or doesn't take your feelings into consideration.

because we all know the most annoying thing in this world is some chick who totally has a thing for your boyfriend, constantly phoning him/messaging him/chasing him around everywhere or making plans to hang out with him all the time.

I'm super lucky for having a wicked boyfriend who would never put me in that position :)

[miSsy_chriSsy]

lol a bunch of people messaged me to ask if i'm okay - this has nothing to do with me :P

It just makes me upset when friends don't think they can do better than that :(

[MissMarz]

awwww hugs chrissy!
it'll be ok


hahah.. jk

[mojo]

Originally Posted by Gusto

i'd be uncomfortable if a girl asked me to give up my friends instead of trying to deal with her own problems. where's my respect?

aMen!



Men! if you are with a women and have done nothing to lose her trust and she still doesn't trust you, CUT THE BASKETCASE LOOSE WHILE YOU STILL CAN!

[miss.myra]

I kinda disagree.

I think that some girls are just insecure for whatever reason and can often make mountains out of molehills (I've been soo guilty of that in the past!)

I think the more of an issue a girl will make out of something and the more confrontational a girl is constantly about it, the less likely a guy is going to be open and honest about hanging out with female friends in the future because he doesn't want to catch heat.

If a guy is insecure towards his gf about her male friends, all of us would think that guy was an asshole, posessive, etc. If this situation was reversed to put a guy in the girl's shoes, nobody would be cool with that. It's quite a double standard.

The bottom line again is trust. Just because someone's friends are crossing some boundaries in someone's opinion, the actual actions of your partner are dependant on them and them only.

[Euro Dollar]

Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

If you EVER find yourself repeating these sentences with tears in your eyes to your friends:

"I just had a fight with my boyfriend about another girl...."
"He said he had plans with so-and-so and said he would call me tomorrow..." "He said that he was going _______ with so-and-so and he didn't bother asking me..."

Okay.

First thing: If he insists on hanging out with another girl over you, WHY are you still dating him?????

Second thing: If you have to CONSTANTLY FIGHT with him over the fact you are even REMOTELY UNCOMFORTABLE with him hanging out with a particular girl/girls, HE WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU.

Third thing: IF HE REALLY DOESN'T GET IT. HE NEVER EVER WILL.

This will 99.9% of the time escalate to him:

a) SEEING THIS GIRL BEHIND YOUR BACK (even if it's just as a friend - THIS IS JUST AS BAD.) (This could include msn convos, PM's, myspace messages, text messages, or anything wierd to do with not using the damn phone, and THAT is just creepy.)

b) HE WILL LEARN TO BE SNEAKY. So you will just AVOID a fight alltogether when he feels the need to go hang around with other girls. This is just as bad as cheating!!!!!!

So please. Girls. If you have to continually argue with him over YOUR DISCOMFORT around another woman or feel uncomfortable knowing he is hanging around with someone else, or WHATEVER it is: DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME.

Plain and simple. Whether or not he cheated, He's just not that into you.

A real man makes you the apple of his eye, the CORE of his WORLD. He makes you feel like the most important thing to him is YOU.

YES: There are men out there who will love you, and make you feel loved.

Please, stop wasting your breath and emotions over feeling like shit all the time. YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS.


That is all.
Thanks.
xo

ask your friends if they ever tried the trust thing... works for some people.

[TrixX]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

I kinda disagree.

I think that some girls are just insecure for whatever reason and can often make mountains out of molehills (I've been soo guilty of that in the past!)

I think the more of an issue a girl will make out of something and the more confrontational a girl is constantly about it, the less likely a guy is going to be open and honest about hanging out with female friends in the future because he doesn't want to catch heat.

If a guy is insecure towards his gf about her male friends, all of us would think that guy was an asshole, posessive, etc. If this situation was reversed to put a guy in the girl's shoes, nobody would be cool with that. It's quite a double standard.

The bottom line again is trust. Just because someone's friends are crossing some boundaries in someone's opinion, the actual actions of your partner are dependant on them and them only.

QFT!!!!!

but if he's willing to give that friend up to make her happy and that truely in the end makes him happy, all the power to them. every relationship works diferently!

if its a friend the other person wants to keep around on the other hand and disregarding their own feelings in the situation the relationship is unhealthy. it won't be the first time something like this happens.

[Alex]

^ I've given out too much karma. But I agree 100%. it goes both ways, if a girls jealous boy friend can't stand her hanging out with guy friends... Seriously some people are so insecure it makes me sick. If you ignore this problem, it will escalate. One of my best friends in particular, his gf is a raging psyco. She freaks out all the time and he's the asshole for makingher 'uncomfortable'. For christ sake he's not even allowed to look at a Maxim magazine. He was forbidden to hang out with other girls way back(he still does as a fuck you to her but has to sneak around. he doesn't cheat but has girls that are friends. this is natural) and it's at the point now that his psyco girlfriend won't even condone him hanging out with his two bets friends.. Allan and I, because we are 'bad influences' due to the fact we party and hang out with many different females, not just 1 psyco long termer.

So basically, sticking to your post my friends gf should dump him, and my friend is the asshole. SImply because she isn't 100% of his life(she's still most of it). I think that reasoning is sick in the head, completely insecure and un reasonable. If you honestly believe this, and this goes for any girl; get a shrink. Maybe go to the gym, or do something to raise your confidence, because all you are going to do with your demands, jealousy, and insecurity is force your boy friend(or girl friend if the role is reversed) away.

[dj_soo]

^ your buddy should dump that girl.

seriously - why do people stay in relationships like that?

[TrixX]

Originally Posted by dj_soo

^ your buddy should dump that girl.

seriously - why do people stay in relationships like that?

it makes me sad that people have to deal with those psycho's! your boyfriend meeting some new chick may be different. but don't put your own insecurities about an old friend on his plate, that makes your character negetive and weak. not to mention you could be COMPLETELY wrong!

[dj_soo]

if someone has to do *anything* as a "fuck you" to their significant other then they shouldn't be in that relationship to begin with.

[Alex]

^I know he should. All of his friends know he should... He thinks he can get things back to the way they used to be I think(she didn't used to be like this). I know he loves her but it's become rediculous. They've been together well over 3 years, and she's been getting worse and worse(basically over the last year it's started to get like this)

[Liqwid]

theres no one way for a relation ship to work....

its different for every two ppl...or three ppl....i know the guys who are all in one relationship...and they are happy.

but i think your friend/s has some issuse of her own.

[miSsy_chriSsy]

^ true. i guess relationships work completely different in so many circumstances.

it's more so a general observation. i guess i just dont care to take crap from anyone.

I think some of you have taken Christy's post out of context.

How many times do I hear from a girl the exact joke that I just made? "I went home from the bar with this guy, and he never called."

Same goes with relationships. Guys are just as guilty for doing it to.

If a girl isn't going to carry herself with respect then why should any guy respect her.

[miSsy_chriSsy]

I got 2 bad karmas telling me to shut up!

hahahahah <3