Thoughts on this one?

[galaxie]

So, friends of mine recently got married because she's prego. Personally, I wouldn't get married just because I got pregnant...why make things a bigger mess than they have to be? But, it seems like a lot of people think this is the "right thing to do". Thoughts?

[Courtney]

yeah thats stupid.
two of my friends have babies and thank god they didnt get married
would have made it so much more complicated

[Courtney]

it might be pressure from the fam/ religion

[stephen_c]

shackle on the ball and chain.
u do the crime, u do the time.
next!

[robyn]

no way, marriage is punishment for shoplifting in some countries.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Courtney

it might be pressure from the fam/ religion

in their situation, not religion, but possibly their families.

[Revolver]

im struggling with this right now

[Courtney]

i think getting married because its what you "should do" is such a bad idea....
if you werent married before the pregnancy you obviously weren't ever going to be or weren't ready..if its meant to happen it will but I think marriage should be a natural thing, not a forced thing. Regardless of marriage, a baby is being born and I think thats the most important thing during pregnancy, and that is what should be focused on. If down the road marriage seems like what both people involved want to take part in, then so be it. But I don't think a baby should have anything to do with the act, because if a baby is a reason for marriage, the marriage is clearly not about love.

[Disco_Whore]

Tough call, it really depends on the situation!

If marriage is the path that the couple was already leading down in the first place, then there doesn't seem to be much harm in it.

BUT that being said, why do they have to get married right away? They could still wait a few years after the child is born to know it's what they both want.

[impure]

i think growing up in a home held together purely for the kids would make that an unhappy home.
that should make the decision clear.

[cinist]

I didnt realize people still did that. What I think is worse is girls who get pregnant in an effort to keep/trap their looser bf's.

[miss.myra]

honestly, there are a lot stupider reasons out there that people move waaaaaay too fast with relationships and rush into getting married, but i can't say i'd get married just because i got preggo.

I was a bastard, and I don't think I'd have too much of a problem with my potential spawn being one either :P

[rawb]

WHY TELL SOMEONE YOU LOVE THEM WHEN YOU CAN JUST MAKE OUT AND HAVE SEX AND STUFF? YOU PEOPLE ARE IDIOTS COMPLICATING THINGS l

[stephen_c]

Shotgun wedding - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

it's loaded.

[crookedking]

better to live a Life of depression than to sire a bastard.

[ebbomega]

I just heard about an old coworker who hooked up with this random, got the "i'm on the pill" speech, next day all of a sudden she's preggo and claiming he's the father, dude gets coerced into marriage (including prenup), now he's locked into a kid that pretty damn likely ain't his.

This is mild comparatively.

[rawb]

EASIER TO BANG OUT AN AWKWARD REUNION IN 18 YEARS THAN LIVE WITH A FAT CHICK FOR 9 MONTHS IMO l

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by rawb

EASIER TO BANG OUT AN AWKWARD REUNION IN 18 YEARS THAN LIVE WITH A FAT CHICK FOR 9 MONTHS IMO l

Rawb's got bastards in 10 different postal codes.

[kir mokum]

you forgot the "marriage is for people without brains" option.

[Grapes]

Let me make something perfectly clear:

THIS = PREGO:



From this point forward, any time ANYONE uses the words "prego" or "preggo", I will assume you are talking about a zesty pasta sauce, and will respond in kind.

If you need a jazzy term for it, follow Judd Apatow's lead and say she got knocked up.

[stephen_c]

Originally Posted by Grapes

Let me make something perfectly clear:

THIS = PREGO:



From this point forward, any time ANYONE uses the words "prego" or "preggo", I will assume you are talking about a zesty pasta sauce, and will respond in kind.

If you need a jazzy term for it, follow Judd Apatow's lead and say she got knocked up.

watch discovery channel.

lots of prego sauce everywhere when women un-prego babies.

like the jar label says, it's "100% natural".

[Bitchin]

all marriage gets you is a peice of paper and maybe a name change...

nah.. i dont need that to prove imma be with someone, kid or no kid

[ebbomega]

You forgot "joined bank account". Cuz that's legally all it is.

When did it suddenly become stupid to get married? I've seen plenty of marriages that worked. Just because a lot of them don't doesn't mean that it's necessarily a bad choice. Granted, in this situation, I can see the disdain, but, um....

you forgot the "marriage is for people without brains" option.

srsly? My parents thank you for your input but they've been going just fine for 32 years. Two kids out of the house and everything. And they're hardly whom I would consider people without brains.

[kir mokum]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

srsly? My parents thank you for your input but they've been going just fine for 32 years. Two kids out of the house and everything. And they're hardly whom I would consider people without brains.

that totally proves me wrong!

When did it suddenly become stupid to get married?

when dowries stopped being so awesome.


people who argue for marriage are completely deluded and/or brainwashed about what it is. marriage is and has always been a legal contract for the acquisition of wealth and power and the control of women. the sad thing is that our culture bombards women into thinking they need marriage from birth and most of them can't even start explain why they want to. mostly due to there not being a good reason to get married (other than acquisition of wealth and/or power and guaranteed-ish sex).

...oh, citizenship. that's a pretty good reason.

as for your parents and most marriages that work, they'd probably be together regardless of if they were married or not. think about it: you can have all the good things perceived to be exclusively associated with marriage without marriage so why bind yourself in a legal agreement and bog yourself down with the bullshit that IS exclusive to marriage when you can have all the good with none of the bad?

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by kir mokum

you can have all the good things perceived to be exclusively associated with marriage without marriage

UM NO MARRIAGE = NO ENGAGEMENT RING

I want my rock, ok.